Just came out to mum by e-mail

Don't worry, since there's no reason to worry, just try to relax, even though I know it's impossible, and hope she'll accept it.

By the way, congratulations, that was brave of you, keep us posted =)

Best of luck !!

 

Hey congratualtions on sending it, im sure everything will work out. Just give her a little bit of time to read and process it.

 

Congratulations on taking that great step.
Have some faith in your parents, they might surprise you.
You'll always have the support of everyone here.
Good luck and keep strong!

 

Hey, congratulations on coming out to your mum. It's such a shame that she reacted this way! I wish you all the best and hope things get better for you!

 

I'm so, so sorry about what your mom said. But that's really great you told her, you should be proud of yourself. <3

 

Oh, I am so sorry that it went this bad :icon_sad: Maybe this is just a shock and your mum will slowly start to face the fact that you are gay and will eventually accept you. I hope it would be like that. Anyways, I send a huuuge hug for you (*hug*) Don't forget that you are never alone (&&&)

Hope it will get soon better!

 

Please don't take this to heart. You are in no way being selfish by being able to express your true self, particularly if you aren't hurting anyone else. All you can really do now is hope that she's just in major denial and will come around eventually. Regardless, she said she still loves you, and that's a good start.

And yeah, finding a job probably isn't a bad idea. Particularly if you're financially dependent and risk being cut off... it gives you a good safety net.

Congrats though! At least it's over with, huh?

 

I feel so sorry for you! But you should feel proud that you managed to do it. You're very brave. I'm sorry that your mother didn't accept you but she might change her mind… As she said, you're her only child. If she loses you, she won't have anyone left. It seems like she thinks that she lost you but she didn't - she just lost the dream of you getting married to a woman. Basically you're still the same person as you were a week ago, only slightly braver. And she knows you better. That's the problem - the real you doesn't want to get married to a woman and other things she dreamed that you'd do. I guess that it could take some time getting used to if you're conservative... But your happiness should be more important to her than her dreams for your life. I can only hope that she'll understand that. But no matter what, you should be extremely proud of yourself. You did a very brave thing! -hugs-

 

I'm sorry to hear that and hope she'll come to her senses, sooner rather than later.

This is one of the most egoistic and ridiculous responses to a coming out.
If other people cannot deal with you being gay that's their problem, not yours, nor your mothers.

You should let her visit the following site:
Sexual orientation, homosexuality and bisexuality
It's from one of the major Psychological Association in the U.S. and supported by every other medical and psychological association.
You're not ill nor do you have a birth defect or anything, you're perfectly healthy.

Again, unbelievably selfish thinking.

The only one being selfish is your mother, she should worry about your emotional well-being not her social status.

True. still I had hoped your mother would consider that you are her child and if she thinks it true rationally there's nothing wrong with being gay.

Good, stay true to yourself, you are an individual not your mothers pet.

I would advise you to, should the worst case scenario come to pass.

I sympathise, try to have patience and show her that you haven't changed and aren't a threat to anyone nor yourself. Show her sites like the one I posted and try to educate her. But don't rush or push her as that might make things worse.

Again, I hope she comes to her senses.
Until then you have my love and support, hang in there!(*hug*)

 

Nothing else to add as it has all been stated above.

However I would advise you get a job asap, just incase the worst happens. If you do, then make sure you get as much sleep as possible when you have nothing to do, or things could get stressful. Tough times but once you're stable on your own you no longer need your parents, then you can be you completely, whether your parents approve or not.

 

You don't HAVE to do anything. They cannot force you to marry, and they cannot force you to have children. Hell, if you wanted children, you CAN still have them even if you're gay... it just means you adopt, or have a surrogate mother. But still, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do.

Linthras is correct. Your mother is the one being selfish. You haven't ruined anyone's life, you're not selfish, and you have the right to live a happy, healthy life as you see fit. And really? She only loves you because you're her son? What sort of love is that?

Good luck with job hunting. I fully support you in finding a way to stay in the UK. I'm sorry your mother reacted this way. Stay strong, and keep your chin up. We're all here for you, and it WILL be okay eventually. It's just time to start fighting for it.

 

She can try to deny it all she wants, you are gay, whether she likes it or not.
Stay strong we're here for you!

 

I'm so sorry to hear your mom was like that. I don't know what to say here other than stay strong and the world will work out for you in the end. Your happiness is what you have to look out for.

 

Like everyone else has said, way to go for being so brave! I'm sorry that your mom wasn't more understanding, but I hope, that with time, she'll change her mind.

 

*hugs*