I think my sister knows...

I don't think it will be bad with your sister. First, she has a gay friend, which means she's not homophobic at all. Second, they were laughing because (I think) of how you reacted like it was some sort of shame. And her friend probably thought that it was safe to tell her, I mean, she is your sister and he's gay after all!
I think she knew, and you should be open to her. Wait, is your sister older or younger than you? Anyway, don't worry about too much!

 

This new post of yours sounds so much better and more positive than your previous one with your mom basicly in deniel.

Your sister knows you were at the gay bar,she laughed but was ok with you removing the post from f/b ,she has kept quiet about the whole incident to your mom,sounds to me that for one she can be trusted,two she is not at all homophobic and finaly number three,she already knows but just needs you to confirm it.

If you can be out to, and accepted by your sister you could enlist her help on working on your mom.As i said before,things could be looking up a bit and it certainly doesnt look like you will be "loosing" your family over this.Having at least one family member on side would be a great start because the more your mom sees other positive reactions to this the quicker she will be pushed out of denial and move on to accept you aswell.

As far as telling your sister,i would say to just catch her alone and mention about seeing xxxx at the gay club,then just casually mention that she must already have worked out that you are gay and thank her for keeping quiet etc.If she seems supportive and full of questions,answer as honest as you can and try to steer the conversation to your current mum situation.After all your sister knows your mum better than any advice we can offer.

Good luck

 

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This is pure speculation but I'm imagining that the "laughing their asses off" was because in the past your sister and her friend probably had repeat discussions about you, and one saying "naw I really doubt he is" and the other "oh I'm getting vibes, I'm sure he is" - and they finally had data confirming one of them is more wrong than the other . Sounds to me like a "told ya so" laugh between two good friends, and a lot less about whether you are or not. Like other posters mentionned, the fact she has at least one gay friend shows she's open-minded.

 

I have a sister too! She has some gay friends, and she's completely tolerant, almost to the point that she wants to publicize everything about them. But she understands the importance of restraint, thankfully. So I think I understand what you're going through on some level. The difference is that I came out to her and told her to keep quiet. She definitely has. Listen to csm123! Have a little chat, or a bigger one if you want (I wrote a really long email that literally took 8 hours to write). I agree with awesomeyodais; I'm 99% certain she was laughing at herself for some previous conversation she had had with that gay friend, and this was the icing on the cake. Regardless, this is a very good dilemma to be in, and I bet you'll look back on it and laugh the same way your sister did.

Oh, and do you really say "mum" up in Michigan??

 

I agree that your sister will be more than accepting. Good luck with your discussion! I'm sure it will go over fine. If its not too late, just remember to always have a plan B... A way to escape the situation in case you are in danger, but in this case I doubt you will need it.

A little off topic... Your dorms are already open for move in? Does your college start in July.... I haven't really heard of that that does so I'm curious. Oh, and feel free not to answer, I definitely don't want to make you reveal anything that might give out too much information