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Hidinginalabama · 11th Nov 2011, 05:30 PM

So I finally did it. I came out to my parents last night. We were sitting down eating dinner that I just got for us. When I knew it was time to tell them. So I waited for every one to get done eating. They started watching TV and what every it was started to get really boring so I knew it was then when I told them we needed to talk. All they did was look at me and the TV was still on. So I asked them to turn it off. Right then I know they realized what I had to say was big. The TV was turned off. They looked at me again. I just froze for a minute or two. I didn’t know how to say it. So I just did. I looked at both of them and just said Mom Dad I’m gay. It felt like hours went by before say said anything. But really is was just seconds. My mom looked at me and said ok. My dad looked and said your still my son and I will love you no mater what. We talk for about two hours. It was so great. They asked if I was dating any one and I said yes. Then they asked if he was coming for Christmas. All I could thing was really did they just ask that? But I had to tell them no he was not coming down for Christmas but he would be down before then. They both said that when he comes down that they would love for him to say that they house. I was so amazed on how great it went. I thought that I would take weeks before they wanted to know about my boyfriend or about most things and all but I was so wrong. I got to say be wrong about how they would take it was one of the greats things ever. I now know they what every is going on in my life I don’t have to hide it from them. I got to say my parents are so of the most amazing people in the world.

When people talk about after telling their parents and how the weight just fell of them. Its true. I got up this morning going to work and I felt like I was a new person. A person that never has to hide who I am. It is a amazing feeling and I hope every one will one day feel the same way as I am right now.

Thanks every one from EC for all you have done to help me though this time. And I only wish that I will be able to help some one just as much as this site did for me.

silverhalo · 11th Nov 2011, 05:48 PM

Hey congratulations

thecat06 · 11th Nov 2011, 05:52 PM

Congrats!!

PerfectInsanity · 11th Nov 2011, 06:56 PM

That's awesome!!! My coming out to my parents went much the same way, turning off the TV to tell them the big news and them saying that whoever I date will be welcomed into their house. It is such an amazing feeling to not have that constant fear anymore of what their reactions will be like. I'm so glad that you got to experience this too! Congrats!

**Chip** · 11th Nov 2011, 07:48 PM

What a great story! How wonderful that your parents were so understanding and supportive... as you said, I'd think most parents would want at least a *little* time to adjust before welcoming their gay son's gay boyfriend into their home, so this really says a lot for them.

Just out of curiousity, have you asked your mom (or dad, but moms are the ones who know) if she knew or suspected before you told them? It sort of sounds like this wasn't a big shock for them, but maybe they're just ultra accepting

alex2020 · 11th Nov 2011, 08:47 PM

Congratulations! It's awesome that they're so accepting.

dl72 · 11th Nov 2011, 08:52 PM

Congrats.

Sethrowe · 11th Nov 2011, 09:48 PM

Woooottt!!

Chouchou · 12th Nov 2011, 01:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hidinginalabama

I got to say my parents are so of the most amazing people in the world.

Indeed they are

. Congratulations, and may the new spring in your step never fade.

Aeon Magus · 12th Nov 2011, 01:27 AM

Congratulations, Hidinginalabama.

Hidinginalabama · 12th Nov 2011, 02:42 AM

Thanks guys and ya they both had some idea for a little bit but didnt want to say anything. My dad even said he had a dream that I told him. He said that it was like a year ago. I didnt know what to say to that really

---------- Post added 12th Nov 2011 at 02:43 AM ----------

Thanks guys and ya they both had some idea for a little bit but didnt want to say anything. My dad even said he had a dream that I told him. He said that it was like a year ago. I didnt know what to say to that really. All I could do was smile. Thanks again every one for being there for me all this time.

**EM68** · 12th Nov 2011, 08:10 AM

Congrats on coming out to your parents!!! I know how worried you were. I'm glad your parents asked if your bf was going to come by. That is a big step for them.

Now go out and live your life without hiding.

Doctor Faustus · 12th Nov 2011, 03:03 PM

You had a much better experience than I did. Relish the moment. Savour it!

Many congratulations.

Mal · 12th Nov 2011, 03:06 PM

Having spoke to you before you did this, I just have to say. I am so goddamn proud of you. I am extremely happy it went well for you. So how does it feel being able to take on the world? It's only up from here, good sir. Yay!

Mirko · 12th Nov 2011, 03:43 PM

Congratulations on coming out to your parents. It's fantastic that it went so well.

caughtbywitness · 12th Nov 2011, 04:03 PM

Aww well done!

My parents are far too cool with it, mum even got me a double bed this year in "in case you had a 'partner' you might want to share a bed with". I swear, my mum is hilarious.

MommaFrog · 12th Nov 2011, 04:29 PM

I wish every coming out story was like this!!!! So happy for you!

Hippiemom · 25th Nov 2011, 02:04 PM

That is fantastic. You have awesome parents who love you A LOT! Glad they can handle the whole situation, it can be a lot to process. I guess you won't be hiding anymore, luv!

Cheers and congratulations!

Aielar · 25th Nov 2011, 02:51 PM

Aww yeah, congrats!!! Glad things worked out well for you

MusicMan12 · 25th Nov 2011, 03:26 PM

CONGRATULATIONS!!! I'm SO HAPPY FOR YOu!!! I wish my parents would have been that supportive! especially about the person your dating

11th Nov 2011, 05:30 PM	#1
Hidinginalabama EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Say no to the boobs. Say hell yes to men. Out Status: Almost every one other than work Location: alabama Age: 22 Posts: 954 Join Date: Sep 2011	Finally told my parents so happy So I finally did it. I came out to my parents last night. We were sitting down eating dinner that I just got for us. When I knew it was time to tell them. So I waited for every one to get done eating. They started watching TV and what every it was started to get really boring so I knew it was then when I told them we needed to talk. All they did was look at me and the TV was still on. So I asked them to turn it off. Right then I know they realized what I had to say was big. The TV was turned off. They looked at me again. I just froze for a minute or two. I didn’t know how to say it. So I just did. I looked at both of them and just said Mom Dad I’m gay. It felt like hours went by before say said anything. But really is was just seconds. My mom looked at me and said ok. My dad looked and said your still my son and I will love you no mater what. We talk for about two hours. It was so great. They asked if I was dating any one and I said yes. Then they asked if he was coming for Christmas. All I could thing was really did they just ask that? But I had to tell them no he was not coming down for Christmas but he would be down before then. They both said that when he comes down that they would love for him to say that they house. I was so amazed on how great it went. I thought that I would take weeks before they wanted to know about my boyfriend or about most things and all but I was so wrong. I got to say be wrong about how they would take it was one of the greats things ever. I now know they what every is going on in my life I don’t have to hide it from them. I got to say my parents are so of the most amazing people in the world. When people talk about after telling their parents and how the weight just fell of them. Its true. I got up this morning going to work and I felt like I was a new person. A person that never has to hide who I am. It is a amazing feeling and I hope every one will one day feel the same way as I am right now. Thanks every one from EC for all you have done to help me though this time. And I only wish that I will be able to help some one just as much as this site did for me.

11th Nov 2011, 05:48 PM	#2
silverhalo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Quite a few Location: England, Age: 29 Posts: 3,162 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Finally told my parents so happy Hey congratulations

11th Nov 2011, 05:52 PM	#3
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Finally told my parents so happy Congrats!! __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

11th Nov 2011, 06:56 PM	#4
PerfectInsanity Now I know I'm living for who I am Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay dude Out Status: Most family & friends; more in due time Location: Arizona Age: 25 Posts: 161 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Finally told my parents so happy That's awesome!!! My coming out to my parents went much the same way, turning off the TV to tell them the big news and them saying that whoever I date will be welcomed into their house. It is such an amazing feeling to not have that constant fear anymore of what their reactions will be like. I'm so glad that you got to experience this too! Congrats! __________________ "You do what you love and fuck the rest"--Little Miss Sunshine

11th Nov 2011, 07:48 PM	#5
Chip EC Advisor EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: northern CA Posts: 5,581 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Finally told my parents so happy What a great story! How wonderful that your parents were so understanding and supportive... as you said, I'd think most parents would want at least a little time to adjust before welcoming their gay son's gay boyfriend into their home, so this really says a lot for them. Just out of curiousity, have you asked your mom (or dad, but moms are the ones who know) if she knew or suspected before you told them? It sort of sounds like this wasn't a big shock for them, but maybe they're just ultra accepting

11th Nov 2011, 08:47 PM	#6
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Finally told my parents so happy Congratulations! It's awesome that they're so accepting. __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

11th Nov 2011, 08:52 PM	#7
dl72 EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: To one person only Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 350 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Finally told my parents so happy Congrats.

11th Nov 2011, 09:48 PM	#8
Sethrowe Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Told one person ever Posts: 33 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Finally told my parents so happy Woooottt!!

12th Nov 2011, 01:27 AM	#10
Aeon Magus EC's Blue Gaylien Full Member Gender: I go peepee standing up xD Orientation: I'm a Man's Man Out Status: The people that I care about most. Location: South Africa Posts: 2,262 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Finally told my parents so happy Congratulations, Hidinginalabama. __________________ Sing me a Painting, I'll paint you a Song Inside my heart is breaking. My make-up may be flaking, but my smile still stays on. The show must go on.

12th Nov 2011, 02:42 AM	#11
Hidinginalabama EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Say no to the boobs. Say hell yes to men. Out Status: Almost every one other than work Location: alabama Age: 22 Posts: 954 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Finally told my parents so happy Thanks guys and ya they both had some idea for a little bit but didnt want to say anything. My dad even said he had a dream that I told him. He said that it was like a year ago. I didnt know what to say to that really ---------- Post added 12th Nov 2011 at 02:43 AM ---------- Thanks guys and ya they both had some idea for a little bit but didnt want to say anything. My dad even said he had a dream that I told him. He said that it was like a year ago. I didnt know what to say to that really. All I could do was smile. Thanks again every one for being there for me all this time.

12th Nov 2011, 08:10 AM	#12
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Finally told my parents so happy Congrats on coming out to your parents!!! I know how worried you were. I'm glad your parents asked if your bf was going to come by. That is a big step for them. Now go out and live your life without hiding. __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

12th Nov 2011, 03:03 PM	#13
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Finally told my parents so happy You had a much better experience than I did. Relish the moment. Savour it! Many congratulations. __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

12th Nov 2011, 03:06 PM	#14
Mal Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay minus fat chicks. Out Status: Out to most family and all friends. Location: Bozeman,MT Posts: 15 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Finally told my parents so happy Having spoke to you before you did this, I just have to say. I am so goddamn proud of you. I am extremely happy it went well for you. So how does it feel being able to take on the world? It's only up from here, good sir. Yay!

12th Nov 2011, 03:43 PM	#15
Mirko Molitva Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about Location: British Columbia, Canada Age: 35 Posts: 10,058 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Finally told my parents so happy Congratulations on coming out to your parents. It's fantastic that it went so well. __________________ ~ Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are ~

12th Nov 2011, 04:03 PM	#16
caughtbywitness Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I really don't know anymore Out Status: Most people (: Location: Shropshire Age: 16 Posts: 131 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Finally told my parents so happy Aww well done! My parents are far too cool with it, mum even got me a double bed this year in "in case you had a 'partner' you might want to share a bed with". I swear, my mum is hilarious.

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MommaFrog EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but family Location: Lake City, Fl Age: 21 Posts: 711 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Finally told my parents so happy I wish every coming out story was like this!!!! So happy for you! __________________ It's hard to answer the question "what's wrong" when nothings right. Maybe one day it will be ok again. That's all I want. I don't care what it takes. I just want to be ok again.

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Hippiemom Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Location: Canada Posts: 13 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Finally told my parents so happy That is fantastic. You have awesome parents who love you A LOT! Glad they can handle the whole situation, it can be a lot to process. I guess you won't be hiding anymore, luv! Cheers and congratulations! __________________ Never, never, never give up.

25th Nov 2011, 02:51 PM	#19
Aielar Timmies Lover <3 Full Member Gender: Possibly bigendered? Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but family Location: Vancouver Island Posts: 221 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Finally told my parents so happy Aww yeah, congrats!!! Glad things worked out well for you

25th Nov 2011, 03:26 PM	#20
MusicMan12 Looking for advice and friends! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: (Mostly) Closeted Gay Out Status: My parents Location: Chicago, IL USA Age: 20 Posts: 191 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Finally told my parents so happy CONGRATULATIONS!!! I'm SO HAPPY FOR YOu!!! I wish my parents would have been that supportive! especially about the person your dating