I'm not completely out. I may never be considering some of my ignorant hate-filled family and "friends". But I am coming out slowly and carefully. Some friends just don't get it. One kept trying to get me to go to strip clubs (female ones) with him. All I wanted to do was shout at him--"Dude, I'm a fag! Don't try to change me!" One good friend is of the same faith as I am. His twin brother is gay and I knew he had a hard time with his brother in the past. But he is very close and I thought he might understand a little. So.... Last Tuesday night, I walked over to his house. I told him I had something I wanted to talk to him about. We sat in his den and I told him I was gay. He had the complete opposite reaction to what I expected. He said he had a lot of trouble accepting his twin brother. But then he had other friends come out to him. He realized that it was not a "choice" but it was just who we are...it's biological. He said he couldn't imagine how tough it's been for me for the past years. He said he had my back and would be there fore me no matter what. He told me to call him any time--night or day--if I needed support or just to talk. We talked for a long time--a couple of hours. He had to leave to pick up his wife and gave me a big hug. Then on Thursday, I was feeling down and he drove over and took me out for beers. We talked and just hung out for a long time. Oh, he knows my wife and said that I should NOT tell her--it would really devastate her. (He was with our family through a near tragedy and knows how she would react.) Now, I've got a true friend who knows me better than almost anyone. I can truly be myself with him without him judging me. In fact, he now admires me BECAUSE I am gay. I wish all my friends were as wonderful as this guy! (there's hope!) Tracker
Congratulations! That's awesome!! It's nice to see someone change from being homophobic, to being a supportive friend!
Thats awesome! yeah, similar happened to me, but after i came out. One of my friends came and said basically what your friend said to you, he said that i was very brave to overcome all these problems and discrimination of other people and...yeah basically what your friend said. I was very happy to hear that, and impressed
It only takes one friend like that, and it seems like the world lifts off your shoulders, doesn't it?
Oh, Tracker I can't tell you how happy I am for you. I just had a huge smile on my face as I was reading your post. This is so big for you! To have someone you can go have a beer with and just talk. So freekin cool. Congratulations! Big big hug for you!
Thanks, everyone for the good wishes and congrats. There's been a lot of gay bashing comments this weekend and it makes coming out that much more difficult and less likely at the same time. But I have the backup now!!! Thanks again for the encouragement!
