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Hexagon · 14th Jan 2012, 04:09 PM

I know I've been spending too much time trying to figure out how and what to say, and today I decided I was coming out on fb. So I saved a nice rainbow triangle onto my mac and ulled it to fb. Then I wrote the caption: Did I ever mention I'm bisexual. I hid it from certain family members. And then I clicked 'post'.

I hope I'll be okay. I know people will expect me to come out as gay soon, but I suppose if I hang in there till they give up...

HantsBen · 14th Jan 2012, 04:20 PM

Well done you, I imagine one of the hardest things you have ever done? Just be aware that although you've hidden it from certain people it can find its way around.

Hexagon · 14th Jan 2012, 04:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HantsBen

Well done you, I imagine one of the hardest things you have ever done? Just be aware that although you've hidden it from certain people it can find its way around.

Yeah... kind of. I've always been vaguely scared of coming out as bi as a guy. Not really sure why.

I realise its possible, and its not a total disaster if it does get to my family. I just don't really want to deal with them right now. And I don't think its likely - I have three family members on facebook, and I don't know any of their friends.

thecat06 · 14th Jan 2012, 08:07 PM

Congrats!! When I came out on facebook, the status did not make its way around. I had to hide mine from some family members and people from my old homophobic church.

Mad Man L · 14th Jan 2012, 08:26 PM

I never made a status, I just changed my 'Interested In' (and stopped my family from seeing it), and eventually told people in person.

But nobody in my family knows I'm bi, and people have actually posted on my wall talking about my straight crush. So don't get too worried.

BluestBlue · 14th Jan 2012, 08:38 PM

Heh, reminds me of a story (to follow). First, well done and congratumalations!

One of my friends decided it was best to come out over fb and at first it was completely disregarded as 'hoho, he's left his account logged in somewhere'. It was only when we were hanging out at college that it was brought up and our group of friends were all like 'i can't believe you didn't delete that, herp derp.' But he was totally calm and said it was him that posted. It didn't matter that we didn't believe him on fb, cause he came out to himself and that made him more comfortable to talk about it in person.
He's lovely, I'm sure you are too

xx

TraceElement · 14th Jan 2012, 09:20 PM

congrats!

Hexagon · 15th Jan 2012, 02:39 AM

Its been ten hours... no one has commented. At least that means no one is out to kill me for religious reasons.

@Mad Mad L, I tried that. No one checked my profile. I've been 'interested in both' for about two months.

thecat06 · 15th Jan 2012, 12:30 PM

I have had my interested in on both men and women since July. Nobody noticed until I actually posted a status about it.

AloneOutHere · 15th Jan 2012, 10:33 PM

Who doesn't love Facebook!?

**TheEdend** · 15th Jan 2012, 11:57 PM

That's a pretty huge step. Congrats!

javgier · 17th Jan 2012, 03:33 PM

hmmm like this option works? i always figured it would be different... (like in a bad way) idk? tell me what happens if anything happens at all?

Hexagon · 18th Jan 2012, 12:16 PM

Nothing happened. The only person who noticed was the one person who already knew. I later tried to come out in class and no one believed me.

14th Jan 2012, 04:09 PM	#1
Hexagon Bright Spark Full Member Gender: ?TM transguy Orientation: Panromantic Asexual Out Status: Pending review Location: Somerset, UK Age: 17 Posts: 1,051 Join Date: May 2011	I clicked 'post' I know I've been spending too much time trying to figure out how and what to say, and today I decided I was coming out on fb. So I saved a nice rainbow triangle onto my mac and ulled it to fb. Then I wrote the caption: Did I ever mention I'm bisexual. I hid it from certain family members. And then I clicked 'post'. I hope I'll be okay. I know people will expect me to come out as gay soon, but I suppose if I hang in there till they give up... __________________ When god has low self-esteem, does that make him an atheist?

14th Jan 2012, 04:20 PM	#2
HantsBen Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few close friends Location: Hampshire (UK) Age: 18 Posts: 113 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: I clicked 'post' Well done you, I imagine one of the hardest things you have ever done? Just be aware that although you've hidden it from certain people it can find its way around.

14th Jan 2012, 08:07 PM	#4
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: I clicked 'post' Congrats!! When I came out on facebook, the status did not make its way around. I had to hide mine from some family members and people from my old homophobic church. __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

14th Jan 2012, 08:26 PM	#5
Mad Man L EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but family Location: Brisbane, Australia Age: 16 Posts: 1,244 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: I clicked 'post' I never made a status, I just changed my 'Interested In' (and stopped my family from seeing it), and eventually told people in person. But nobody in my family knows I'm bi, and people have actually posted on my wall talking about my straight crush. So don't get too worried. __________________ I really should get a proper signature...

14th Jan 2012, 08:38 PM	#6
BluestBlue Member Regular Member Gender: Female Location: Cambridge Age: 17 Posts: 38 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: I clicked 'post' Heh, reminds me of a story (to follow). First, well done and congratumalations! One of my friends decided it was best to come out over fb and at first it was completely disregarded as 'hoho, he's left his account logged in somewhere'. It was only when we were hanging out at college that it was brought up and our group of friends were all like 'i can't believe you didn't delete that, herp derp.' But he was totally calm and said it was him that posted. It didn't matter that we didn't believe him on fb, cause he came out to himself and that made him more comfortable to talk about it in person. He's lovely, I'm sure you are too xx

14th Jan 2012, 09:20 PM	#7
TraceElement The one and only Full Member Gender: Genderqueer Orientation: Kinsey 4 Out Status: to most people who matter Location: Rochester, NY Age: 23 Posts: 455 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: I clicked 'post' congrats! __________________ Carpe Diem- Grab life by the balls, one day at a time.

15th Jan 2012, 02:39 AM	#8
Hexagon Bright Spark Full Member Gender: ?TM transguy Orientation: Panromantic Asexual Out Status: Pending review Location: Somerset, UK Age: 17 Posts: 1,051 Join Date: May 2011	Re: I clicked 'post' Its been ten hours... no one has commented. At least that means no one is out to kill me for religious reasons. @Mad Mad L, I tried that. No one checked my profile. I've been 'interested in both' for about two months. __________________ When god has low self-esteem, does that make him an atheist?

15th Jan 2012, 12:30 PM	#9
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: I clicked 'post' I have had my interested in on both men and women since July. Nobody noticed until I actually posted a status about it. __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

15th Jan 2012, 10:33 PM	#10
AloneOutHere LAX LSM Regular Member Gender: Imma bro not a hoe Orientation: Dicks not Chicks Out Status: I came out 5-3-12 Location: Estados Unidos Age: 15 Posts: 172 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: I clicked 'post' Who doesn't love Facebook!? __________________ Let's get one thing straight, I'm not.

15th Jan 2012, 11:57 PM	#11
TheEdend Hope will never be silent EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Extended family still doesn't know Location: Orlando, Florida Age: 21 Posts: 2,831 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: I clicked 'post' That's a pretty huge step. Congrats! __________________ “You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result” -Gandhi

17th Jan 2012, 03:33 PM	#12
javgier javier(new and improved) Regular Member Gender: im a guy Orientation: i think im gay Out Status: some friends and people in my mind Location: in a house.... in california Age: 17 Posts: 56 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: I clicked 'post' hmmm like this option works? i always figured it would be different... (like in a bad way) idk? tell me what happens if anything happens at all?

18th Jan 2012, 12:16 PM	#13
Hexagon Bright Spark Full Member Gender: ?TM transguy Orientation: Panromantic Asexual Out Status: Pending review Location: Somerset, UK Age: 17 Posts: 1,051 Join Date: May 2011	Re: I clicked 'post' Nothing happened. The only person who noticed was the one person who already knew. I later tried to come out in class and no one believed me. __________________ When god has low self-esteem, does that make him an atheist?

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