I came out today. - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

pace e amore · 4th Dec 2011, 02:40 AM

I've been thinking about who i wanted to come out to for a while now and i decided that i would tell a girl i know from my old high school because she was very trustworthy and understanding about things, so today i contacted her via facebook and just told her. It was pretty much like any other conversation. I was extremely nervous when i first told her but she accepted me and we're still friends and everything.

fiddledeedee · 4th Dec 2011, 05:27 AM

That's great! Congrats on coming out, and I'm glad that she took it so well.

Doctor Faustus · 4th Dec 2011, 06:39 AM

Hey there, good to meet you!

Well done for coming out! The first step is always the hardest, but it'll be the start of an amazing journey.

That response from your old friend is a positive move, but don't expect every reply to be like that. Over time, you'll get stronger and you'll learn to deal with the idiots who won't accept you for who you are. But accepting yourself is the most important thing.

Feel free to write to me if you need anything.

Best,

Doctor Faustus.

Mimerio · 4th Dec 2011, 06:41 AM

Congratulations, I remember coming out to my first person as well, Good luck with all the other people you choose as well!

dude00 · 4th Dec 2011, 09:13 AM

I've found once you have the courage to tell someone that is close and means a lot to you (a cousin, best friend etc) and they are supportive, it almost feels like "whats the point of hiding it anymore?" - at least that's what it feels like to me.

Don't rush it - the first person I told was when I was 16 - to an online friend. The next time I told someone, I was 23, and it was my cousin. I just told one of my best friends who showed a lot of support for me, which led me to tell another really close friend of mine (both straight guys) and the support from him was also overwhelmingly accepting.

It does seem to get easier as you go along, but just do it at your pace.

thecat06 · 4th Dec 2011, 09:18 AM

Congrats!!

Hidinginalabama · 4th Dec 2011, 01:05 PM

That's awesome and so happy for you that you have started coming out to some one. It makes life so much easier when there is one less person you have to hide the real you from. And congrats again.

**Gerry** · 4th Dec 2011, 01:59 PM

Wow that's great to hear! Congrats to you for coming out!

Mirko · 4th Dec 2011, 02:31 PM

Congratulations on coming out to her! Glad that it went so well and it's great that you went for it.

alex2020 · 4th Dec 2011, 05:22 PM

Congratulations!

4th Dec 2011, 02:40 AM	#1
pace e amore Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Homoflexible Out Status: So far only one close friend and my mom Location: Fargo Age: 19 Posts: 77 Join Date: Dec 2011	I came out today. I've been thinking about who i wanted to come out to for a while now and i decided that i would tell a girl i know from my old high school because she was very trustworthy and understanding about things, so today i contacted her via facebook and just told her. It was pretty much like any other conversation. I was extremely nervous when i first told her but she accepted me and we're still friends and everything.

4th Dec 2011, 05:27 AM	#2
fiddledeedee 22/12-31/12+X! Full Member Gender: Complicated female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Most, sans Dad Location: England Age: 15 Posts: 1,128 Join Date: May 2011	Re: I came out today. That's great! Congrats on coming out, and I'm glad that she took it so well. __________________ A problem should be measured not by the cause of the problem but by the consequences it has on a person. ~ Anfauglith

4th Dec 2011, 06:39 AM	#3
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: I came out today. Hey there, good to meet you! Well done for coming out! The first step is always the hardest, but it'll be the start of an amazing journey. That response from your old friend is a positive move, but don't expect every reply to be like that. Over time, you'll get stronger and you'll learn to deal with the idiots who won't accept you for who you are. But accepting yourself is the most important thing. Feel free to write to me if you need anything. Best, Doctor Faustus. __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

4th Dec 2011, 06:41 AM	#4
Mimerio Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Friends, Mum and Dad, teachers Location: London, England Age: 18 Posts: 229 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: I came out today. Congratulations, I remember coming out to my first person as well, Good luck with all the other people you choose as well!

4th Dec 2011, 09:13 AM	#5
dude00 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Toronto, Canada Age: 25 Posts: 21 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: I came out today. I've found once you have the courage to tell someone that is close and means a lot to you (a cousin, best friend etc) and they are supportive, it almost feels like "whats the point of hiding it anymore?" - at least that's what it feels like to me. Don't rush it - the first person I told was when I was 16 - to an online friend. The next time I told someone, I was 23, and it was my cousin. I just told one of my best friends who showed a lot of support for me, which led me to tell another really close friend of mine (both straight guys) and the support from him was also overwhelmingly accepting. It does seem to get easier as you go along, but just do it at your pace.

4th Dec 2011, 09:18 AM	#6
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: I came out today. Congrats!! __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

4th Dec 2011, 01:05 PM	#7
Hidinginalabama EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Say no to the boobs. Say hell yes to men. Out Status: Almost every one other than work Location: alabama Age: 22 Posts: 954 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: I came out today. That's awesome and so happy for you that you have started coming out to some one. It makes life so much easier when there is one less person you have to hide the real you from. And congrats again.

4th Dec 2011, 01:59 PM	#8
Gerry We're all a little mad! EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Las Vegas Age: 24 Posts: 5,551 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: I came out today. Wow that's great to hear! Congrats to you for coming out! __________________ "Everybody's journey is individual. If you fall in love with a boy, you fall in love with a boy. The fact that many Americans consider it a disease says more about them than it does about homosexuality".-James Baldwin

4th Dec 2011, 02:31 PM	#9
Mirko Molitva Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about Location: British Columbia, Canada Age: 35 Posts: 10,057 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: I came out today. Congratulations on coming out to her! Glad that it went so well and it's great that you went for it. __________________ ~ Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are ~

4th Dec 2011, 05:22 PM	#10
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: I came out today. Congratulations! __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

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