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It's Happening. I'm telling my parents.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by FJ Cruiser, Dec 30, 2011.

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  1. FJ Cruiser

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    So tonight, after hanging out with friends, I came home, and it was just my parents and I hanging out in the living room. I finally felt like it was a good time to tell them. I just typed out some thoughts on my computer, telling them I'm gay and all that jazz, and printed two copies out.

    I couldn't get myself to actually give them the papers. When my mom asked, I just replied very awkwardly "Uhh...something" and kept them by my side until they went to sleep. I told them I was going on a walk as they were going to bed, and when they left the room, I put the papers on their chairs. As I went on the walk, my mom texted from her bedroom that she noticed I was in a weird mood. Now I'm just waiting to go to sleep, and I'm nervous, but feeling good.
     
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    Congratulations! Hope they take it well~
     
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    Good luck! I do hope that everything turns out well.
     
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    wow bro, i hope the conversation goes ok. i know how it was when i told my parents and it was a bit awkward, but it did go ok. peace man, totally with you, Me
     
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    Good luck! Keep us posted!
     
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    Well done man! Good luck!
     
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    Good luck! Hope they will take it well.
     
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    Best of luck :slight_smile: Keep us posted :slight_smile:
     
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    That's amazing! I hope everything turns out amazing for you.
     
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    Good luck man!! I did something similar with my parents. I left the note on the bathroom counter right before leaving for school at the end of Easter break. I remember feeling exactly how you've described. YOU CAN DO THIS! Congratulations!
     
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    Well done for building up the courage to do, hope it goes well for you! Good luck :slight_smile:
     
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    So my dad's out with friends, but I've talked with my mom. She got all teary-eyed like she usually does about these things, and she is very "concerned." I tried to alleviate those concerns, but I don't think I made her feel any better. Still, just talking with her, a saw her change a little bit from tolerance toward acceptance. She's reacting a lot better than I would have expected.

    My dad, who I thought already had a good idea and would be rather libertarian about things, is, according to my mom, numb and shocked. I'm planning on talking to him this afternoon. The good news is that his best friend is very open-minded, having a transsexual brother and a gay best friend in college, and he'll be able to talk to him about this.

    I also apparently chose a very good method for telling them. This has been very uncomfortable, but relieving. I guess that's how letting your guard down feels.
     
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    Congrats on telling your parents. :thumbsup:
     
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    Great job! I'd never do it in person either since like your mom, mine would get all emotional and wouldn't know how to respond. It's good to give them some time to process it before talking to you. I hope it goes well with your dad. Congratulations! :thumbsup:
     
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    Good job! You're so close!

    One side note: If you can't give them those papers and you can't tell them with your words, try putting those papers into email and sending it. I did that with one of my friends, and it just tends to work better since you can't step back at the last second, that is, unless you count the second before hitting the send button the last second.

    -Hulu
     
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    Great job. The hard part is over now. I'm proud of you without even knowing who you are. :slight_smile: Welcome to the club!
    The only thing I want to do is just give you a gentle reminder that you can't expect it will take anyone else less time to accept it than it took you. Now you're on your way! Congratulations!
     
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    Congrats! Hope things go well with your dad. Goodluck dude
     
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    Congrats! Now it's almost time to bask in that relieved feeling when it's all over and done with and the initial awkward convo is out of the way. And if nothing else, you've got half your parent's support (and likely the other half too) :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I took a break from hanging out with friends to talk to my dad, and he is dumbfounded and in a complete state of shock. My mom filled him in, and it was pretty awkward just talking to him about it. Overall, neither of them understands it at all, but I feel like they will come around just fine after some time.

    Surprises: My mom seems to be taking it much better than I expected, and my dad wasn't as open as I expected. They didn't needle me too much about faith issues. I kept my composure very well, which was incredibly important in their taking me seriously.
     
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    Ah! 4!
    I'm so glad it's going well so far!
    Keep us posted! :slight_smile:
     
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