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5th Jan 2012, 07:29 PM
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| EC's personal ninja. Full Member   Gender: Sex- female. Gender-Cisgendered. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Only 4 people know so far. ( My dad is in denial.) Location: In an igloo. Posts: 71 Join Date: Dec 2011 |  Came out to my dad. Today at central market I said to my dad "I have something secret to tell you." I whispered to him "I'm a lesbian." He didn't hear me at first so I repeated myself. He asked "Why?" I tried not to explicitly mention my sexual fantasies so I just said "I have had sexual and romantic feelings for women." He then said stuff like "You have limited experience, blah blah blah..." but overall he was okay with it.
__________________ We are in desperate need of a well-done romantic lesbian comedy. Jill Bennett |
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5th Jan 2012, 09:22 PM
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| Padrecito Regular Member   Gender: Curandero Orientation: Men and Women Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Austin, TX Posts: 62 Join Date: Jan 2012 | Re: Came out to my dad. Quote:
I had try to tell her several times. One time after she caught me with gay porn. The second time, I had taken a shower and was just gonna do it, and I told her, and she denied it saying "you never showed any signs". And then I told her again and she got confused. Last year she really pushed for me to get a girlfriend and I was like uh... I'm not sure I want a relationship. And then I finally I told her "Look mom. You think I am confused, but I'm only confused when you tell me I'm confused. I'm perfectly sure in what, who and where I am, and I don't give a rat's fat ass if you care." And finally she accepted it. We dont talk too much about it, but she's let loose about the girlfriend thing. If you keep assuring him who you are and that you are still a good daughter that is easy to love, he'll come around. Parent's have dreams when they have their kids. They are already planning 20, 30, 40 years ahead of the perfect life their kids are gonna have. If they have an issue, its not so much that they are bigoted, but more that they are mourning a very important dream of theirs'. Give them time to mourn this dream so that they can make a new dream. | |
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6th Jan 2012, 10:43 AM
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| EC's personal ninja. Full Member Gender: Sex- female. Gender-Cisgendered. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Only 4 people know so far. ( My dad is in denial.) Location: In an igloo. Posts: 71 Join Date: Dec 2011 | Re: Came out to my dad. Thank you cub17.
__________________ We are in desperate need of a well-done romantic lesbian comedy. Jill Bennett |
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6th Jan 2012, 11:56 AM
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| EC Addict Full Member  Gender: Female/Femme Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Oregon Age: 32 Posts: 1,084 Join Date: Feb 2011 | Re: Came out to my dad. Congratulations! That was an important step you took. Do you live alone with your dad, or are there other people at home that don't know? You can also help with the "build a new dream," thing. Just talk about what you want in life and hope for. Ultimately, most parents just want their kid's to be happy. It's just that sometimes, they have a preconceived idea of what "happiness" will look like. If you can help them to get a new idea of what your life will look like when you are a happy adult, it might make things a little easier. |
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6th Jan 2012, 04:53 PM
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| EC's personal ninja. Full Member Gender: Sex- female. Gender-Cisgendered. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Only 4 people know so far. ( My dad is in denial.) Location: In an igloo. Posts: 71 Join Date: Dec 2011 | Re: Came out to my dad. My mom and lil bro don't know yet. Thanks for the advice by the way.
__________________ We are in desperate need of a well-done romantic lesbian comedy. Jill Bennett |
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