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Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by stilllovelyafte, Nov 23, 2011.

  1. stilllovelyafte

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    I never thought I would get myself to a place where I would be posting under "Coming Out Stories" as opposed to "Support and Advice."

    This afternoon, after years of questioning, I told my mom the truth. While I do not have the answers yet - I have not reached the full conclusion that I am gay or bisexual or whatever other label - I shared with her exactly where I am today: I am questioning my sexuality, I am likely something other than perfectly straight, and I am working on finding the answer.

    Mom handled it pretty unbelievably. She did not cry - at first, nor did she jump in or say "what?" She listened patiently - leading me to suspect, at some point, noticing my unhappiness, her mind had entertained the possibility.

    She told me that she was disappointed I hadn't told her sooner - not because it had any implications for our relationship, but because she felt terrible I carried these issues alone. She wants to be helpful and supportive and only wants me to find happiness and peace of mind in life.

    I can say, without equivocation, I would not have had this conversation today if it was not for the great people who post on EC. I wish I knew such a supportive community existed years ago.

    The hard work is still ahead of me - figuring out who I am and what I want, sorting things out with my girlfriend, and building an authentic life, but for a moment, I see a bit of hope that I have the strength to get through it!

    THANK YOU ALL
     
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    That's awesome! Glad to hear your mother took it so well, it should be much easier trying to figure everything out with her support. :slight_smile:
     
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    Congratulations!
     
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    That's so wonderful!
     
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    Wow that's pretty inspiring! :slight_smile:
     
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    That's awesome!! Congrats!!
     
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    Congratulations! :slight_smile:
     
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    Congrats, Stilllovelyafte. :eusa_clap Glad your mom's being so understanding and wants to support you! You're in no hurry, figure it out at your own pace.
     
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    Awesome she took it that well! :eusa_clap
    It's always good to have supportive allies in real-life as well. And doubly so to know they're accepting family.

    So congrats on the step forward and best of luck on the steps to come!
     
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    Hey Myson,

    I'll try and help as best I can through a wall post.

    For the moment, I wanted to say to stilllovelyafte:

    Great to hear that your conversation with your mum went so well :slight_smile:. Keep going from strength to strength! :grin:
     
  11. cityofangels

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    That's awesome :slight_smile: Congratulations!!!
     
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    That is exactly how I hope every mother would respond, including myself. I am glad you let her in, so she can simply support you. Well done!
     
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    That's so awesome. Congrats! (again!)
     
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    Great story and congrats!!!
    Look how far you have come!!!
     
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    That's really great to hear!! Congrats for having a supportive mom by your side!
     
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    Yaaay!! Congrats! :grin:
    Thats truly inspiration, yoou go! :slight_smile:
     
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    Congrats and glad your mom is supportive!
     
  18. stilllovelyafte

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    Thanks all! Still feels surreal I don't think I've really processed it yet. I'm also sort of taken aback (of course, in a good way, but taken aback nonetheless), at how she's treating it as such a non-issue. Obviously, there is probably a lot going through her mind, but she does not seem distracted or emotional in the least.
     
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    You have a great mum there... all parents should be as great as her xx
     
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    Aww yeah, congrats, that is definitely something to be happy about :3 Thanks for sharing with us