Came out to my parents!!! - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender people coming out

brandyfan02 · 17th May 2012, 09:33 PM

I know these threads may seem a dime a dozen, so I appreciate that you even clicked on mine. Everything you hear about doing it is true - I'm on such a high, I feel like I've lost 50 pounds off my chest - & none of the horrible fears I had, which I now see were unreasonable, came true. I just knew it was time - something came over me & I was done hiding it. Luckily, my parents were great about it... but even if yours aren't, if you're desperate enough, I can't see how coming out to them for yourself wouldn't lift your spirits.

For me, the biggest part of it all was that I had an emotional breakthrough. I've been on anti-depressants for four years. A side effect, for me at least, has been difficulty producing tears; in fact, I haven't cried once in four years... until today. You have no idea (well, unless you do!) how good it feels to relieve pressure that has built up in this way after not experiencing it for years. Something just came over me - a good something - &, quite honestly, I felt real emotion for the first time since I can remember. Many of you will understand when I say:

I feel like today is the day my life begins because I am finally living it as ME. If this all sounds cliche & you don't think it can happen for you, but deep down you wish it would, I was you - 2 weeks ago! I have to thank EC & those of you who have offered me advice, words of encouragement... anything, really, to make me feel like I'm not alone because it's truly amazing the joy that feeling can bring.

**thecat06** · 17th May 2012, 09:39 PM

That's awesome!! Congrats!!

Linthras · 18th May 2012, 12:36 AM

Congratulations, good to hear it went so well!

thylvin · 18th May 2012, 01:59 AM

congrats! your life is only starting now

Fisnou · 18th May 2012, 06:18 AM

Wooh! Congrats!

I know the feeling - I came out to my parents only 2 weeks ago and they didn't take it badly at all! I've been feeling a lot better ever since. I can now have a normal and honest relationship with them. I don't have to hide who I am anymore, it's great!

RebelD · 18th May 2012, 06:45 AM

Congrats dude! Glad things went well.

unknownerror · 18th May 2012, 06:48 AM

I understand what you're going through...I took anti-depressants for years and took myself off of them because I couldn't feel anything. After about a year I went back on them...a year later back off and I havent taken them for 5 years now and have been able to cope...Coming out to myself and then others has certainly made it easier

Glad to hear it went so well for you

JonSomeone21 · 18th May 2012, 11:05 PM

Congratulations, man. I'm glad that you've had a positive experience.

19th May 2012, 07:58 PM

Yay you !!! im so proud

DryOasis · 20th May 2012, 01:49 PM

Sounds amazing.

Lad123 · 20th May 2012, 06:14 PM

Congratulations! I know the feeling of

I came out to my sister last October and it felt great!

amwm2wm3 · 20th May 2012, 08:15 PM

Congratulations! It's so good to hear that everything went well and you're feeling good!

17th May 2012, 09:33 PM	#1
brandyfan02 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Posts: 14 Join Date: May 2012	Came out to my parents!!! I know these threads may seem a dime a dozen, so I appreciate that you even clicked on mine. Everything you hear about doing it is true - I'm on such a high, I feel like I've lost 50 pounds off my chest - & none of the horrible fears I had, which I now see were unreasonable, came true. I just knew it was time - something came over me & I was done hiding it. Luckily, my parents were great about it... but even if yours aren't, if you're desperate enough, I can't see how coming out to them for yourself wouldn't lift your spirits. For me, the biggest part of it all was that I had an emotional breakthrough. I've been on anti-depressants for four years. A side effect, for me at least, has been difficulty producing tears; in fact, I haven't cried once in four years... until today. You have no idea (well, unless you do!) how good it feels to relieve pressure that has built up in this way after not experiencing it for years. Something just came over me - a good something - &, quite honestly, I felt real emotion for the first time since I can remember. Many of you will understand when I say: I feel like today is the day my life begins because I am finally living it as ME. If this all sounds cliche & you don't think it can happen for you, but deep down you wish it would, I was you - 2 weeks ago! I have to thank EC & those of you who have offered me advice, words of encouragement... anything, really, to make me feel like I'm not alone because it's truly amazing the joy that feeling can bring.

17th May 2012, 09:39 PM	#2
thecat06 Let the journey of life continue! EC Moderator Gender: Let's say Pangender! (Leaning towards male) Orientation: Let's say gay!! (Homoromantic Demisexual) Out Status: Pretty close to 100% out. Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 20 Posts: 7,332 Join Date: Jun 2011 Tournaments Won: 10	Re: Came out to my parents!!! That's awesome!! Congrats!! __________________ The tide of history only advances when people make themselves fully visible. -Anderson Cooper

18th May 2012, 12:36 AM	#3
Linthras EC Addict Full Member Gender: Biologically male, mentally/behaviourally: myself. Orientation: People (Pan-romantic demisexual if labels matter) Out Status: Immediate family, closest friend, whomever asks... Location: Leeuwarden (FR), the Netherlands Age: 23 Posts: 1,059 Join Date: Apr 2012	Re: Came out to my parents!!! Congratulations, good to hear it went so well! __________________ In itself, homosexuality is as limiting as heterosexuality: the ideal should be to be capable of loving a woman or a man; either, a human being, without feeling fear, restraint, or obligation. - Simone de Beauvoir

18th May 2012, 01:59 AM	#4
thylvin Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windhoek Age: 33 Posts: 1,280 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Came out to my parents!!! congrats! your life is only starting now

18th May 2012, 06:18 AM	#5
Fisnou Well Known Regular Member Gender: Female/genderqueer Orientation: Yep, lesbian it is... Out Status: Close friends and parents Location: Sydney Age: 27 Posts: 223 Join Date: Feb 2012	Re: Came out to my parents!!! Wooh! Congrats! I know the feeling - I came out to my parents only 2 weeks ago and they didn't take it badly at all! I've been feeling a lot better ever since. I can now have a normal and honest relationship with them. I don't have to hide who I am anymore, it's great! __________________ "Growing older is mandatory; growing up is optional."

18th May 2012, 06:45 AM	#6
RebelD EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most of my friends and family know Location: Sunny South Africa Age: 22 Posts: 270 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Came out to my parents!!! Congrats dude! Glad things went well.

18th May 2012, 06:48 AM	#7
unknownerror Yay! I'm me :) Full Member Gender: Genderqueer Orientation: definitely interested in men Out Status: 75 or so, getting close to completely out! Location: Skullcrusher Mountain Age: 40 Posts: 122 Join Date: Mar 2012	Re: Came out to my parents!!! I understand what you're going through...I took anti-depressants for years and took myself off of them because I couldn't feel anything. After about a year I went back on them...a year later back off and I havent taken them for 5 years now and have been able to cope...Coming out to myself and then others has certainly made it easier Glad to hear it went so well for you __________________ We have done the impossible, and that makes us mighty.

18th May 2012, 11:05 PM	#8
JonSomeone21 NewbieJon Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Not out at all Location: Alabama Age: 22 Posts: 22 Join Date: May 2012	Re: Came out to my parents!!! Congratulations, man. I'm glad that you've had a positive experience.

19th May 2012, 07:58 PM	#9
Mercy Guest Posts: n/a Tournaments Won: 15	Re: Came out to my parents!!! Yay you !!! im so proud

20th May 2012, 01:49 PM	#10
DryOasis Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Not Out, ask and I might tell Location: South Africa Age: 20 Posts: 173 Join Date: Apr 2012	Re: Came out to my parents!!! Sounds amazing. __________________ The coldest blood runs through my veins, you know my name...

20th May 2012, 06:14 PM	#11
Lad123 Shine bright like a diamond Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Sister, sister-in-law, cousin, 3 friends Location: England Age: 24 Posts: 669 Join Date: Apr 2012	Re: Came out to my parents!!! Congratulations! I know the feeling of I came out to my sister last October and it felt great!

20th May 2012, 08:15 PM	#12
amwm2wm3 Well Known Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Homoflexible Out Status: Out to everyone Location: New York Posts: 130 Join Date: Mar 2012	Re: Came out to my parents!!! Congratulations! It's so good to hear that everything went well and you're feeling good! __________________ They can't cure us. You want to know why? Because there's nothin' to cure. Nothing's wrong with you. Or any of us, for that matter. - Storm

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