IT WAS TOTAL FEAR!!! and astonishment - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

javgier · 16th Jan 2012, 10:28 PM

there is this group called no secrets and i have like 5 friends in there... i was just sitting there in this table listening to everyone talk about problems. and i was thinking... here is the place where i say it. i was super nervous and it was getting nerve racking and i almost chickened out.i wasnt paying attention and suddenly it was my turn to speak and i sorta let it all just drool out... so im talking and everyone is looking at me wide eyed (it was proably in my head) and when i finish.... it was really quiet. i kinda almost threw up XD then the leader in the group said she was proud of me because it musta been really hard to just let loose like that with my words. so a few people know.... everyone is ok with it. i dont think imma come out in highschool, maybe ill just wait till college to come out fully. i think it was worth it thou. im super open online.... it just seems easier here? idk

phospholipase · 17th Jan 2012, 02:11 AM

Congratulations on the coming out process! Your plans sounds solid--you don't have to rush it or anything, but colleges are great because they tend to be more diverse and liberal. I definitely, DEFINITELY feel much more comfortable being out at college than I did in high school.

RebelD · 17th Jan 2012, 04:15 AM

Congrats dude! I agree, coming out in high school can be social suicide in some places (most places).

16th Jan 2012, 10:28 PM	#1
javgier javier(new and improved) Regular Member Gender: im a guy Orientation: i think im gay Out Status: some friends and people in my mind Location: in a house.... in california Age: 17 Posts: 56 Join Date: Jan 2012	IT WAS TOTAL FEAR!!! and astonishment there is this group called no secrets and i have like 5 friends in there... i was just sitting there in this table listening to everyone talk about problems. and i was thinking... here is the place where i say it. i was super nervous and it was getting nerve racking and i almost chickened out.i wasnt paying attention and suddenly it was my turn to speak and i sorta let it all just drool out... so im talking and everyone is looking at me wide eyed (it was proably in my head) and when i finish.... it was really quiet. i kinda almost threw up XD then the leader in the group said she was proud of me because it musta been really hard to just let loose like that with my words. so a few people know.... everyone is ok with it. i dont think imma come out in highschool, maybe ill just wait till college to come out fully. i think it was worth it thou. im super open online.... it just seems easier here? idk

17th Jan 2012, 02:11 AM	#2
phospholipase 我是广东人。 But heavily Americanized? Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: Los Angeles Age: 20 Posts: 190 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: IT WAS TOTAL FEAR!!! and astonishment Congratulations on the coming out process! Your plans sounds solid--you don't have to rush it or anything, but colleges are great because they tend to be more diverse and liberal. I definitely, DEFINITELY feel much more comfortable being out at college than I did in high school.

17th Jan 2012, 04:15 AM	#3
RebelD Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Two friends! Location: Sunny South Africa Age: 21 Posts: 98 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: IT WAS TOTAL FEAR!!! and astonishment Congrats dude! I agree, coming out in high school can be social suicide in some places (most places).