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Jessica816 · 10th Nov 2011, 09:58 PM

I'm going to start this off with the biggest thing that's happened to me this year..I came out to my friends and family as a lesbian..Now this might not seem like a big deal in this day and age. So let me give you a little back story. I'm 22 years old and have always been with guys. So to say when I came out was a shock to the people around me is a huge understatement. Hell I was shocked myself, only because it was something that I had ignored for so many years. It took me meeting a woman who I fell head over heals for to accept that I am a lesbian. I could no longer say it was just a simple "girl crush" , nope I was a full blow lesbian. My world seemed to come crashing down. There was no way that I was gay, it just wasn't possible. Oh boy I was so very wrong. I struggled with this big "secret" kept it to myself, made sure to not let anyone know. What would my friends think of me? My family? They only knew me as "straight", how would they all handle this???* How would I begin to explain to my loved ones that I was gay?? How was I going to explain this to everyone? How could I explain something I almost didn't understand myself?? To make a long story short my bestfriend made my life so much easier. She was the first person to love me no matter what, I guess it helped that she is also gay. So she could understand a part of me that I couldn't understand myself. I started loving who I was, realizing that being gay wasn't the end of the world. It's actually kinda amazing. I went to my very first Gay pride this past June and seen so many amazing people who are so comfortable in there own skin. I hope to one day be that comfortable with who I am.

Hidinginalabama · 11th Nov 2011, 07:15 AM

Congrats I got to say that what u did is awesome. I know how it is to tell ur family and it feels great to be out to them.

Chouchou · 11th Nov 2011, 08:26 AM

Being gay absolutely isn't the end of the world. I take that back--it is the end of an illusory world in which one pretends or hides, and the beginning of a new, colorful, real world in which one lives true to oneself and sees how beautiful it is.

RaeofLite · 11th Nov 2011, 09:20 AM

I know how you feel. When I realized it myself, I got very anxious. I started coming out bit by bit to close friends I could trust. They made me feel accepted.

Congrats! Isn't it a relief to be yourself and be accepted for it?

Jessica816 · 11th Nov 2011, 10:01 AM

Thanks you Hidinginalabama, like I said it wasn't the easiest thing I've ever done but it was by far the best thing I've ever done. It's been very much a roller coaster experience, yet I wouldn't change anything about it.......... Chouchou, it took me awhile to realize that being gay wasn't the end of the world, nor was it the most important part of who I was. I've learned this year that being gay is amazing but its not the most important part of who I am.

. RaeofLite oh its been such a huge relief to finally accept who I am. I figured that at 22 I was more then ready to be 100% myself and be happy about it.

silverhalo · 11th Nov 2011, 01:40 PM

Congratulations

Jessica816 · 11th Nov 2011, 01:46 PM

Thank you very much silverhalo..

Hot Pink · 13th Nov 2011, 12:55 PM

Accepting yourself for who you are isn't exactly easy. A lot of people go their entire lives without doing it. Be proud that you're among a strong minority of people.

Jessica816 · 13th Nov 2011, 09:01 PM

I'm very proud Hot Pink!

10th Nov 2011, 09:58 PM	#1
Jessica816 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bi-romantic lesbian? Still working on it Out Status: Out loud and so very proud Location: Kansas city, Mo Age: 23 Posts: 255 Join Date: Nov 2011	Wait im a lesbian? I'm going to start this off with the biggest thing that's happened to me this year..I came out to my friends and family as a lesbian..Now this might not seem like a big deal in this day and age. So let me give you a little back story. I'm 22 years old and have always been with guys. So to say when I came out was a shock to the people around me is a huge understatement. Hell I was shocked myself, only because it was something that I had ignored for so many years. It took me meeting a woman who I fell head over heals for to accept that I am a lesbian. I could no longer say it was just a simple "girl crush" , nope I was a full blow lesbian. My world seemed to come crashing down. There was no way that I was gay, it just wasn't possible. Oh boy I was so very wrong. I struggled with this big "secret" kept it to myself, made sure to not let anyone know. What would my friends think of me? My family? They only knew me as "straight", how would they all handle this???* How would I begin to explain to my loved ones that I was gay?? How was I going to explain this to everyone? How could I explain something I almost didn't understand myself?? To make a long story short my bestfriend made my life so much easier. She was the first person to love me no matter what, I guess it helped that she is also gay. So she could understand a part of me that I couldn't understand myself. I started loving who I was, realizing that being gay wasn't the end of the world. It's actually kinda amazing. I went to my very first Gay pride this past June and seen so many amazing people who are so comfortable in there own skin. I hope to one day be that comfortable with who I am.

11th Nov 2011, 07:15 AM	#2
Hidinginalabama EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Say no to the boobs. Say hell yes to men. Out Status: Almost every one other than work Location: alabama Age: 22 Posts: 954 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Wait im a lesbian? Congrats I got to say that what u did is awesome. I know how it is to tell ur family and it feels great to be out to them.

11th Nov 2011, 08:26 AM	#3
Chouchou Warrior Goddess Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Homosexual (asexual?) and mostly homoromantic Out Status: To some friends, but not to family Location: Wisconsin, USA Age: 26 Posts: 1,109 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Wait im a lesbian? Being gay absolutely isn't the end of the world. I take that back--it is the end of an illusory world in which one pretends or hides, and the beginning of a new, colorful, real world in which one lives true to oneself and sees how beautiful it is. __________________ "The good neighbor looks beyond the external accidents and discerns those inner qualities that make all men human and, therefore, brothers." -- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

11th Nov 2011, 09:20 AM	#4
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Wait im a lesbian? I know how you feel. When I realized it myself, I got very anxious. I started coming out bit by bit to close friends I could trust. They made me feel accepted. Congrats! Isn't it a relief to be yourself and be accepted for it? __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

11th Nov 2011, 10:01 AM	#5
Jessica816 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bi-romantic lesbian? Still working on it Out Status: Out loud and so very proud Location: Kansas city, Mo Age: 23 Posts: 255 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Wait im a lesbian? Thanks you Hidinginalabama, like I said it wasn't the easiest thing I've ever done but it was by far the best thing I've ever done. It's been very much a roller coaster experience, yet I wouldn't change anything about it.......... Chouchou, it took me awhile to realize that being gay wasn't the end of the world, nor was it the most important part of who I was. I've learned this year that being gay is amazing but its not the most important part of who I am. . RaeofLite oh its been such a huge relief to finally accept who I am. I figured that at 22 I was more then ready to be 100% myself and be happy about it.

11th Nov 2011, 01:40 PM	#6
silverhalo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Quite a few Location: England, Age: 29 Posts: 3,162 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Wait im a lesbian? Congratulations

11th Nov 2011, 01:46 PM	#7
Jessica816 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bi-romantic lesbian? Still working on it Out Status: Out loud and so very proud Location: Kansas city, Mo Age: 23 Posts: 255 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Wait im a lesbian? Thank you very much silverhalo..

13th Nov 2011, 12:55 PM	#8
Hot Pink EC Addict Full Member Gender: Transsexual: MtF Orientation: Panromantic Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Minnesota, USA Age: 27 Posts: 622 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Wait im a lesbian? Accepting yourself for who you are isn't exactly easy. A lot of people go their entire lives without doing it. Be proud that you're among a strong minority of people. __________________ Pffffffft...

13th Nov 2011, 09:01 PM	#9
Jessica816 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bi-romantic lesbian? Still working on it Out Status: Out loud and so very proud Location: Kansas city, Mo Age: 23 Posts: 255 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Wait im a lesbian? I'm very proud Hot Pink! __________________ "Every gay and lesbian person who has been lucky enough to survive the turmoil of growing up is a survivor. Survivors always have an obligation to those who will face the same challenges."

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