For all intents and purposes, I'm "out".

Those of you following along with my coming-out shenanigans, here's where things stand. My family and a couple family friends went out shopping for the whole day. So, I spent the whole day trying to figure out how to come out to my mom, because I promised myself I would do it today. Time ran out and I ended up telling her very briefly in the parking lot before we left. She was cool with it, but it wasn't a very tact decision on my part.

Fast forward to dinner. We arrive at the restaurant, she sidebars me for a second before going in to talk a little bit, is happy that my friends are supportive and all that jazz. As we're eating dinner, my brother asks what we kept talking about in secret, so I promised I'd tell him later. We got home and well, I did. Then followed a rather nice family discussion on how proud they were and all those nice things I can't even begin to list. Needless to say it went exceptionally well.

So, for all intents and purposes, I think I'm now "out". As in I can post stuff on Facebook if I want and not be concerned at who reads it. All I've got left to do is call my dad in the next couple of days, but he's not connected to any other part of my social life, so it's less urgent.

Additionally, if anyone remembers I was concerned my brother was actually gay too... after watching his reaction today, I don't necessarily believe that anymore.

And, I know I was concerned my mom would see me as a super stereotypically flamboyant and feminine gay guy, like the rest of her gay friends. She said (even before I got to) that she totally gets that I'm not at all like one of them, and she doesn't expect me to be. Sweet.

I couldn't ask for anything more. I'm so happy and drained I don't even know what else to say. So thank you EC, from the bottom of my heart, for listening to me irrationally worry and continuously giving me advice the last 13 months (yeah, it's been exactly 13 months since I first came out, makes my OCD happy ). I don't think I could've gotten here without you guys.

- Budder

 

Thank you, and yes, I do! I forgot about that! *goes to change it*

 

Nothing particularly special, it was just the usual "oh yeah, I'm really proud of you/thank you for sharing/nothing changes/etc." deal. But noting his behaviour and stuff, I figured if he was gay (and open) he'd find that a fair opportunity to say so, and if he was closeted he'd be a little more awkward about it, but he took it rather in stride.

As usual, I'm probably reading into this waaaaaay too much.

And thanks everyone! I'm gonna go sleep happily and wake up happily.

Admittedly, that's how I learned it... I knew what the idiom meant and what intensive meant, and that it didn't make sense that way. So I Googled it one day and have never said it incorrectly since.

 

It's too late to edit it in the beginning, but thank you to everyone who reminded me that doing it in person was probably worth waiting for - it definitely was. No regrets here.

And now I'm going to sleep, for real.