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Pilgrim is hot · 4th Dec 2011, 01:19 PM

So yeah I came out to my sister today, have to say I found it unbeleviably hard to get the words out to her and stumbled around my words for a bit before saying it, to start off with she was kind of skeptical as she thought it may be a phase, I told her I had these thoughts since I was 14 and her words were "oh wow this is kind of huge" she promised not to tell anyone but she keeps on about "doing something about it" she keeps telling me I need to go out and try it, not sure what to think about that tbh

The rest of the day was good, we went out for the whole day she didn't really talk about it, I think she may be a bit surprised, although she did ask me which celebs I like and we had a long discussion about Jared Letos hotness while at the shopping centre

that was pretty awesome.

So yeah the world didn't explode, I feel a bit odd about it tbh but her reaction seems pretty good. I think she may need time to mull it over as she seemed geniunly surprised about it. I do feel better though

Doctor Faustus · 4th Dec 2011, 01:27 PM

You feel better. That is the main thing!

Well done for coming out!

You can only go onwards and upwards from here. Not every response will be as warm or as sincere as your sister's, but over time you'll grow as a person, enough to be able to deal with and brush off idiots who can't accept you for who you are.

It's the start of a long journey, and an amazing one. Some things will get you down along the way, but now you've started don't ever look back.

Keep in touch,

Dr. F.

thecat06 · 4th Dec 2011, 03:08 PM

Congrats!! I'm glad that your sister accepts you. Also like Dr.F said, you con only go forward from here!!

alex2020 · 4th Dec 2011, 05:22 PM

Congratulations! I'm glad she took it well, and that you feel good about it!

Dewthulu · 4th Dec 2011, 05:35 PM

Congratulations! Telling your first family member is usually the hardest, and it's even worse if they took it badly. I'm glad she took it well

Ianthe · 4th Dec 2011, 07:26 PM

That's great! Your sister sounds awesome.

I don't know what she means by "try it out" either. But maybe she'd go with you to a gay club or something?

Sadepeura · 4th Dec 2011, 10:17 PM

I think that is a very good reaction. She probably just needs sometime to adjust to the idea because she might not know what being gay means exactly. Congratulations for telling her!

Nat3 · 4th Dec 2011, 10:41 PM

Congrats, and good to hear everything went well.

Pilgrim is hot · 5th Dec 2011, 12:19 PM

My sisters not talking much about it but I figure she just needs some time.

Thanks all I really don't know if I could of done it without EC, I feel really good today

4th Dec 2011, 01:19 PM	#1
Pilgrim is hot Gamer Guy Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to 2 family members and 1 friend Location: England - Somewhere in the middle Age: 24 Posts: 225 Join Date: Oct 2011	She now knows I like guys So yeah I came out to my sister today, have to say I found it unbeleviably hard to get the words out to her and stumbled around my words for a bit before saying it, to start off with she was kind of skeptical as she thought it may be a phase, I told her I had these thoughts since I was 14 and her words were "oh wow this is kind of huge" she promised not to tell anyone but she keeps on about "doing something about it" she keeps telling me I need to go out and try it, not sure what to think about that tbh The rest of the day was good, we went out for the whole day she didn't really talk about it, I think she may be a bit surprised, although she did ask me which celebs I like and we had a long discussion about Jared Letos hotness while at the shopping centre that was pretty awesome. So yeah the world didn't explode, I feel a bit odd about it tbh but her reaction seems pretty good. I think she may need time to mull it over as she seemed geniunly surprised about it. I do feel better though __________________ "Son, we want you, be elusive, but don't walk far" - David Bowie

4th Dec 2011, 01:27 PM	#2
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: She now knows I like guys You feel better. That is the main thing! Well done for coming out! You can only go onwards and upwards from here. Not every response will be as warm or as sincere as your sister's, but over time you'll grow as a person, enough to be able to deal with and brush off idiots who can't accept you for who you are. It's the start of a long journey, and an amazing one. Some things will get you down along the way, but now you've started don't ever look back. Keep in touch, Dr. F. __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

4th Dec 2011, 03:08 PM	#3
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: She now knows I like guys Congrats!! I'm glad that your sister accepts you. Also like Dr.F said, you con only go forward from here!! __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

4th Dec 2011, 05:22 PM	#4
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: She now knows I like guys Congratulations! I'm glad she took it well, and that you feel good about it! __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

4th Dec 2011, 05:35 PM	#5
Dewthulu The 14th Doctor Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 5 Out Status: Most of my friends as bi, few as gay. Location: Berkshire County, Massachusetts Age: 18 Posts: 631 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: She now knows I like guys Congratulations! Telling your first family member is usually the hardest, and it's even worse if they took it badly. I'm glad she took it well __________________ May the memories of your darkest days be regarded with less weight than that of a dream.

4th Dec 2011, 07:26 PM	#6
Ianthe EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female/Femme Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Oregon Age: 32 Posts: 1,084 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: She now knows I like guys That's great! Your sister sounds awesome. I don't know what she means by "try it out" either. But maybe she'd go with you to a gay club or something?

4th Dec 2011, 10:17 PM	#7
Sadepeura Bow ties are cool. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual lesbian in a heterosexual relationship Out Status: Most people Location: Scotland Age: 22 Posts: 343 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: She now knows I like guys I think that is a very good reaction. She probably just needs sometime to adjust to the idea because she might not know what being gay means exactly. Congratulations for telling her! __________________ "What’s the worst that could happen?" "You could get torn to pieces by a monster you can’t see." - Amy Pond

4th Dec 2011, 10:41 PM	#8
Nat3 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Human Out Status: Everyone who asks. Location: USA, Kansas Age: 21 Posts: 291 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: She now knows I like guys Congrats, and good to hear everything went well.

5th Dec 2011, 12:19 PM	#9
Pilgrim is hot Gamer Guy Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to 2 family members and 1 friend Location: England - Somewhere in the middle Age: 24 Posts: 225 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: She now knows I like guys My sisters not talking much about it but I figure she just needs some time. Thanks all I really don't know if I could of done it without EC, I feel really good today __________________ "Son, we want you, be elusive, but don't walk far" - David Bowie Last edited by Pilgrim is hot; 5th Dec 2011 at 12:22 PM..

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