I never thought I would get myself to a place where I would be posting under "Coming Out Stories" as opposed to "Support and Advice." This afternoon, after years of questioning, I told my mom the truth. While I do not have the answers yet - I have not reached the full conclusion that I am gay or bisexual or whatever other label - I shared with her exactly where I am today: I am questioning my sexuality, I am likely something other than perfectly straight, and I am working on finding the answer. Mom handled it pretty unbelievably. She did not cry - at first, nor did she jump in or say "what?" She listened patiently - leading me to suspect, at some point, noticing my unhappiness, her mind had entertained the possibility. She told me that she was disappointed I hadn't told her sooner - not because it had any implications for our relationship, but because she felt terrible I carried these issues alone. She wants to be helpful and supportive and only wants me to find happiness and peace of mind in life. I can say, without equivocation, I would not have had this conversation today if it was not for the great people who post on EC. I wish I knew such a supportive community existed years ago. The hard work is still ahead of me - figuring out who I am and what I want, sorting things out with my girlfriend, and building an authentic life, but for a moment, I see a bit of hope that I have the strength to get through it! THANK YOU ALL
That's awesome! Glad to hear your mother took it so well, it should be much easier trying to figure everything out with her support.
Congrats, Stilllovelyafte. :eusa_clap Glad your mom's being so understanding and wants to support you! You're in no hurry, figure it out at your own pace.
Awesome she took it that well! :eusa_clap It's always good to have supportive allies in real-life as well. And doubly so to know they're accepting family. So congrats on the step forward and best of luck on the steps to come!
Hey Myson, I'll try and help as best I can through a wall post. For the moment, I wanted to say to stilllovelyafte: Great to hear that your conversation with your mum went so well . Keep going from strength to strength!
That is exactly how I hope every mother would respond, including myself. I am glad you let her in, so she can simply support you. Well done!
Thanks all! Still feels surreal I don't think I've really processed it yet. I'm also sort of taken aback (of course, in a good way, but taken aback nonetheless), at how she's treating it as such a non-issue. Obviously, there is probably a lot going through her mind, but she does not seem distracted or emotional in the least.