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NOTaphase109 · 4th Jan 2012, 03:32 PM

So I finally came out to my dad. I just went up to him and said dad, I'm bisexual. I thought it was going well until I started crying. I don't know why, but everything went from ok to a mess at that moment. He said that he was fine with it, but he also said that I shouldn't jump to conclusions (he thinks I'm going to turn out gay). I was still crying when I told him I had a crush on one of my same sex friends. I felt a little better when he said 'I hope shes cute, preferably rich.'

---------- Post added 4th Jan 2012 at 03:37 PM ----------

I don't know how the double post happened, sorry guys.

Hidinginalabama · 4th Jan 2012, 04:12 PM

That is awesome that you came out to your dad. I know how hard it is to tell your parents. And even more awesome that he was cool and accepting with it.

As for crying when you told him its not that big of a deal really. I dont know many people that didnt cry when they told there parents or a family member. I cryed for an hour when I told my parents. It happens its a really big step that you did and you should be super proud of your self. Way to go you.

Noir · 4th Jan 2012, 04:41 PM

That's great! It's no big deal if you cry, I think everyone does at least a little, even without showing it. Lol, I'm glad your Dad took it so well!

Vivi · 5th Jan 2012, 01:32 PM

Congrats on having the courage to do that. It's great that your dad was so supportive. And i wouldn't worry about the crying, it's an emotional step for a lot of people.

Sidneyer · 5th Jan 2012, 04:10 PM

Congratulations still working up to that

Artemicion · 5th Jan 2012, 05:00 PM

Congrats! Your dad's funny lol. Well I know I cried a bit when I came out to my mom, no idea what came over me, but it was my first coming out ...so it was a mess of complicated feelings.

hml8 · 6th Jan 2012, 03:24 PM

congratulations! don't worry about the crying it can be really emotional! It sounds lke you'd be able to talk to him about things really easily so that's great!

thevedman · 7th Jan 2012, 01:05 AM

Well done for telling your dad mate! That's really amazing! You should be so proud of yourself!

NOTaphase109 · 7th Jan 2012, 06:39 PM

Thanks for all of the support guys,

I'm so glad I found this website.

No One · 8th Jan 2012, 11:04 PM

I totally wish my parents would make jokes about it rather than saying "Homosexuality is the same as Pedophilia".

CONGRATS!!!!!

**TheEdend** · 9th Jan 2012, 08:28 AM

A little late, but congrats!

Coming out to parents can bring a lot of emotions that you didn't even know you were feeling. I know that I personally cried right after I told my dad. Came out of nowhere and I hadn't expected it at all.

Hope everything keep gong well for you

4th Jan 2012, 03:32 PM	#1
NOTaphase109 Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: 5 friends and dad Location: Baltimore Posts: 15 Join Date: Dec 2011	Well, that was awkward So I finally came out to my dad. I just went up to him and said dad, I'm bisexual. I thought it was going well until I started crying. I don't know why, but everything went from ok to a mess at that moment. He said that he was fine with it, but he also said that I shouldn't jump to conclusions (he thinks I'm going to turn out gay). I was still crying when I told him I had a crush on one of my same sex friends. I felt a little better when he said 'I hope shes cute, preferably rich.' ---------- Post added 4th Jan 2012 at 03:37 PM ---------- I don't know how the double post happened, sorry guys. __________________ Mars aint the kind of place to raise your kids. In fact its cold as hell.

4th Jan 2012, 04:12 PM	#2
Hidinginalabama EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Say no to the boobs. Say hell yes to men. Out Status: Almost every one other than work Location: alabama Age: 22 Posts: 954 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Well, that was awkward That is awesome that you came out to your dad. I know how hard it is to tell your parents. And even more awesome that he was cool and accepting with it. As for crying when you told him its not that big of a deal really. I dont know many people that didnt cry when they told there parents or a family member. I cryed for an hour when I told my parents. It happens its a really big step that you did and you should be super proud of your self. Way to go you.

4th Jan 2012, 04:41 PM	#3
Noir EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A select few Location: Missing Age: 18 Posts: 361 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Well, that was awkward That's great! It's no big deal if you cry, I think everyone does at least a little, even without showing it. Lol, I'm glad your Dad took it so well! __________________ The opposite of love isn't hate--it's indifference.

5th Jan 2012, 01:32 PM	#4
Vivi Black Mage Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Ireland Age: 23 Posts: 152 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Well, that was awkward Congrats on having the courage to do that. It's great that your dad was so supportive. And i wouldn't worry about the crying, it's an emotional step for a lot of people. __________________ "Standing alone, eager to just believe it's good enough to be what you are. But in your heart uncertainty forever lies, and you'll always be somewhere on the outside."

5th Jan 2012, 04:10 PM	#5
Sidneyer Sid Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Manchester, NH Age: 27 Posts: 13 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Well, that was awkward Congratulations still working up to that

5th Jan 2012, 05:00 PM	#6
Artemicion :D :D :D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Anyone who asks, but parents in denial. Location: Vancouver BC Canada Age: 23 Posts: 1,112 Join Date: Aug 2010	Re: Well, that was awkward Congrats! Your dad's funny lol. Well I know I cried a bit when I came out to my mom, no idea what came over me, but it was my first coming out ...so it was a mess of complicated feelings.

6th Jan 2012, 03:24 PM	#7
hml8 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Canterbury, Kent or Southend, Essex Age: 21 Posts: 424 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Well, that was awkward congratulations! don't worry about the crying it can be really emotional! It sounds lke you'd be able to talk to him about things really easily so that's great! __________________ 'I feel pretty, Oh so pretty, I feel pretty and witty and gay' . . . hums on

7th Jan 2012, 01:05 AM	#8
thevedman Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Guys Out Status: More people these days :-) Location: UK Posts: 131 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Well, that was awkward Well done for telling your dad mate! That's really amazing! You should be so proud of yourself! __________________ And the wind keeps rollin' And the sky keeps turning grey And the sun is setting The sun will rise another day

7th Jan 2012, 06:39 PM	#9
NOTaphase109 Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: 5 friends and dad Location: Baltimore Posts: 15 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Well, that was awkward Thanks for all of the support guys, I'm so glad I found this website. __________________ Mars aint the kind of place to raise your kids. In fact its cold as hell.

8th Jan 2012, 11:04 PM	#10
No One Eternally Male Crazed! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Unofficially out to everyone but my family. Age: 18 Posts: 1,021 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Well, that was awkward I totally wish my parents would make jokes about it rather than saying "Homosexuality is the same as Pedophilia". CONGRATS!!!!! __________________

9th Jan 2012, 08:28 AM	#11
TheEdend Hope will never be silent EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Extended family still doesn't know Location: Orlando, Florida Age: 21 Posts: 2,831 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Well, that was awkward A little late, but congrats! Coming out to parents can bring a lot of emotions that you didn't even know you were feeling. I know that I personally cried right after I told my dad. Came out of nowhere and I hadn't expected it at all. Hope everything keep gong well for you __________________ “You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result” -Gandhi

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