I finally came out at work! - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Blkrsn · 15th Dec 2011, 06:20 PM

I don't know why I did, but I just did it - even without thinking.

Here is what happened, I got myself a wonderful, caring, sweet, sexy, one-of-a-kind girlfriend. Its funny, because she considers herself in a 'heterosexual' relationship with me, and calls me her boyfriend and everything. But that's besides the point.

Anyway, we've been dating for about a month now, though we've had crushes on each other for longer. I had been feeling strange when it came to her, giddy and excited, took me a few days to realize that I think I'm falling in love with her. Everyone at work noticed my change in attitude immediately, as I was always hyper and happy.

Then, my aunt was sent to Hospice. The doctors gave her less then a week to live... she died two days later. I put R.I.P Aunt (Name) as my status, and she instantly saw it, and came to try and comfort me. It was later on that night, that she told me she thought she was in love with me.

It sent me over the moon. I was so happy, that I went to work that night with a 'I don't care who knows anymore' attitude. All I could talk about was her. Surprised the hell out of my coworkers. The mixture of grief and excitement must have given me the 'f*ck the world' attitude, because I even went up to my manager ( the one I feared was homophobic ) and asked her nonchalantly, what would be a great gift for my girlfriend for Christmas.

And...

She did not even bat an eyelash. She just said, "Oh? Why not a necklace? They're on sale?"

Basically everyone who worked that night now thinks I'm gay. They don't know about my gender identity yet, but I'm waiting to see the specialist before I come out with that.

No one at work seemed to be surprised. Honestly, they acted like it was old news XD

breakingboxes · 15th Dec 2011, 06:22 PM

AWESOME! I am so glad it went well! and your girlfriend sounds fabulous!

Blkrsn · 15th Dec 2011, 06:24 PM

BreakingBoxes: She is! She's so amazing! I've been in a state of euphoria for days because of her <3

breakingboxes · 15th Dec 2011, 06:28 PM

Thats awesome!! so happy for you!! xx

hml8 · 15th Dec 2011, 06:35 PM

I'm happy for you too! that's such an amazing story it gave me a burst of energy and happiness even though it's nothing to do with me! haha!

Congrats on accounts of coming out and the great girlfriend!

Hana Solo · 15th Dec 2011, 07:43 PM

So what are you getting her for Chrissy?

dl72 · 15th Dec 2011, 08:01 PM

Cool, congrats.

Blkrsn · 16th Dec 2011, 03:49 AM

Thank you everyone! I was so shocked at their responses. Tomorrow is my monday, so we'll see what they say.

Hana Solo: I got her a sterling silver necklace in the shape of a heart. She thinks she's getting Hubba Bubba grape tape. Awhile ago, she told me that they discontinued it in the states, and she really wanted one. While I did buy one for her, I hinted openly that she was getting one, so now she thinks she's getting that - which satisfied her curiosity, and she stopped guessing - but she has no idea about the necklace.

Its kind of scary, because I think I'm actually in love with her too! Honestly, she is all I can think about! I just want to be with her! I want to be her boyfriend, her husband. Every time I talk to her, she brings up the subject of children, and though I usually say I don't want kids, when it comes to her, I do. I know I can never consummate a child with her, because even if I have the sex change, I will be sterile. I still don't care! I've always wanted to adopt a girl from China, and she agrees - as long as she can go to the sperm bank to go through a normal pregnancy as well.

We were joking around and she said she would love to have 3 or 4 children, she said she if she could, she'd love to adopt siblings, just to make sure they don't get separated. That just made my night, because the same thing happened to my mother. She and all her sisters were adopted by the same family, so they were not split up, and I know how much that meant to my Mom. But personally, I think its too early to talk babies. She wants to buy a house together, and I want the same so bad!

I can no longer wait for January! I want to start T so bad! I want to be a man, I want to be the perfect husband and one day, the perfect father... but I guess I am getting ahead of myself.

Anyway, back on track, Tomorrow I go back to work for a few days ( I go on bereavement on monday to go to my Aunts Funeral ), so we'll see how it goes... I'll let you all know.

bardgrl · 19th Dec 2011, 06:54 PM

Aw, thats so cute

Im happy for you.

19th Dec 2011, 07:31 PM

I'm sorry to read of your Aunt's passing--may she be at peace now...On the much brighter side--Congratulations on having a super girlfriend and coming out to your co-workers! Yeah to that!!!! Keep the good energy going!!!

thecat06 · 19th Dec 2011, 08:36 PM

Congrats on coming out!!

I'm sorry about your aunt, losing a family member is hard.

Hana Solo · 19th Dec 2011, 11:01 PM

Sounds nice

I'm sorry about your aunt

Aielar · 27th Dec 2011, 10:47 AM

What a heartwarming story...thanks for sharing

Sorry to hear about your aunt though, I'll keep you in my thoughts.

**EM68** · 27th Dec 2011, 12:18 PM

Congrats on coming out at work and sorry about your aunt.

Hidinginalabama · 27th Dec 2011, 01:18 PM

Thats so awesome about you and your girlfriend and on coming out at work. So sorry to hear about your aunt.

15th Dec 2011, 06:20 PM	#1
Blkrsn Well Known Regular Member Gender: Transgender ( FtM ) Orientation: Since I'm trans, I guess I'm straight :) Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Canada Posts: 138 Join Date: Oct 2011	I finally came out at work! I don't know why I did, but I just did it - even without thinking. Here is what happened, I got myself a wonderful, caring, sweet, sexy, one-of-a-kind girlfriend. Its funny, because she considers herself in a 'heterosexual' relationship with me, and calls me her boyfriend and everything. But that's besides the point. Anyway, we've been dating for about a month now, though we've had crushes on each other for longer. I had been feeling strange when it came to her, giddy and excited, took me a few days to realize that I think I'm falling in love with her. Everyone at work noticed my change in attitude immediately, as I was always hyper and happy. Then, my aunt was sent to Hospice. The doctors gave her less then a week to live... she died two days later. I put R.I.P Aunt (Name) as my status, and she instantly saw it, and came to try and comfort me. It was later on that night, that she told me she thought she was in love with me. It sent me over the moon. I was so happy, that I went to work that night with a 'I don't care who knows anymore' attitude. All I could talk about was her. Surprised the hell out of my coworkers. The mixture of grief and excitement must have given me the 'f*ck the world' attitude, because I even went up to my manager ( the one I feared was homophobic ) and asked her nonchalantly, what would be a great gift for my girlfriend for Christmas. And... She did not even bat an eyelash. She just said, "Oh? Why not a necklace? They're on sale?" Basically everyone who worked that night now thinks I'm gay. They don't know about my gender identity yet, but I'm waiting to see the specialist before I come out with that. No one at work seemed to be surprised. Honestly, they acted like it was old news XD __________________ Frozen and broken. Don't know where you're going. Losing your identity. You're so caught up in hiding, but everybody sees. You're never gonna feel, you're never gonna heal, you're never gonna know what's fake or real 'Til you know who you are.

15th Dec 2011, 06:22 PM	#2
breakingboxes Happily Married. :) Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: USA Age: 21 Posts: 438 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: I finally came out at work! AWESOME! I am so glad it went well! and your girlfriend sounds fabulous!

15th Dec 2011, 06:24 PM	#3
Blkrsn Well Known Regular Member Gender: Transgender ( FtM ) Orientation: Since I'm trans, I guess I'm straight :) Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Canada Posts: 138 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: I finally came out at work! BreakingBoxes: She is! She's so amazing! I've been in a state of euphoria for days because of her <3 __________________ Frozen and broken. Don't know where you're going. Losing your identity. You're so caught up in hiding, but everybody sees. You're never gonna feel, you're never gonna heal, you're never gonna know what's fake or real 'Til you know who you are.

15th Dec 2011, 06:28 PM	#4
breakingboxes Happily Married. :) Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: USA Age: 21 Posts: 438 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: I finally came out at work! Thats awesome!! so happy for you!! xx

15th Dec 2011, 06:35 PM	#5
hml8 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Canterbury, Kent or Southend, Essex Age: 21 Posts: 424 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: I finally came out at work! I'm happy for you too! that's such an amazing story it gave me a burst of energy and happiness even though it's nothing to do with me! haha! Congrats on accounts of coming out and the great girlfriend! __________________ 'I feel pretty, Oh so pretty, I feel pretty and witty and gay' . . . hums on

15th Dec 2011, 07:43 PM	#6
Hana Solo EC's Dear Abby- talk to me! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Mostly into girls Out Status: Closet is getting a little crowded Location: Not even a dot on the Australian map Age: 17 Posts: 1,096 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: I finally came out at work! So what are you getting her for Chrissy? __________________ Thor: No matter what he's done, Loki is from Asgard and is my brother Black Widow: He killed 80 people in two days. Thor: ...adopted. ~The Avengers, 2012

15th Dec 2011, 08:01 PM	#7
dl72 EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: To one person only Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 350 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: I finally came out at work! Cool, congrats.

16th Dec 2011, 03:49 AM	#8
Blkrsn Well Known Regular Member Gender: Transgender ( FtM ) Orientation: Since I'm trans, I guess I'm straight :) Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Canada Posts: 138 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: I finally came out at work! Thank you everyone! I was so shocked at their responses. Tomorrow is my monday, so we'll see what they say. Hana Solo: I got her a sterling silver necklace in the shape of a heart. She thinks she's getting Hubba Bubba grape tape. Awhile ago, she told me that they discontinued it in the states, and she really wanted one. While I did buy one for her, I hinted openly that she was getting one, so now she thinks she's getting that - which satisfied her curiosity, and she stopped guessing - but she has no idea about the necklace. Its kind of scary, because I think I'm actually in love with her too! Honestly, she is all I can think about! I just want to be with her! I want to be her boyfriend, her husband. Every time I talk to her, she brings up the subject of children, and though I usually say I don't want kids, when it comes to her, I do. I know I can never consummate a child with her, because even if I have the sex change, I will be sterile. I still don't care! I've always wanted to adopt a girl from China, and she agrees - as long as she can go to the sperm bank to go through a normal pregnancy as well. We were joking around and she said she would love to have 3 or 4 children, she said she if she could, she'd love to adopt siblings, just to make sure they don't get separated. That just made my night, because the same thing happened to my mother. She and all her sisters were adopted by the same family, so they were not split up, and I know how much that meant to my Mom. But personally, I think its too early to talk babies. She wants to buy a house together, and I want the same so bad! I can no longer wait for January! I want to start T so bad! I want to be a man, I want to be the perfect husband and one day, the perfect father... but I guess I am getting ahead of myself. Anyway, back on track, Tomorrow I go back to work for a few days ( I go on bereavement on monday to go to my Aunts Funeral ), so we'll see how it goes... I'll let you all know. __________________ Frozen and broken. Don't know where you're going. Losing your identity. You're so caught up in hiding, but everybody sees. You're never gonna feel, you're never gonna heal, you're never gonna know what's fake or real 'Til you know who you are.

19th Dec 2011, 06:54 PM	#9
bardgrl Newbie Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: To my direct family, some friends, and a teacher Location: Washington Posts: 7 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: I finally came out at work! Aw, thats so cute Im happy for you.

19th Dec 2011, 07:31 PM	#10
Gitano65 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: I finally came out at work! I'm sorry to read of your Aunt's passing--may she be at peace now...On the much brighter side--Congratulations on having a super girlfriend and coming out to your co-workers! Yeah to that!!!! Keep the good energy going!!!

19th Dec 2011, 08:36 PM	#11
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: I finally came out at work! Congrats on coming out!! I'm sorry about your aunt, losing a family member is hard. __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

19th Dec 2011, 11:01 PM	#12
Hana Solo EC's Dear Abby- talk to me! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Mostly into girls Out Status: Closet is getting a little crowded Location: Not even a dot on the Australian map Age: 17 Posts: 1,096 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: I finally came out at work! Sounds nice I'm sorry about your aunt __________________ Thor: No matter what he's done, Loki is from Asgard and is my brother Black Widow: He killed 80 people in two days. Thor: ...adopted. ~The Avengers, 2012

27th Dec 2011, 10:47 AM	#13
Aielar Timmies Lover <3 Full Member Gender: Possibly bigendered? Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but family Location: Vancouver Island Posts: 221 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: I finally came out at work! What a heartwarming story...thanks for sharing Sorry to hear about your aunt though, I'll keep you in my thoughts.

27th Dec 2011, 12:18 PM	#14
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: I finally came out at work! Congrats on coming out at work and sorry about your aunt. __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

27th Dec 2011, 01:18 PM	#15
Hidinginalabama EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Say no to the boobs. Say hell yes to men. Out Status: Almost every one other than work Location: alabama Age: 22 Posts: 954 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: I finally came out at work! Thats so awesome about you and your girlfriend and on coming out at work. So sorry to hear about your aunt.

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