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javgier · 17th Jul 2012, 11:47 AM

i decided to tell my mom on a camping trip. ok so at first i psyched myself up and i was like

im totally gunna do this. so i told her i had a boyfriend, and she walked away from me. she didnt talk to me for about 2 days, and then i sucked up all the fear i had and through out some blind couRAGE. she was mad i told her after i told some other people, like she was the last to know. she said she still loved me, but she didnt like it and it would take some getting used to. things are pretty different now but im just glad i told her.

Gen · 17th Jul 2012, 11:53 AM

I'm happy for you ^(^_^)^. And atleast even she said that she would come around to it eventually.

**thecat06** · 17th Jul 2012, 12:30 PM

Congrats!! I'm glad to hear that she is coming around. It probably just came as a shock for her.

Reader · 17th Jul 2012, 12:34 PM

That's a couragous thing to do in going up to her and telling her you have a boyfriend!
I mean, I texted my mum then hid in the bathroom!

Just show her that you haven't changed as a person- act as usual around her and show her you're still the son she loves!

BornAnew · 18th Jul 2012, 10:48 AM

Congrats on telling her, that's the hardest step so well done!!

Hopefully in time she'll get used to it and approve. It's a good sign that she already said it'll take time to get used to it as she is already moving towards trying to get used to it!

**Chip** · 18th Jul 2012, 11:57 AM

Wow, it does take a lot of courage to walk directly into our fear and face it, and you did it and stayed with it, and that's a lot to be proud of.

Remember that this probably came as a total shock to her, and while you've been thinking about being gay and processing it for quite a while, it's all new to her. So I think her response was actually pretty positive. And I'm sure that once she works through the anger... she'll be fine with it.

17th Jul 2012, 11:47 AM	#1
javgier javier(new and improved) Regular Member Gender: im a guy Orientation: i think im gay Out Status: some friends and people in my mind Location: in a house.... in california Age: 18 Posts: 56 Join Date: Jan 2012	i told my mother i decided to tell my mom on a camping trip. ok so at first i psyched myself up and i was like im totally gunna do this. so i told her i had a boyfriend, and she walked away from me. she didnt talk to me for about 2 days, and then i sucked up all the fear i had and through out some blind couRAGE. she was mad i told her after i told some other people, like she was the last to know. she said she still loved me, but she didnt like it and it would take some getting used to. things are pretty different now but im just glad i told her. __________________ hey you!!!! ya you!!! my name is JAVI and i say SUP!! btw if you didnt know i liek pandas. this is my first signature dont judge me XD GIVE ME YOUR BEANZ!!! cuz beans are good......

17th Jul 2012, 11:53 AM	#2
Gen The Epitome of Psychotic Brilliance Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: My Closet is Made of Glass ( ._.) Location: California Posts: 1,659 Join Date: May 2012	Re: i told my mother I'm happy for you ^(^_^)^. And atleast even she said that she would come around to it eventually.

17th Jul 2012, 12:30 PM	#3
thecat06 Let the journey of life continue! EC Moderator Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! (Homoromantic Demisexual) Out Status: Out as pan to most, out as gay completely Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 20 Posts: 7,041 Join Date: Jun 2011 Tournaments Won: 9	Re: i told my mother Congrats!! I'm glad to hear that she is coming around. It probably just came as a shock for her. __________________ The tide of history only advances when people make themselves fully visible. -Anderson Cooper

17th Jul 2012, 12:34 PM	#4
Reader Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A few people Location: East Anglia, England. Posts: 38 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: i told my mother That's a couragous thing to do in going up to her and telling her you have a boyfriend! I mean, I texted my mum then hid in the bathroom! Just show her that you haven't changed as a person- act as usual around her and show her you're still the son she loves!

18th Jul 2012, 10:48 AM	#5
BornAnew Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: 10 close friends & Mum Location: Exeter, UK Age: 21 Posts: 202 Join Date: Apr 2012	Re: i told my mother Congrats on telling her, that's the hardest step so well done!! Hopefully in time she'll get used to it and approve. It's a good sign that she already said it'll take time to get used to it as she is already moving towards trying to get used to it!

18th Jul 2012, 11:57 AM	#6
Chip EC Advisor EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: northern CA Posts: 8,609 Join Date: May 2008	Re: i told my mother Wow, it does take a lot of courage to walk directly into our fear and face it, and you did it and stayed with it, and that's a lot to be proud of. Remember that this probably came as a total shock to her, and while you've been thinking about being gay and processing it for quite a while, it's all new to her. So I think her response was actually pretty positive. And I'm sure that once she works through the anger... she'll be fine with it.

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