Note: this letter is not mine. It was sent to me and I felt that it should be shared because as far as I know there aren't any trans comming out letters here. I do have his permission to share it. If you wish to use this letter you will need to change parts in it. Dear Mum and Dad, I am writing this letter because I thought it would be the best way to explain things to you. Before you read it, I would like you to know that I am the same person that I was before, and that I will always love you and hope you will do the same. I'm a transsexual, which means that although I was born male, I am a woman in a man's body, and I have felt this way almost all my life. As a result, I have been very unhappy and depressed, and I've finally found the courage to do something about that. My only option is to transition into a woman, and I would very much like your support in this. When people think of a transsexual, they automatically think of a drag queen or transvestite, but this is not accurate. Most transsexuals are unnoticed by people, and therefor do not form part of the public image of a transsexual. I hope you realise that my feelings are not unnatural or sexual in nature, but real and honest. You may be worried that I will have a hard life, and although this may be the case, I have already had a hard life as you know. This is the opportunity I have been waiting for, and it will change my life for the better. You may be wondering if I have taken on a new name. I am now Charni, and I have used the name online since December 2011. When you are ready to do so, I would also like you to start using female pronouns, and calling me your daughter as opposed to your son. I have been advised by other parents of transsexuals that you might feel like you've lost a son, and I know this will be hard for you. Perhaps it would help you to see it as though you never had a son, as that is the way I feel. I am sorry I am not the son you wanted. I have wished I wasn’t a transsexual many, many times. But wishing is only wishing. It couldn’t change it. When you are ready, I am open to any questions you may have, and once again I hope you will be supportive of my transition. Your Loving Daughter, Charni
A very honest and straightforward letter. I hope things go well for you. I'm still too chicken to come out yet.
Just remember somebody else on EC gave this to me but he didn't want anybody to know it was him (as far as I know).
I think that's confident and brave of you for deciding to that. I wish you all the best when you decide to give your letter to your loved ones.
I had thought about writing a letter when I eventually come out to my parents, but I had never thought about telling them about how I'm still the same person. Even if I don't use this, it's great for ideas! And I hope all the best for whoever uses this! And whoever doesn't come to think of it...