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Heyitsme · 13th Nov 2011, 08:29 AM

So the past day has been very up and down for me.

First off, I was in a relationship with a guy that used to go to my school (but is now in the States). We had finally gathered up the courage to put it onto our Facebook pages. I had mine blocked from my mother and the rest of my relatives. However, she, for some reason, stumbled onto his page, and saw the relationship post.

What she was angry about was me going behind her back again and planning to be with him (I was with him multiple times before, but always claimed to be "experimenting" or "just a little confused"). He did get into trouble with the law in the past (he had split personality disorder due to living basically a double life), and my mom didn't want me being with him anymore, and demanded me to never be his boyfriend again.

I broke up with my boyfriend, but not because of my mom. I feel it's more important to deal with my own bottled-up emotions first than to worry about what I plan on doing once I graduate and go off to college.

But on the bright side, she is more than accepting of me being gay. Much more than she ever was (with the possibility of me being gay) in the past, and much more than I thought she ever would have been. She's promised to help me find a counselor to talk to, in order to help me accept myself better and learn to deal with people who are uncomfortable with me in a healthy way.

My story had a bittersweet ending. Just being yourself can help people expand their mindsets. It can and does get better

MommaFrog · 13th Nov 2011, 09:13 AM

I'm glad your mom was accepting of you and I'm sorry about your relationship.

**hugs**

Aeon Magus · 13th Nov 2011, 04:21 PM

Hello, Heyitsme. It's great that your mom's so supportive of you and accepts you for who you are.

thecat06 · 13th Nov 2011, 04:29 PM

I'm glad that your mom was supportive of you!! I'm sorry about your relationship though..

Hidinginalabama · 13th Nov 2011, 04:36 PM

Its so good to hear that your mom is accecpting. Sorry to hear that your relationship didnt work out. But I know you will find some one else. There lots of people out there. Best of luck.

**TheEdend** · 14th Nov 2011, 01:03 PM

Its great to hear that your mom has been able to come around and finally start being okay with it! Congrats and enjoy!

13th Nov 2011, 08:29 AM	#1
Heyitsme EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody Location: Cambridgeshire, England Age: 18 Posts: 278 Join Date: Jun 2010	Discovered by my mom So the past day has been very up and down for me. First off, I was in a relationship with a guy that used to go to my school (but is now in the States). We had finally gathered up the courage to put it onto our Facebook pages. I had mine blocked from my mother and the rest of my relatives. However, she, for some reason, stumbled onto his page, and saw the relationship post. What she was angry about was me going behind her back again and planning to be with him (I was with him multiple times before, but always claimed to be "experimenting" or "just a little confused"). He did get into trouble with the law in the past (he had split personality disorder due to living basically a double life), and my mom didn't want me being with him anymore, and demanded me to never be his boyfriend again. I broke up with my boyfriend, but not because of my mom. I feel it's more important to deal with my own bottled-up emotions first than to worry about what I plan on doing once I graduate and go off to college. But on the bright side, she is more than accepting of me being gay. Much more than she ever was (with the possibility of me being gay) in the past, and much more than I thought she ever would have been. She's promised to help me find a counselor to talk to, in order to help me accept myself better and learn to deal with people who are uncomfortable with me in a healthy way. My story had a bittersweet ending. Just being yourself can help people expand their mindsets. It can and does get better __________________ "I'm not even on drugs, I'm just weird." -Alex Gaskarth

13th Nov 2011, 09:13 AM	#2
MommaFrog EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but family Location: Lake City, Fl Age: 21 Posts: 711 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Discovered by my mom I'm glad your mom was accepting of you and I'm sorry about your relationship. hugs __________________ It's hard to answer the question "what's wrong" when nothings right. Maybe one day it will be ok again. That's all I want. I don't care what it takes. I just want to be ok again.

13th Nov 2011, 04:21 PM	#3
Aeon Magus EC's Blue Gaylien Full Member Gender: I go peepee standing up xD Orientation: I'm a Man's Man Out Status: The people that I care about most. Location: South Africa Posts: 2,262 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Discovered by my mom Hello, Heyitsme. It's great that your mom's so supportive of you and accepts you for who you are. __________________ Sing me a Painting, I'll paint you a Song Inside my heart is breaking. My make-up may be flaking, but my smile still stays on. The show must go on.

13th Nov 2011, 04:29 PM	#4
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Discovered by my mom I'm glad that your mom was supportive of you!! I'm sorry about your relationship though.. __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

13th Nov 2011, 04:36 PM	#5
Hidinginalabama EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Say no to the boobs. Say hell yes to men. Out Status: Almost every one other than work Location: alabama Age: 22 Posts: 954 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Discovered by my mom Its so good to hear that your mom is accecpting. Sorry to hear that your relationship didnt work out. But I know you will find some one else. There lots of people out there. Best of luck.

14th Nov 2011, 01:03 PM	#6
TheEdend Hope will never be silent EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Extended family still doesn't know Location: Orlando, Florida Age: 21 Posts: 2,831 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Discovered by my mom Its great to hear that your mom has been able to come around and finally start being okay with it! Congrats and enjoy! __________________ “You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result” -Gandhi

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