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23rd Nov 2011, 03:13 PM
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| Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Questioning Posts: 171 Join Date: Sep 2011 |  Mom I never thought I would get myself to a place where I would be posting under "Coming Out Stories" as opposed to "Support and Advice." This afternoon, after years of questioning, I told my mom the truth. While I do not have the answers yet - I have not reached the full conclusion that I am gay or bisexual or whatever other label - I shared with her exactly where I am today: I am questioning my sexuality, I am likely something other than perfectly straight, and I am working on finding the answer. Mom handled it pretty unbelievably. She did not cry - at first, nor did she jump in or say "what?" She listened patiently - leading me to suspect, at some point, noticing my unhappiness, her mind had entertained the possibility. She told me that she was disappointed I hadn't told her sooner - not because it had any implications for our relationship, but because she felt terrible I carried these issues alone. She wants to be helpful and supportive and only wants me to find happiness and peace of mind in life. I can say, without equivocation, I would not have had this conversation today if it was not for the great people who post on EC. I wish I knew such a supportive community existed years ago. The hard work is still ahead of me - figuring out who I am and what I want, sorting things out with my girlfriend, and building an authentic life, but for a moment, I see a bit of hope that I have the strength to get through it! THANK YOU ALL |
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23rd Nov 2011, 03:59 PM
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| Well Known Full Member  Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 5-ish, leaning towards gay Out Status: Population, 4 Location: Central New York Age: 21 Posts: 129 Join Date: Nov 2011 | Re: Mom That's awesome! Glad to hear your mother took it so well, it should be much easier trying to figure everything out with her support. 
__________________ "We shall not cease from exploration / And the end of all our exploring / Will be to arrive where we started / And know the place for the first time." - T. S. Eliot |
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23rd Nov 2011, 04:02 PM
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| Proud to be a bookworm! Full Member   Gender: Female Orientation: Nothing quite fits... Out Status: One person IRL Location: Massachusetts Posts: 174 Join Date: Oct 2011 | Re: Mom Congratulations!
__________________  Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth. ~Benjamin Disraeli
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23rd Nov 2011, 05:13 PM
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| Warrior Goddess Full Member   Gender: Female Orientation: Homosexual (asexual?) and mostly homoromantic Out Status: To some friends, but not to family Location: Wisconsin, USA Age: 26 Posts: 1,109 Join Date: Oct 2011 | Re: Mom That's so wonderful!
__________________  "The good neighbor looks beyond the external accidents and discerns those inner qualities that make all men human and, therefore, brothers." -- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. |
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23rd Nov 2011, 07:39 PM
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| EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member   Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011 | Re: Mom Wow that's pretty inspiring! (:
__________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway |
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23rd Nov 2011, 07:58 PM
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| EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member   Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011 | Re: Mom That's awesome!! Congrats!!
__________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater |
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23rd Nov 2011, 08:42 PM
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| EC Addict Full Member   Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011 | Re: Mom Congratulations!
__________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.” |
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23rd Nov 2011, 08:53 PM
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| EC's Blue Gaylien Full Member   Gender: I go peepee standing up xD Orientation: I'm a Man's Man Out Status: The people that I care about most. Location: South Africa Posts: 2,259 Join Date: Nov 2011 | Re: Mom Congrats, Stilllovelyafte.  Glad your mom's being so understanding and wants to support you! You're in no hurry, figure it out at your own pace.
__________________ Sing me a Painting, I'll paint you a Song Inside my heart is breaking. My make-up may be flaking, but my smile still stays on. The show must go on. |
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23rd Nov 2011, 09:38 PM
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| Cecile's sidekick EC Advisor  Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but extended family Location: Belgium, EU Age: 28 Posts: 3,366 Join Date: Feb 2009 | Re: Mom Awesome she took it that well! It's always good to have supportive allies in real-life as well. And doubly so to know they're accepting family. So congrats on the step forward and best of luck on the steps to come!
__________________ To the world, you're somebody, but to somebody, you're the world... |
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24th Nov 2011, 06:44 AM
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| EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member   Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011 | Re: Mom Hey Myson, I'll try and help as best I can through a wall post. For the moment, I wanted to say to stilllovelyafte: Great to hear that your conversation with your mum went so well . Keep going from strength to strength! 
__________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa. |
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24th Nov 2011, 07:04 AM
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| Well Known Full Member   Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A few people Location: In a small town right outside of Portland, Oregon Age: 25 Posts: 156 Join Date: Aug 2011 | Re: Mom That's awesome Congratulations!!! |
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24th Nov 2011, 08:45 AM
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| Member Regular Member  Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Location: Canada Posts: 13 Join Date: Nov 2011 | Re: Mom That is exactly how I hope every mother would respond, including myself. I am glad you let her in, so she can simply support you. Well done! |
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24th Nov 2011, 10:10 AM
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| EC 'Dad' EC Advisor   Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Toronto Age: 41 Posts: 7,449 Join Date: Mar 2007 | Re: Mom That's so awesome. Congrats! (again!)
__________________ Jim "It is never too late to be what you might have been." |
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24th Nov 2011, 10:47 AM
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| Member Full Member  Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Family & those that matter Location: New York NY Posts: 55 Join Date: Mar 2010 | Re: Mom Great story and congrats!!! Look how far you have come!!! |
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24th Nov 2011, 11:25 AM
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| Hope will never be silent EC Moderator  Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Extended family still doesn't know Location: Orlando, Florida Age: 21 Posts: 2,831 Join Date: Mar 2010 | Re: Mom That's really great to hear!! Congrats for having a supportive mom by your side!
__________________ “You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result” -Gandhi |
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24th Nov 2011, 01:19 PM
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| Well Known Full Member   Gender: Female Orientation: like girls; usually attracted to personality xD Out Status: 3 people & mum; still real confused Location: UK, SE England Age: 18 Posts: 245 Join Date: Oct 2011 | Re: Mom Yaaay!! Congrats! Thats truly inspiration, yoou go! |
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24th Nov 2011, 02:18 PM
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| :D :D :D Full Member   Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Anyone who asks, but parents in denial. Location: Vancouver BC Canada Age: 23 Posts: 1,112 Join Date: Aug 2010 | Re: Mom Congrats and glad your mom is supportive! |
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24th Nov 2011, 08:19 PM
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| Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Questioning Posts: 171 Join Date: Sep 2011 | Re: Mom Thanks all! Still feels surreal I don't think I've really processed it yet. I'm also sort of taken aback (of course, in a good way, but taken aback nonetheless), at how she's treating it as such a non-issue. Obviously, there is probably a lot going through her mind, but she does not seem distracted or emotional in the least. |
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25th Nov 2011, 04:51 AM
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| Member Full Member   Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Rugby - UK Age: 21 Posts: 96 Join Date: Nov 2011 | Re: Mom You have a great mum there... all parents should be as great as her xx
__________________ Being gay is the best thing that has ever happened to me. If I was not I would never have met the most wonderful man in the world, my Peter. |
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25th Nov 2011, 09:23 AM
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| Timmies Lover <3 Full Member  Gender: Possibly bigendered? Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but family Location: Vancouver Island Posts: 221 Join Date: Nov 2011 | Re: Mom Aww yeah, congrats, that is definitely something to be happy about :3 Thanks for sharing with us |
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