Coming out to my friend - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

dairyuu · 3rd Jan 2012, 01:06 PM

I'm new here, but I just wanted to share my coming out story

Ever since I was 8 (it's a really long story I won't go into here) I had known I was gay, but never told anyone. I've always had a very active imagination, and the repression of my feelings caused nightly bad dreams and general insomnia. I'd often run to my mom in the middle of the night, terrified. Long story short, I moved, switched schools twice, and then stayed at my last school (middle school). During 8th grade, I promised myself I'd tell someone (I had accepted myself by then and was sure of what I was doing). One night, my parents had left the house and my grandparents were babysitting my sister and I. I was in my room texting my friend (she was a good friend, but not one of my best friends. she was trustworthy, though.) We were talking about crushes (and her relationship problems, I'm like her counselor) and she asks me who my crush is. I wasn't planning to come out to her yet.
me: "well, I don't want to tell you"
her: "oh, c'mon! please"
me: "guess"
her: (names a few popular pretty girls)
me: "nope"
her: "is it (name of guy crush, meant as a joke)?"
me: "you're amazing! how'd you know"
She told me that she accepted me unconditionally and that she wouldn't tell anyone. (to this day, I can't hear the text tone I had that night because it brings back the memory of being scared.) That night, I went to sleep. That was the first night in 5 years where I didn't have one bad dream.

Well, that's my coming out story. Thanks for reading!

Hidinginalabama · 3rd Jan 2012, 01:58 PM

Frist of all welcome to EC. I hope you find this site as helpful as I do. And congrats on coming out to some one. I only wish that I was able to accept myself as young as you were. Again congrats you are a amazing person for doing what your doing at your age.

dairyuu · 3rd Jan 2012, 02:08 PM

Thanks! Actually, that was back in april. Basically everyone besides some family members and some friends know now (it was kind of a slippery-slope situation after I first came out.)

Sidneyer · 3rd Jan 2012, 04:53 PM

Congratulations. I hope that you're doing well with night mares now. Not having them anymore. I always like to hear that it turned out well.

dairyuu · 3rd Jan 2012, 05:17 PM

Oh no. I know it sounds stupid and childish, but holding something like that in for 5 years really screws up a kid's brain, especially because I realized it almost too early (and had the spare time to think about it over and over and over). God, I feel so embarrassed talking about it! Sorry!

Sidneyer · 3rd Jan 2012, 05:39 PM

I've held it in for a long time I'm 27 I just started to come out slowly this week I wish I had done it at your age my life may have been a lot better congratulations on being so brave

dairyuu · 3rd Jan 2012, 06:04 PM

Thanks! really means a lot!

MusicMan12 · 3rd Jan 2012, 06:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dairyuu

That was the first night in 5 years where I didn't have one bad dream.

This made me smile! congrats!

Suiadan · 3rd Jan 2012, 07:56 PM

Very cool! So far the 5 friends I have told have all been really accepting. They just treat my like their gay best friend and I hate it so much XD

dairyuu · 3rd Jan 2012, 08:43 PM

Really? Lol. Sometimes my friends do that too, but not to shop or anything (I'm not really feminine). Usually just for relationship advice, which I'm usually good at giving.

3rd Jan 2012, 01:06 PM	#1
dairyuu Japan-obsessed Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone I care about (minus some family/friends) Location: Los Angeles, unfortunately Posts: 119 Join Date: Jan 2012	Coming out to my friend I'm new here, but I just wanted to share my coming out story Ever since I was 8 (it's a really long story I won't go into here) I had known I was gay, but never told anyone. I've always had a very active imagination, and the repression of my feelings caused nightly bad dreams and general insomnia. I'd often run to my mom in the middle of the night, terrified. Long story short, I moved, switched schools twice, and then stayed at my last school (middle school). During 8th grade, I promised myself I'd tell someone (I had accepted myself by then and was sure of what I was doing). One night, my parents had left the house and my grandparents were babysitting my sister and I. I was in my room texting my friend (she was a good friend, but not one of my best friends. she was trustworthy, though.) We were talking about crushes (and her relationship problems, I'm like her counselor) and she asks me who my crush is. I wasn't planning to come out to her yet. me: "well, I don't want to tell you" her: "oh, c'mon! please" me: "guess" her: (names a few popular pretty girls) me: "nope" her: "is it (name of guy crush, meant as a joke)?" me: "you're amazing! how'd you know" She told me that she accepted me unconditionally and that she wouldn't tell anyone. (to this day, I can't hear the text tone I had that night because it brings back the memory of being scared.) That night, I went to sleep. That was the first night in 5 years where I didn't have one bad dream. Well, that's my coming out story. Thanks for reading! __________________ Aide oh Seigneur, aide les miens J'implore ta clémence, pour ceux qui n'on rien Dieu aide les exclus, les pauvres et les gueux Puisque nous sommes tous les enfants de Dieu

3rd Jan 2012, 01:58 PM	#2
Hidinginalabama EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Say no to the boobs. Say hell yes to men. Out Status: Almost every one other than work Location: alabama Age: 22 Posts: 954 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Coming out to my friend Frist of all welcome to EC. I hope you find this site as helpful as I do. And congrats on coming out to some one. I only wish that I was able to accept myself as young as you were. Again congrats you are a amazing person for doing what your doing at your age.

3rd Jan 2012, 02:08 PM	#3
dairyuu Japan-obsessed Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone I care about (minus some family/friends) Location: Los Angeles, unfortunately Posts: 119 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Coming out to my friend Thanks! Actually, that was back in april. Basically everyone besides some family members and some friends know now (it was kind of a slippery-slope situation after I first came out.) __________________ Aide oh Seigneur, aide les miens J'implore ta clémence, pour ceux qui n'on rien Dieu aide les exclus, les pauvres et les gueux Puisque nous sommes tous les enfants de Dieu

3rd Jan 2012, 04:53 PM	#4
Sidneyer Sid Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Manchester, NH Age: 27 Posts: 13 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Coming out to my friend Congratulations. I hope that you're doing well with night mares now. Not having them anymore. I always like to hear that it turned out well.

3rd Jan 2012, 05:17 PM	#5
dairyuu Japan-obsessed Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone I care about (minus some family/friends) Location: Los Angeles, unfortunately Posts: 119 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Coming out to my friend Oh no. I know it sounds stupid and childish, but holding something like that in for 5 years really screws up a kid's brain, especially because I realized it almost too early (and had the spare time to think about it over and over and over). God, I feel so embarrassed talking about it! Sorry! __________________ Aide oh Seigneur, aide les miens J'implore ta clémence, pour ceux qui n'on rien Dieu aide les exclus, les pauvres et les gueux Puisque nous sommes tous les enfants de Dieu

3rd Jan 2012, 05:39 PM	#6
Sidneyer Sid Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Manchester, NH Age: 27 Posts: 13 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Coming out to my friend I've held it in for a long time I'm 27 I just started to come out slowly this week I wish I had done it at your age my life may have been a lot better congratulations on being so brave

3rd Jan 2012, 06:04 PM	#7
dairyuu Japan-obsessed Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone I care about (minus some family/friends) Location: Los Angeles, unfortunately Posts: 119 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Coming out to my friend Thanks! really means a lot! __________________ Aide oh Seigneur, aide les miens J'implore ta clémence, pour ceux qui n'on rien Dieu aide les exclus, les pauvres et les gueux Puisque nous sommes tous les enfants de Dieu

3rd Jan 2012, 07:56 PM	#9
Suiadan Newbie Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Califorina Age: 15 Posts: 6 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Coming out to my friend Very cool! So far the 5 friends I have told have all been really accepting. They just treat my like their gay best friend and I hate it so much XD __________________ "Everyone has secrets, my friend, and has a right to keep them when there is need." - Richard Cypher (Craig Horner)

3rd Jan 2012, 08:43 PM	#10
dairyuu Japan-obsessed Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone I care about (minus some family/friends) Location: Los Angeles, unfortunately Posts: 119 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Coming out to my friend Really? Lol. Sometimes my friends do that too, but not to shop or anything (I'm not really feminine). Usually just for relationship advice, which I'm usually good at giving. __________________ Aide oh Seigneur, aide les miens J'implore ta clémence, pour ceux qui n'on rien Dieu aide les exclus, les pauvres et les gueux Puisque nous sommes tous les enfants de Dieu

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