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Cornflakes · 29th Nov 2011, 07:40 AM

I've been questioning since almost the start of this year, and I've accepted now that I'm not straight, at all.
I told 3 friends today, all at separate times, that I'm a lesbian. That means that I've been absolutely terrified 3 times today, for no reason at all

. That's 7 people that know! I'm so happy right now, but it all seems real, and I can't deal with anyone else knowing. I'm so scared for other's reactions, and the abuse I might get from it, I'm not a strong person, and getting hate would break me.

So, mixed emotions really. Proud at getting the hang of this whole coming out thing, but scared that it's definitely real :/

Aielar · 29th Nov 2011, 09:49 AM

Yay! Congrats for coming up with the courage to come out :3

Not sure if this will help you, but the only people I have left to come out to is my family, and I'm scared beyond reason to do so, because I fear rejection from my family. So, just know that you're not alone with the fear of coming out to more people, I guess is what I'm trying to say. Knowing one isn't alone seems to help a fair bit, at least it did for me.

Hope this helps

Hidinginalabama · 29th Nov 2011, 10:17 AM

Congrats on coming out to them and accepting the true you. It is something you should be really proud of. It takes a lot to come out to people when you fear what they will think or say. I got to say that's super awesome for what you did today. Hope everthing keeps getting better for you and people take the new as good for you as they did for me.

Doctor Faustus · 29th Nov 2011, 10:29 AM

Hey, well done for coming out! The first step is always the hardest: gradually it will get easier. It might be a struggle and take a while, but things will get better.

thecat06 · 29th Nov 2011, 11:09 AM

Congrats!! The first step is the hardest, after that it gets much easier to come out to others. Just take it at your own pace and you'll be fine!!

29th Nov 2011, 07:40 AM	#1
Cornflakes Newbie Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian. Most Probably Out Status: 25 people. Location: England Age: 16 Posts: 5 Join Date: Sep 2011	Quite Proud :) I've been questioning since almost the start of this year, and I've accepted now that I'm not straight, at all. I told 3 friends today, all at separate times, that I'm a lesbian. That means that I've been absolutely terrified 3 times today, for no reason at all . That's 7 people that know! I'm so happy right now, but it all seems real, and I can't deal with anyone else knowing. I'm so scared for other's reactions, and the abuse I might get from it, I'm not a strong person, and getting hate would break me. So, mixed emotions really. Proud at getting the hang of this whole coming out thing, but scared that it's definitely real :/

29th Nov 2011, 09:49 AM	#2
Aielar Timmies Lover <3 Full Member Gender: Possibly bigendered? Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but family Location: Vancouver Island Posts: 221 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Quite Proud :) Yay! Congrats for coming up with the courage to come out :3 Not sure if this will help you, but the only people I have left to come out to is my family, and I'm scared beyond reason to do so, because I fear rejection from my family. So, just know that you're not alone with the fear of coming out to more people, I guess is what I'm trying to say. Knowing one isn't alone seems to help a fair bit, at least it did for me. Hope this helps

29th Nov 2011, 10:17 AM	#3
Hidinginalabama EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Say no to the boobs. Say hell yes to men. Out Status: Almost every one other than work Location: alabama Age: 22 Posts: 954 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Quite Proud :) Congrats on coming out to them and accepting the true you. It is something you should be really proud of. It takes a lot to come out to people when you fear what they will think or say. I got to say that's super awesome for what you did today. Hope everthing keeps getting better for you and people take the new as good for you as they did for me.

29th Nov 2011, 10:29 AM	#4
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Quite Proud :) Hey, well done for coming out! The first step is always the hardest: gradually it will get easier. It might be a struggle and take a while, but things will get better. __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

29th Nov 2011, 11:09 AM	#5
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Quite Proud :) Congrats!! The first step is the hardest, after that it gets much easier to come out to others. Just take it at your own pace and you'll be fine!! __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

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