Came out to my Best Friend (Finally)

[Indiana Juno]

Some of you guys may have seen me post about my friend Marco and my indecision to come out to him.

Well, I was outed to my family and although I was still apprehensive about him, I've been taken over by some kind of "eh, what the hell?" kind of attitude.

So we're driving and talking and instead of "I have to tell you something" or "Can we talk", as has been my main method of coming out in the past - I just kind of came out with it in the flow of conversation. I told him about the incident with my brother, where he outed me and Marco asked "why would he do that?"

I said simply, "Cuz I'm gay."

All he said was "Really?"

"I thought you knew" was all I said. The only thing I did that gave away a hint of self consciousness - was my question to him when he didnt say anything after a few seconds. I just said (in a joking tone), "Is this that awkward moment?" He said no. We discussed my brother a little bit but other than that it's been business as usual, he insists he won't say anything to anyone because its my business.

The best reaction I've ever gotten.

My advice to anyone seeking to come out. Do it when you're ready. But when you're ready, JUST DO IT. All the anxiety and the tension in the air is virtually non-existent when you treat it like just another fact about yourself. Even with people you're nervous to tell.

Think about it this way - you might be nervous to say something. Their reaction, if it's bad, is going to be bad no matter what. So if you say it assertively, confidently and treat it as no big deal, whether or not they have a problem with it is irrelevant. They will have to deal with it the way you put it out there.

If a shark senses an animal in the water, it sees something to prey on. If the animal is anxious and thrashes about (making a "big deal") - the shark will sense "weakness" and seize the opportunity to attack. If the animal is still and calm (or "stands its ground"), the predator, while hungry, is less likely to act.

[silverhalo]

Congratulations im glad it went well.

[hml8]

That's great, congrats!

Originally Posted by Indiana Juno

My advice to anyone seeking to come out. Do it when you're ready. But when you're ready, JUST DO IT. All the anxiety and the tension in the air is virtually non-existent when you treat it like just another fact about yourself. Even with people you're nervous to tell.

This is good advice