This was really easy, but it was also quite helpful at the same time. Obviously they aren't going to reject me because of my sexual orientation. The next step I would really like to tell my mom, but she comes from a conservative upbringing and I'm not sure she will understand why I feel the way I do. I also don't want her to blame herself as if she did something wrong in bringing me up. She raised an intelligent, sensitive and caring son. However when I was a teenager I perceived the latter two as weak traits and worked hard to suppress them. But by suppressing these emotions they begin to manifest into many problems. Guilt and anxiety are a few that come to mind. By rejecting those traits I also rejected a huge part of myself. I'm tired of fighting with myself on this matter. The sooner I can bring myself to talk to my mom. The sooner I can get back to enjoying life. Only this time I'll be able to enjoy life to it's fullest, without the guilt and anxiety. Thank you for reading.
Is it a coincedence I told my dog last night? I loved it, dogs can keep secrets and they're your loyal companions, they won't judge you or anything. Congratulations, and good luck on telling your mom!
Roric, if you haven't already, look at the Resources tab at the top. You'll find a selection of how-to guides on coming out including actual letters people used to tell their loved ones of their orientation. There are also a number of personal stories, how the "I'm gay" conversation was brought up, and how people reacted. A number of people post their letters in the Coming Out section and ask for advice and clarification. It really helps once you have a game plan for this situation. Tell yourself and your dogs is a great step in the right direction. Coming out to yourself is a huge hurdle so be proud of yourself for doing so. That's not to say everything is going to be easy here on out, but based on my own coming out experience, I did a lot of worrying and over-analyzing for nothing. Good luck coming out to your mom. If you have any questions or concerns, just post them here. We're all here to help and give you the support you need.
I just want to wish you luck And I'm right there with you, my pets are the only ones that I've told, and one of my dogs is deaf so that might not even count.
Coming out to your dogs sounds brilliant - I wish I'd thought of it! And intelligent, sensitive, and caring is a great package deal. It will serve you well, in the short and long runs.
You're the first person I know that has come out to their pet lol! Hope you haave the same luck with your mom.
I really appreciate the support from the community here. And I hope you all find the strength and courage to overcome the obstacles in your lives.
Thanks for the idea, now I'm going to tell my dog :lol: & I wish you the best of luck telling your mom (*hug*)
I've come out to my dogs as well, though my youngest calls me "Mom" and not "Dad." Whatever, he can call me what he wants. It really does help to know that there is someone who knows what you are going through and isn't going to judge you for it. I've had dogs all my life, and I feel like this bond is only strengthened by entrusting to them my greatest secret. Also, if you are wanting to sort of "practice" kind of what you want to tell your mother, your dog could be a great practicing tool for that as well.
Fuck you, I was going to start a thread about telling my cats. :bang: I'm just kidding. But I really was going to make that thread. I guess it was just the psychic in me again telling me you would make this thread. *sigh* I used to tell my cats everything when I was little, but I haven't done that in a long time. I can't really, I have no privacy so my parents would hear me. Although.. That would make an interesting coming out story.
I would tell my dog but given what he has witnessed over the last 10 years or so - I am guessing he already knows!!! Good luck thought - keep us posted on how it goes with Mom.
