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fiyerro · 20th Nov 2011, 03:17 PM

Hi all...

Here is my story..

I've been with my wife for 12 years, married for 4. We have a child together which complicates things. She knows tha give been questioning for a couple of months, but doesn't realize that I am pretty sure I am gay... I need help on figuring out how to continue on with this. For those of you who were in this situation, could you share your story?

Thanks!

Ianthe · 20th Nov 2011, 08:15 PM

I was never married or anything. But there are counselors who specialize in this sort of thing. Maybe you could find a counselor to help you tell your wife and to help you both going through this process.

MommaFrog · 21st Nov 2011, 06:53 PM

I am in the middle of a divorce that ended because he was unfaithful. I told him I was questioning my sexuality. He responded by cheating. There were tons of other things wrong with the relationship.

I think you two could work it out to raise your child, but you should talk to your wife honestly about how you feel.

**TheEdend** · 21st Nov 2011, 10:05 PM

I can't imagine how hard it is to have to deal with everything that you are dealing with, but I'm glad that you are found EC. We have a lot of members who are going through or have gone through very similar situation as you so I'm sure someone will chime in

You can also contact Jim1454 or s5m1 who have both been in your situation.

Best of luck!

20th Nov 2011, 03:17 PM	#1
fiyerro Newbie Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Questioning Posts: 4 Join Date: Oct 2011	Help Hi all... Here is my story.. I've been with my wife for 12 years, married for 4. We have a child together which complicates things. She knows tha give been questioning for a couple of months, but doesn't realize that I am pretty sure I am gay... I need help on figuring out how to continue on with this. For those of you who were in this situation, could you share your story? Thanks!

20th Nov 2011, 08:15 PM	#2
Ianthe EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female/Femme Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Oregon Age: 32 Posts: 1,084 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: Help I was never married or anything. But there are counselors who specialize in this sort of thing. Maybe you could find a counselor to help you tell your wife and to help you both going through this process.

21st Nov 2011, 06:53 PM	#3
MommaFrog EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but family Location: Lake City, Fl Age: 21 Posts: 711 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Help I am in the middle of a divorce that ended because he was unfaithful. I told him I was questioning my sexuality. He responded by cheating. There were tons of other things wrong with the relationship. I think you two could work it out to raise your child, but you should talk to your wife honestly about how you feel. __________________ It's hard to answer the question "what's wrong" when nothings right. Maybe one day it will be ok again. That's all I want. I don't care what it takes. I just want to be ok again.

21st Nov 2011, 10:05 PM	#4
TheEdend Hope will never be silent EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Extended family still doesn't know Location: Orlando, Florida Age: 21 Posts: 2,831 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Help I can't imagine how hard it is to have to deal with everything that you are dealing with, but I'm glad that you are found EC. We have a lot of members who are going through or have gone through very similar situation as you so I'm sure someone will chime in You can also contact Jim1454 or s5m1 who have both been in your situation. Best of luck! __________________ “You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result” -Gandhi