"Thank You, Dad." - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

LdSlnce · 16th Dec 2011, 02:26 PM

Well...I actually came out to my dad today! It was rather emotional, but no tears were shed! He was really cool about it, actually. The night before he told me he wanted to talk, but not at that moment because he had a beer or two. Needless to say, sleep was hard to find. A lot of thoughts came and went...nervous wreck is the word to descrbie myself.

When my mom left to run some errands, he started talking - after coffee was made and I begged. He just wanted to know why I was back to harming myself. To which I told him it was just anger or boredom. We ended up discussing the anger part, and then he told me that I just need to not let others affect me. After that was said, he looked me dead in the eye and said, "That includes your sexuality."

Want to know my response? I chuckled nervously. Talk about a dead give away...

He asked me if I wanted to know what he told my mom when she told him I said that the sexuality thing was a phase and that I was over it. Can you blame me for nodding like an idiot? He's so messed up...he made me guess!

"What, you think I lied to her?" Was my smart guess.

"Well, actually, yeah. Kinda. I told her that I think you were just telling her what she wanted to hear." And then he looked down. At this, I did the gulp. You know, the one that means "I'm so screwed." When he looked up, he asked if he was right. Seeing no point in lying to him, I confirmed.

He is seriously amazing; he took the time to listen to me rant about how I know it isn't a phase because I've always felt a pull to girls. And he gave me advice on how to come out when I went onto that subject. I ended up revelaing that I was thinking about telling them when Dough Boy comes to visit with his wife. He helped me think about the possible scenarios - good and bad. He was so great about it. He told me that nothing he felt for me changed at all; he still loved me. Granted, he would prefer me to not be "gay", but he explained that's how most parents are.

"You don't want to think your kid is. It's how other peoples' kids are, but not yours." Were his words pretty much.

Want to know what else is amazing? He listened to me talk about my crushes that I've had. And he told me that I needed to love myself because God loves me; that I need to forgive myself because God forgives me. He made me one of the happiest people alive when he talked on and on about how I shouldn't be scared of anyone because they are not God.

It was an amzing talk that ended with me coming over to him, giving him a hug and saying, "Thank you, Dad."

I don't think he'll ever understand how thankful I am.

zoezoewriter · 16th Dec 2011, 02:30 PM

Wonderful! I love it when things work out for people...

here is no why · 16th Dec 2011, 02:41 PM

Thats so great. Delighted for you

Noir · 16th Dec 2011, 02:59 PM

Aww, I love that! Congrats! ^-^

Hana Solo · 16th Dec 2011, 04:06 PM

Aww that's so nice

Dewthulu · 16th Dec 2011, 07:38 PM

That's wonderful.

This forum is filled with stories where the parents didn't accept their kids for who they liked. It's a comfort to read a story where the parent is actually accepting, for once.

LdSlnce · 16th Dec 2011, 08:57 PM

Thanks everyone! I'm so happy about it and am now going to tell me best friend. We have a party going on tomorrow and she'll be coming over with her family. Hopefully I'll get her alone and be able to tell her. I don't think she'll react badly; she's very accepting to gays and stuff... She just doesn't want a lesbian to flirt with her because she'll feel awkward; she's had past experiences with it, it made me laugh so hard with how she described it

But still...wish me luck!

Hidinginalabama · 16th Dec 2011, 10:13 PM

It is a amazing feeling when one or both of your parents are so accepting like your dad was. So happy to hear it went that great. And congrats on coming out to him. I know it wasn't easy. It never is but it so worth it in the end.

fiddledeedee · 17th Dec 2011, 09:18 AM

Congrats on coming out – your dad is amazing! And I'm definitely wishing oyu luck with your friend.

LdSlnce · 17th Dec 2011, 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by fiddledeedee

Congrats on coming out – your dad is amazing! And I'm definitely wishing oyu luck with your friend.

He is! He really helped me in admitting that I am comfortable and happy with being attracted to girls - in a day!

Thank you! She might be accepting, but shock is definitely something I'd expect with my history that she knows about. And she's coming in a few hours! Nerves are killing me right now! Time for a drink of courage

WSPXRT · 26th Dec 2011, 04:07 PM

This is one of my favorite one's I've read yet.

jimL · 26th Dec 2011, 07:21 PM

This brought tears to my eyes. Your so lucky!

LdSlnce · 26th Dec 2011, 07:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WSPXRT

This is one of my favorite one's I've read yet.

Wow, for real? 0.0 Thank you...

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Originally Posted by jimL

This brought tears to my eyes. Your so lucky!

Thi comment made me read it again...and brought tears to my eyes. Thank you(:

16th Dec 2011, 02:26 PM	#1
LdSlnce Banned Regular Member Gender: Fancy Orientation: I like who I like Out Status: It's getting complicated! Location: Not On Your Street Posts: 153 Join Date: Dec 2011	"Thank You, Dad." Well...I actually came out to my dad today! It was rather emotional, but no tears were shed! He was really cool about it, actually. The night before he told me he wanted to talk, but not at that moment because he had a beer or two. Needless to say, sleep was hard to find. A lot of thoughts came and went...nervous wreck is the word to descrbie myself. When my mom left to run some errands, he started talking - after coffee was made and I begged. He just wanted to know why I was back to harming myself. To which I told him it was just anger or boredom. We ended up discussing the anger part, and then he told me that I just need to not let others affect me. After that was said, he looked me dead in the eye and said, "That includes your sexuality." Want to know my response? I chuckled nervously. Talk about a dead give away... He asked me if I wanted to know what he told my mom when she told him I said that the sexuality thing was a phase and that I was over it. Can you blame me for nodding like an idiot? He's so messed up...he made me guess! "What, you think I lied to her?" Was my smart guess. "Well, actually, yeah. Kinda. I told her that I think you were just telling her what she wanted to hear." And then he looked down. At this, I did the gulp. You know, the one that means "I'm so screwed." When he looked up, he asked if he was right. Seeing no point in lying to him, I confirmed. He is seriously amazing; he took the time to listen to me rant about how I know it isn't a phase because I've always felt a pull to girls. And he gave me *advice* on how to come out when I went onto that subject. I ended up revelaing that I was thinking about telling them when Dough Boy comes to visit with his wife. He helped me think about the possible scenarios - good and bad. He was so great about it. He told me that nothing he felt for me changed at all; he still loved me. Granted, he would prefer me to not be "gay", but he explained that's how most parents are. "You don't want to think your kid is. It's how other peoples' kids are, but not yours." Were his words pretty much. Want to know what else is amazing? He listened to me talk about my crushes that I've had. And he told me that I needed to love myself because God loves me; that I need to forgive myself because God forgives me. He made me one of the happiest people alive when he talked on and on about how I shouldn't be scared of anyone because they are not God. It was an amzing talk that ended with me coming over to him, giving him a hug and saying, "Thank you, Dad." I don't think he'll ever understand how thankful I am.

16th Dec 2011, 02:30 PM	#2
zoezoewriter Солнышко моё... Не запомний меня. Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Imediate family, Facebook, school :P Location: Florida, USA (AKA Where the old go to die) Age: 14 Posts: 51 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: "Thank You, Dad." Wonderful! I love it when things work out for people... __________________ See ? I'm normal. See ? I'm angry. See ? I'm depressed. See ? Run.

16th Dec 2011, 02:41 PM	#3
here is no why Newbie Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Posts: 6 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: "Thank You, Dad." Thats so great. Delighted for you

16th Dec 2011, 02:59 PM	#4
Noir EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A select few Location: Missing Age: 18 Posts: 361 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: "Thank You, Dad." Aww, I love that! Congrats! ^-^ __________________ The opposite of love isn't hate--it's indifference.

16th Dec 2011, 04:06 PM	#5
Hana Solo EC's Dear Abby- talk to me! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Mostly into girls Out Status: Closet is getting a little crowded Location: Not even a dot on the Australian map Age: 17 Posts: 1,096 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: "Thank You, Dad." Aww that's so nice __________________ Thor: No matter what he's done, Loki is from Asgard and is my brother Black Widow: He killed 80 people in two days. Thor: ...adopted. ~The Avengers, 2012

16th Dec 2011, 07:38 PM	#6
Dewthulu The 14th Doctor Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 5 Out Status: Most of my friends as bi, few as gay. Location: Berkshire County, Massachusetts Age: 18 Posts: 631 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: "Thank You, Dad." That's wonderful. This forum is filled with stories where the parents didn't accept their kids for who they liked. It's a comfort to read a story where the parent is actually accepting, for once. __________________ May the memories of your darkest days be regarded with less weight than that of a dream.

16th Dec 2011, 08:57 PM	#7
LdSlnce Banned Regular Member Gender: Fancy Orientation: I like who I like Out Status: It's getting complicated! Location: Not On Your Street Posts: 153 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: "Thank You, Dad." Thanks everyone! I'm so happy about it and am now going to tell me best friend. We have a party going on tomorrow and she'll be coming over with her family. Hopefully I'll get her alone and be able to tell her. I don't think she'll react badly; she's very accepting to gays and stuff... She just doesn't want a lesbian to flirt with her because she'll feel awkward; she's had past experiences with it, it made me laugh so hard with how she described it But still...wish me luck!

16th Dec 2011, 10:13 PM	#8
Hidinginalabama EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Say no to the boobs. Say hell yes to men. Out Status: Almost every one other than work Location: alabama Age: 22 Posts: 954 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: "Thank You, Dad." It is a amazing feeling when one or both of your parents are so accepting like your dad was. So happy to hear it went that great. And congrats on coming out to him. I know it wasn't easy. It never is but it so worth it in the end.

17th Dec 2011, 09:18 AM	#9
fiddledeedee 22/12-31/12+X! Full Member Gender: Complicated female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Most, sans Dad Location: England Age: 15 Posts: 1,128 Join Date: May 2011	Re: "Thank You, Dad." Congrats on coming out – your dad is amazing! And I'm definitely wishing oyu luck with your friend. __________________ A problem should be measured not by the cause of the problem but by the consequences it has on a person. ~ Anfauglith

26th Dec 2011, 04:07 PM	#11
WSPXRT Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Questioning Out Status: Two people down this week. More to come. Location: Virginia Posts: 22 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: "Thank You, Dad." This is one of my favorite one's I've read yet.

26th Dec 2011, 07:21 PM	#12
jimL I Can't Even Think Straight Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Sexy hot guys Out Status: Family, friends, work, anyone who asks!!!! Location: Oregon, USA Posts: 308 Join Date: May 2011	Re: "Thank You, Dad." This brought tears to my eyes. Your so lucky! __________________ Jim Learning to love who I am! And no longer ashamed to be gay!!!!!