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In The Clouds · 17th Nov 2011, 01:14 PM

Should I? I arranged a meeting with the school counseler and I really trust her. I just have to tell someone, you know? Just say the words "I like girls." Just scream it. Any tips? Should I tell her?

thecat06 · 17th Nov 2011, 02:14 PM

I would say that if you are comfortable with her then go for it. Then you could talk to her about how you feel.

In The Clouds · 17th Nov 2011, 02:16 PM

Thanks!

thecat06 · 17th Nov 2011, 02:18 PM

Your welcome!! Good Luck!!

silverhalo · 17th Nov 2011, 04:08 PM

Yeah if you feel comfortable (I mean its still going to be nerve wracking) then it would be great, she sounds like an ideal person to tell.

Hidinginalabama · 17th Nov 2011, 04:51 PM

If you feel its some thing you want to do go for it. Best of luck with it.

In The Clouds · 17th Nov 2011, 06:56 PM

Thanks everybody! I'm gonna see her right after Thanksgiving, considering trimesters are gonna take up all of this and next week. So, how should I tell her? Any suggestions?

Rinamir Mortem · 17th Nov 2011, 07:24 PM

Which ever way feels more comfortable at the time. Although I would use a way of saying you like women but worded in a way that still gets the point across but that also softens the bluntness of just saying "I like women" right there and then. Perhaps another way would be a way that would make your counselor ask for clarification? That way you could probably generate some sort of conversation as your counselor would not have to try and scramble for something to say.

Of course, I think your counselor would be trained to help you however you decide to put it. Ultimately, the method will feel right on the day

Best of luck

hiddenxrainbows · 17th Nov 2011, 09:00 PM

It's never easy telling someone that you're not straight, no matter who it is. Even your best friends. I know, because I've done it. I remember when I first told my friends, it was sooo nerve-wracking! I just basically said something like this: "Yeeahh, there's kinda something I need to tell you...I'm kind of not..straight." And then, of course my friends asked me about it, and I explained to them that I'm pansexual. It's nerve-wracking to come out to anyone, but if you're comfortable with someone, I say go ahead and tell. She's the school counselor; it's not like she's going to judge you or anything. It's her job to help people, so if you told her, she could try and help you with coming out and stuff. ^_^

thesecretmii · 20th Nov 2011, 08:00 PM

The first person (out of three so far) that I came out to was my counselor and I wrote down "I 'like' this guy" and it was all A-O-K from there

I mean, taking things well is her JOB for Pete's sake :P so yeah, If you have problems sayings it out loud (like me, out of all three of the people I've come out to, I wrote it down. One in a fb message, one on his iPod, and one on a notepad) So... yeah... thats my advice for the day.

17th Nov 2011, 01:14 PM	#1
In The Clouds Slowly sprialing downwards Regular Member Gender: I am woman, hear me roar!... Meow Orientation: 40% Hetrosexual Out Status: Parents and school counselor Location: Miami, FL Posts: 40 Join Date: Sep 2011	Thinking about comming out Should I? I arranged a meeting with the school counseler and I really trust her. I just have to tell someone, you know? Just say the words "I like girls." Just scream it. Any tips? Should I tell her?

17th Nov 2011, 02:14 PM	#2
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Thinking about comming out I would say that if you are comfortable with her then go for it. Then you could talk to her about how you feel. __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

17th Nov 2011, 02:16 PM	#3
In The Clouds Slowly sprialing downwards Regular Member Gender: I am woman, hear me roar!... Meow Orientation: 40% Hetrosexual Out Status: Parents and school counselor Location: Miami, FL Posts: 40 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Thinking about comming out Thanks!

17th Nov 2011, 02:18 PM	#4
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Thinking about comming out Your welcome!! Good Luck!! __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

17th Nov 2011, 04:08 PM	#5
silverhalo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Quite a few Location: England, Age: 29 Posts: 3,162 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Thinking about comming out Yeah if you feel comfortable (I mean its still going to be nerve wracking) then it would be great, she sounds like an ideal person to tell.

17th Nov 2011, 04:51 PM	#6
Hidinginalabama EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Say no to the boobs. Say hell yes to men. Out Status: Almost every one other than work Location: alabama Age: 22 Posts: 954 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Thinking about comming out If you feel its some thing you want to do go for it. Best of luck with it.

17th Nov 2011, 06:56 PM	#7
In The Clouds Slowly sprialing downwards Regular Member Gender: I am woman, hear me roar!... Meow Orientation: 40% Hetrosexual Out Status: Parents and school counselor Location: Miami, FL Posts: 40 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Thinking about comming out Thanks everybody! I'm gonna see her right after Thanksgiving, considering trimesters are gonna take up all of this and next week. So, how should I tell her? Any suggestions? __________________ Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length ~Robert Frost~

17th Nov 2011, 07:24 PM	#8
Rinamir Mortem Brony in disguise Regular Member Gender: Gentleman Orientation: Me and my boyfriend are very happy Out Status: Ask and you shall find out Location: Worcester Age: 19 Posts: 205 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Thinking about comming out Which ever way feels more comfortable at the time. Although I would use a way of saying you like women but worded in a way that still gets the point across but that also softens the bluntness of just saying "I like women" right there and then. Perhaps another way would be a way that would make your counselor ask for clarification? That way you could probably generate some sort of conversation as your counselor would not have to try and scramble for something to say. Of course, I think your counselor would be trained to help you however you decide to put it. Ultimately, the method will feel right on the day Best of luck

17th Nov 2011, 09:00 PM	#9
hiddenxrainbows Member Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Most people, but my dad-don't want him to know yet Location: Mt. Pleasant, PA Age: 19 Posts: 67 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Thinking about comming out It's never easy telling someone that you're not straight, no matter who it is. Even your best friends. I know, because I've done it. I remember when I first told my friends, it was sooo nerve-wracking! I just basically said something like this: "Yeeahh, there's kinda something I need to tell you...I'm kind of not..straight." And then, of course my friends asked me about it, and I explained to them that I'm pansexual. It's nerve-wracking to come out to anyone, but if you're comfortable with someone, I say go ahead and tell. She's the school counselor; it's not like she's going to judge you or anything. It's her job to help people, so if you told her, she could try and help you with coming out and stuff. ^_^

20th Nov 2011, 08:00 PM	#10
thesecretmii Nerdy Closeted Gay Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: As gay as... who's really gay? Out Status: Out to two friends and my counselor Location: Notanexactlocation, New Mexico Age: 13 Posts: 2 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Thinking about comming out The first person (out of three so far) that I came out to was my counselor and I wrote down "I 'like' this guy" and it was all A-O-K from there I mean, taking things well is her JOB for Pete's sake :P so yeah, If you have problems sayings it out loud (like me, out of all three of the people I've come out to, I wrote it down. One in a fb message, one on his iPod, and one on a notepad) So... yeah... thats my advice for the day.

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