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Old 17th Jul 2012, 11:47 AM   #1
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i told my mother

i decided to tell my mom on a camping trip. ok so at first i psyched myself up and i was like im totally gunna do this. so i told her i had a boyfriend, and she walked away from me. she didnt talk to me for about 2 days, and then i sucked up all the fear i had and through out some blind couRAGE. she was mad i told her after i told some other people, like she was the last to know. she said she still loved me, but she didnt like it and it would take some getting used to. things are pretty different now but im just glad i told her.
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Old 17th Jul 2012, 11:53 AM   #2
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I'm happy for you ^(^_^)^. And atleast even she said that she would come around to it eventually.
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Old 17th Jul 2012, 12:30 PM   #3
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Congrats!! I'm glad to hear that she is coming around. It probably just came as a shock for her.
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Old 17th Jul 2012, 12:34 PM   #4
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Re: i told my mother

That's a couragous thing to do in going up to her and telling her you have a boyfriend!
I mean, I texted my mum then hid in the bathroom!
Just show her that you haven't changed as a person- act as usual around her and show her you're still the son she loves!
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Congrats on telling her, that's the hardest step so well done!!

Hopefully in time she'll get used to it and approve. It's a good sign that she already said it'll take time to get used to it as she is already moving towards trying to get used to it!
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Old 18th Jul 2012, 11:57 AM   #6
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Re: i told my mother

Wow, it does take a lot of courage to walk directly into our fear and face it, and you did it and stayed with it, and that's a lot to be proud of.

Remember that this probably came as a total shock to her, and while you've been thinking about being gay and processing it for quite a while, it's all new to her. So I think her response was actually pretty positive. And I'm sure that once she works through the anger... she'll be fine with it.
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