My parents suspect

[In The Clouds]

Well, I've been acting depressed lately and ,as any concerned parents would do, they keep bugging and bugging me about why I'm so down. Now they're threatening to take away my computer because I'm spending all my time on it and, well, I know I haven't been here much and stuff, but you guys are kinda my only friends.
My mom even asked me if I was gay, after I jumped and demanded she didn't use any gay slurs. I don't think she belived me why I told her I wasn't, though it was technically the truth. Not to mention I'm doing a really bad job at hiding my attraction to girls. I swear my eyes have a mind of there own. And other places. Well, should I come out? I haven't told anyone yet, so I don't know what to do.

[Ianthe]

How do you think they will respond if you come out to them? What do you think will happen?

[In The Clouds]

I don't know. I have a gay cousin and, while they're not really supportive, they don't hate him. They also have some gay friends, but I'm not sure how they feel about bisexulaity.

[Hidinginalabama]

If you think they will accept you for the most part I would. Living like you are "hiding who you are" is not a good thing for any one. I have come out to my parents and the took it great. So great that same night they wanted to know when they could meet him. Just do what ever you think is right for you. And at the same time dont under estimate your parents. Things could go totally different from what your thinking. I'm hoping for the best for you.

[Sadepeura]

Go for it.

The fact that they already asked you about it means that they at least understand that homosexuality exists and that their child could be gay. You won't have to hide it at home anymore after you've told them.

[TheEdend]

Well, should I come out? I haven't told anyone yet, so I don't know what to do.

The answer is really up to you, but, from what you are saying, it seems like your parents might deal with the news well enough.

Have you thought about telling someone else before your parents? Have you talked to your cousin about it? Maybe even your aunt?

[Aeon Magus]

Hello, In The Clouds.

Originally Posted by Ianthe

How do you think they will respond if you come out to them? What do you think will happen?

Originally Posted by In The Clouds

I don't know. I have a gay cousin and, while they're not really supportive, they don't hate him. They also have some gay friends, but I'm not sure how they feel about bisexulaity.

Your mom asked you first if you were gay, because you expressed your distaste for the gay slur she was using, so she's open to the possibility that you are. I'm not going to say you should have jumped at the opportunity to just come out to her, taking what Ianthe said in account, you should really consider what might happen if you do. You say they don't "hate" your cousin for being gay... it might be that they'd be okay with you being as well. You know your parents best. So when you do decide to come out to them, you could express your wish for them to be supportive about you - Sit them down, tell them, and add that you need their support.

Good luck, and keep us posted on how it's going.

[NeecoVirus]

I wouldn't quite say that your mom has opened up to that idea, just because of the context to which she asked if you were gay. Did she asked in a sincere concerned way or a "what, are you gay?" type of deal to your "don't use homophobic slurs".

Proceed with some discretion.

[In The Clouds]

Have you thought about telling someone else before your parents? Have you talked to your cousin about it? Maybe even your aunt?

I've scheduled a meeting with my school counselor, but that's after Thanksgiving break. My cousin is away at college and has been pretty much ostracized from almost everyone in the family. My aunt and parents are the pretty much the only ones in the family who don't think gays will burn in hell.

Did she asked in a sincere concerned way or a "what, are you gay?" type of deal to your "don't use homophobic slurs".

Well, at first she asked it in a joking kinda way, but them I guess she saw the look of panic on my face and then asked it in a concerned way like "Sweetheart, are you gay?"

[Sadepeura]

Originally Posted by In The Clouds

I've scheduled a meeting with my school counselor, but that's after Thanksgiving break. My cousin is away at college and has been pretty much ostracized from almost everyone in the family. My aunt and parents are the pretty much the only ones in the family who don't think gays will burn in hell.

I don't know how long the Thanksgiving break is, but I would wait until you get to speak with the school counselor. You're not in any rush, it's not like the situation is going to change or anything.

[mnguy]

Originally Posted by In The Clouds

Well, at first she asked it in a joking kinda way, but then I guess she saw the look of panic on my face and then asked it in a concerned way like "Sweetheart, are you gay?"

Aww, it sounds like she will be good if you tell her. No rush, but I have a good feeling she's gonna be supportive and you will feel better if/when you come out. Good luck!

[NoName114]

my mother was trying to "Set me up" with a girl next door but I always made a reason not to meet her+ sometimes I let it slip about likeing a guy, so when I came out it wasn't a big shock XD

[EM68]

It sounds like your mom had a good idea. From what you are saying it sounds like she would be okay. Just like Edend said you may want to tell someone else first. When you talk to the councilor you may want to tell them about this. When you
do tell your mom you can bring up your conversation with her.

Come out to her when you are ready. Remember coming out is not a race.

[In The Clouds]

Thanks everyone for the advice. The meeting with my counselor had been scheduled for tomorrow. Wish me luck!

[Nat3]

Hello, and good luck. I think parents suspect what we are even before we come to terms with our sexuality.

I am not sure how your parents may take it... but if you believe that the repercussion won't be too much, perhaps, it may be a good idea to come out to them... if you are ready.

Good Luck.