Starting the long process

[Jonamo]

I finally had the guts to come out to the first person in my fraternity. He was a good friend in my pledge class, so I was hoping he would be accepting. I wrote him a letter so that I could organize all my thoughts, and i gave it to him while I sat there. He seemed shocked from it, but was really accepting and was cool with it. He told me that that doesn't matter, and we are still going to remain close.

(pledge brother),
I am writing this to you so that I can (hopefully) have my thoughts and points much better organized, rather than me trying to explain it. And before I get to the point of this letter, and this meeting, I request that before you ask me any questions, get upset with me for any reason, or have to rescue the Doc from the Old West; please finish this letter.

And now to the point of this letter, ever since the 6th grade I have been fighting an internal battle within myself, and I didn’t come to fully accept or realize it until my sophomore year of high school. During that time, I had been struggling over an issue that many don’t even think about, nor do they even consider could make them different at that age; my sexuality. I am a bisexual. At this point, I want to stress that I hope this will have no effect on our continued friendship, as well as our bonds of brotherhood. Only a few people know this about me, one being my best friend back home as well as my girlfriend. I hope that you can respect my wishes of confidence and that you can keep it to yourself if at all possible.

I want to stress that I am still the same person that you knew just five minutes before. I’m still the same guy you pledged with, and one that you can go toe to toe with movie quotes and trivia. I still love football (and secretly hate the Packers); this won’t change, and hasn’t changed, who I am or how I act. The True Gentlemen speaks of “…is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety…” and I know that you will stay true to this, and that is why I told you first of anyone in our brotherhood. I have reached that point where I feel as if I need to express who I really am to people, and I know that we have become good friends since we met.

I understand that this may be a shock to you, but I will answer any questions that you may have. I appreciate you reading through this (if, you actually did get to this point), and I hope that I can still call you my brother after this. I would appreciate if you kept this to yourself if at all possible, and especially from (roommate). He doesn’t know yet, and contrary to how he acts, he is rather homophobic.

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Jonamo

He's the first friend I've told at college, and about the 4th person to know. I'm glad that I chose to come out to him first, and I'm glad how accepting he is. I'm relieved so I had to share!

[Mercy]

omg YAY you im so darn proud of you !!!

[Chip]

That must be a great feeling! It's always hard coming out the first few times, and particularly in a fraternity where there's so much connection between your brothers, so it must be that much more fulfilling to have shared that with someone that's part of your day-to-day at school.

Congratulations!!

[Hidinginalabama]

Congrats and way to go you!

[Jonamo]

Thanks for your words of support, one of the reasons I chose the fraternity I did was because of how well everyone got along. I know of different houses where partying is the biggest thing, but for my house it's the relationships we have; we truly are a brotherhood.

And to anyone who is considering joining a fraternity, I urge you to at least look and you may be surprised by what you find!

[scooby]

Originally Posted by Jonamo

I request that before you ask me any questions, get upset with me for any reason, or have to rescue the Doc from the Old West...

AHAHAHA!

Marvelous use of moviedom, just marvelous.

I hope he was honored to be the first of your "brothers" to be told.

[Hexagon]

Good for you. Congratulations.

[Sidneyer]

Congrats