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Came Out For The First Time! Freedom!!

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by RueBea85, Jun 30, 2012.

  1. RueBea85

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    I just recently came out to one of my friends last Sunday, she used to be my supervisor. She is also gay herself and married to a woman, so I thought she would understand where I was coming from. So I wrote her this huge long message on Facebook and sent her the message it took me 3 hours to send that thing.

    I had it all written out and kept delaying myself, but the more I delayed the more my heart pounded. So I finally sent it at 3 am in the morning. I couldn't sleep at all that night and i got a text from her the next morning and we ended up going out for the day. We talked about a lot of what I was feeling and she told me it would get better and that it's not a bad thing to be gay! I've never thought gay people were bad but was nervous because of how society views gay people. Anyway, it was a great day and I'm glad I finally told somebody because now I feel like I'm on the right track to discovering my true self.

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    Congratulations!!! I'm so glad that it went well for you, and she sounds like a good friend, and a good person for support. :slight_smile:
     
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    Congratulations. :grin: Things will definitely get better for you.
     
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    Congratulations! Good job girl, enjoy your freedom! I imagine that was one long-ass night for you, but you did it and it paid off! Good job!
     
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    Thanks everyone, it feels better to know that one person knows about it and they understand what I'm feeling! :slight_smile:
     
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    i agree
     
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    Congratulations on coming out to your friend. :slight_smile: It's pretty uplifting when a friend is accepting and supportive, isn't it?

    Reading through your story I was reminded about my first coming out to a friend. I e-mailed him during the day, and could not sleep during the night at all....
     
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    Thanks!!

    And yes I totally agree, it feels so much better because I had been wanting to tell her for months, I knew she would understand but there was still a part of me that was terrified!

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    Mirko, How did that work out for you? They were supportive too?
     
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    His response was amazing. My coming out to him, made our friendship stronger and perhaps even more meaningful. .... He keeps joking with me at times by telling me to move back to the area where he lives as I will have an easier time finding a boyfriend, and that guys a way more handsome there. :lol:
     
  10. Gazza123

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    Congrats. I know the feeling you get when you come out to someone. But for me when I came out to my friend from Uni a good few weeks ago, it just made me wanna come out altogether so... funny enough. That's what I did

    I told my family last week and everything has been fine since then. It's the best feeling in the world to not have to hide anymore

    This definitely deserves dancing bananas

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  11. (!)(!)(!)(!) Whoo! Well done! (!)(!)(!)(!)(!)(!)
    You deserve these bananas! :grin: All the best on telling more people!
     
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    Mirko, I am so glad that it worked out for you, it sounds like he is a very god friend!!

    Gazza123, that is so brave and I congratulate you as well! I just recently told my sister as well and it feels a lot more freeing! I think when I told the first person it felt kind of weird to have said it, but now that my sister knows too it feels a lot better!

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    Congrats. Glad you had someone to come out to and support you.
     
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    Yeah. It definitively felt freeing. Not haven't to hide anymore and that. I will admit when I first told someone I had to take a double take like "Did I really just say that?" sort of a moment
     
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    thanks again everyone :slight_smile:

    And yeah I had that moment a lot too. It was weird to actually say those words out loud to someone else, instead of just thinking it.