I recently decided that coming out is more a state of my own mind than a question of which particular people know or don't know. As long as I don't care whether people know, then that should mean I'm out to them, whether they actually happen to know or not, right? I think I'd like to follow this approach. So, though I haven't actually done any coming out lately, I've decide to declare myself out. (except to family members - I'm not including them because in that case I think it does matter whether they really know or not)
I have to agree with you here. Sometimes I act differently around people because I'm not sure if they know I'm gay or not. When I know they know, I'm completely comfortable, and confident. I definitely need to learn that coming out, is coming to terms with myself.
I like your attitude as well. I think it can work for family too if you are close with them. The way I look at it for me is that they have known me longer than any of my friends and probably know me better than I think. Maybe you're saying that you need to tell family members directly in order for you to feel that you're out to them even if they probably already know/assume. A lot of people seem to have that feeling, although I'm not sure it's necessary, especially at your/my age, but maybe it is. I dunno really
No, I don't mean that. I agree with you that it's not necessary. But, in my case I'm sure that they don't know. Also, with them I think I still can't act like they do.
