Telling my mom tomorrow - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender people coming out

DhammaGamer · 20th Jul 2012, 04:51 PM

So I've put off coming out to my mom for almost a year now. I set up a time for us to meet tomorrow and I'm going to tel her then. I'm really really really nervous. I'm scared she is not going to want me in her life anymore. I thought about writing out a really long and detailed letter explaining things, but I feel like it would just be too much.

I've decided to go with something simple and short and then we can discuss things if she wants to.

"Dear Mom,

I love you.

I'm transgender. I am a woman. I can no longer go on living as a man. It's not your fault. I have felt this way all my life.

I love you,

Your daughter, Tristen"

If anyone has tips or advice let me know. I think I'm gonna throw up from the stress of it.

Fugs · 20th Jul 2012, 05:23 PM

I'm so proud of you baby, you'll do great I just know it! <3

It's more important than anything to just be yourself! No matter what happens you will still be you, no matter how your mom takes it. From what you've told me I'm sure she'll be accepting. I'm rooting for you hon!

<3 xoxo <3

**thecat06** · 20th Jul 2012, 06:03 PM

I think that the short letter is a good idea since you will be there to answer questions. Your mom may not be accepting at first, but maybe over time she will understand.

Good Luck!!

Cody25 · 20th Jul 2012, 08:04 PM

Good luck! I hope that all goes well!

SkyDiver · 20th Jul 2012, 09:08 PM

Let us know how it goes

Gen · 20th Jul 2012, 09:30 PM

Oh I hope it goes well

. Keep us informed.

**Eleanor Rigby** · 21st Jul 2012, 05:11 AM

Good luck

I'll keep my fingers crossed. Let us know how it goes.
Plenty of

Cécile

DhammaGamer · 21st Jul 2012, 05:40 AM

As the moment draws closer, I think I'm going to throw up from anxiety. I haven't talked to her yet this morning, but it's still early. I let you all know how it goes. ugh

EM68 · 21st Jul 2012, 08:37 AM

Good luck!

BornAnew · 21st Jul 2012, 10:12 AM

Best of luck, I hope it goes well!!!

Reader · 21st Jul 2012, 01:28 PM

Whatever happens be proud that you summoned up the courage to tell her. Hope you're okay, xx

xXPsychedelicXx · 21st Jul 2012, 02:21 PM

I hope everything goes well! We'll be thinking of you.

The Escapist · 21st Jul 2012, 02:36 PM

God I know how fucking awful that feeling is! Yours is probably even worse! Hang in there though, it'll be worth it. No matter the response. You're worth being you.

20th Jul 2012, 04:51 PM	#1
DhammaGamer EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Queer <3 Location: Michigan Age: 26 Posts: 580 Join Date: Sep 2011	Telling my mom tomorrow So I've put off coming out to my mom for almost a year now. I set up a time for us to meet tomorrow and I'm going to tel her then. I'm really really really nervous. I'm scared she is not going to want me in her life anymore. I thought about writing out a really long and detailed letter explaining things, but I feel like it would just be too much. I've decided to go with something simple and short and then we can discuss things if she wants to. "Dear Mom, I love you. I'm transgender. I am a woman. I can no longer go on living as a man. It's not your fault. I have felt this way all my life. I love you, Your daughter, Tristen" If anyone has tips or advice let me know. I think I'm gonna throw up from the stress of it.

20th Jul 2012, 05:23 PM	#2
Fugs Girl Fox Full Member Gender: Vixen Orientation: Love all the people! Out Status: Everyone knows I'm trans :) Location: Bowling Green, OH Age: 19 Posts: 1,030 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Telling my mom tomorrow I'm so proud of you baby, you'll do great I just know it! <3 It's more important than anything to just be yourself! No matter what happens you will still be you, no matter how your mom takes it. From what you've told me I'm sure she'll be accepting. I'm rooting for you hon! <3 xoxo <3 __________________ I have only abandoned my body, I still live here.

20th Jul 2012, 06:03 PM	#3
thecat06 Let the journey of life continue! EC Moderator Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! (Homoromantic Demisexual) Out Status: Out as pan to most, out as gay completely Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 20 Posts: 7,054 Join Date: Jun 2011 Tournaments Won: 9	Re: Telling my mom tomorrow I think that the short letter is a good idea since you will be there to answer questions. Your mom may not be accepting at first, but maybe over time she will understand. Good Luck!! __________________ The tide of history only advances when people make themselves fully visible. -Anderson Cooper

20th Jul 2012, 08:04 PM	#4
Cody25 Junior in Health ***istration Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about Location: Lansing, MI Age: 19 Posts: 29 Join Date:** Jul 2012	Re: Telling my mom tomorrow Good luck! I hope that all goes well! __________________

20th Jul 2012, 09:08 PM	#5
SkyDiver ภูมิใจที่ได้เป็นเกย์ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Alberta Posts: 1,758 Join Date: Mar 2012 Tournaments Won: 3	Re: Telling my mom tomorrow Let us know how it goes

20th Jul 2012, 09:30 PM	#6
Gen The Epitome of Psychotic Brilliance Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: My Closet is Made of Glass ( ._.) Location: California Posts: 1,661 Join Date: May 2012	Re: Telling my mom tomorrow Oh I hope it goes well . Keep us informed.

21st Jul 2012, 05:11 AM	#7
Eleanor Rigby Filip's sidekick EC Advisor Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out and proud ally Location: France Age: 33 Posts: 5,901 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Telling my mom tomorrow Good luck I'll keep my fingers crossed. Let us know how it goes. Plenty of Cécile __________________ *Shared joy is double, shared grief is half.* Dutch Proverb translated by Filip

21st Jul 2012, 05:40 AM	#8
DhammaGamer EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Queer <3 Location: Michigan Age: 26 Posts: 580 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Telling my mom tomorrow As the moment draws closer, I think I'm going to throw up from anxiety. I haven't talked to her yet this morning, but it's still early. I let you all know how it goes. ugh

21st Jul 2012, 08:37 AM	#9
EM68 Happily Married! :) Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 44 Posts: 4,327 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Telling my mom tomorrow Good luck! __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

21st Jul 2012, 10:12 AM	#10
BornAnew Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: 10 close friends & Mum Location: Exeter, UK Age: 21 Posts: 202 Join Date: Apr 2012	Re: Telling my mom tomorrow Best of luck, I hope it goes well!!!

21st Jul 2012, 01:28 PM	#11
Reader Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A few people Location: East Anglia, England. Posts: 38 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: Telling my mom tomorrow Whatever happens be proud that you summoned up the courage to tell her. Hope you're okay, xx

21st Jul 2012, 02:21 PM	#12
xXPsychedelicXx We're all mad here. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Queer as a hatter. Out Status: A few friends. Location: South Africa Age: 17 Posts: 445 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Telling my mom tomorrow I hope everything goes well! We'll be thinking of you. __________________ ... Welcome to the island of misfit toys.

21st Jul 2012, 02:36 PM	#13
The Escapist Purple Lover Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bi/Gray-A Out Status: Just kind of open. Location: U.S. Age: 19 Posts: 926 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Telling my mom tomorrow God I know how fucking awful that feeling is! Yours is probably even worse! Hang in there though, it'll be worth it. No matter the response. You're worth being you. __________________ "There is not enough darkness in all the world to put out the light of even one small candle." -Robert Alden

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