I'm Coming Out! - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender people coming out

Smilodon · 31st Jul 2012, 09:58 AM

First I told one of my best friends, who will remain as 'E.'
I was staying up late texting her. We were talking about something that sort of related to what I wanted to tell her. I did the obvious thing and told her that I wanted to tell her something.
I asked her to try and guess what I wanted to say, since I could not right out tell her. (I have severe social paranoia.) She ended up giving up after about an hour and a half.
I finally gave her a hint, and she ended up getting it right away. I responded with a (Don't hate me please!) which made her mad at me. She was offended that I could ever doubt trusting her with anything. xD She then went on, trying to understand a bit better. I can't tell you how relieved and happy I was..

Second, I told one of my friends, who will remain as 'A.'
I was taking a walk with her through the neighborhood, as we often do when it gets dark. We started talking about more depressing things, and I started getting nervous, since I wanted to tell her about this. I guess I started hyperventilating, because she asked me if everything was okay. (Our faces were covered by our hoods- for safety reasons, and just good fun.)
I told her that I wanted to tell her something, but I couldn't. She proceeded to tell me (for quite a while) how she would always love me no matter what and that she would never disown me as a friend. (I had asked her not to, since I was feeling pretty pessimistic.)
We were almost home when she asked the question that revealed it.
She asked: "Wait... You're not a guy, right?" (While she meant physically, I saw it as an opportunity to finally get it out.) I told her, no, I was not a guy. At least, not physically.
She caught on quick... And... Was completely fine with it! She didn't act awkward around me or anything, which I was glad for.

I told my sister this morning, over Facebook chat. (I just couldn't do it in person... And she had lost her phone, so...)
She guessed the quickest. As soon as I mentioned it started with a 'T' she guessed. She was completely fine with it as well, and even offered to help me out with my 'coming out' letter for our parents. It was great!
She told me that she was forgetful, and that if she ever refers to me as a 'she,' she's really sorry. I told her that it was fine.

Well, that's my story so far. All that's left now is:

My cousin, 'B'

My parents

My other friend, 'S'

All my other friends

All my other family

Dolphinkid · 31st Jul 2012, 10:27 AM

Well gongrats bro! That's awesome. Musta been hard.(okay that sounds wrong XD)

IllusiveRannoch · 31st Jul 2012, 11:05 AM

sweetage. great to hear your friend & sis is coolz w/ it.

Smilodon · 31st Jul 2012, 11:51 AM

@Dolphinkid (lol) Yeah, it was difficult for me, but it was worth it!

@IllusiveRannoch Thanks!

LookingtoAffirm · 31st Jul 2012, 05:57 PM

Quite ballsy of you

congrats

**thecat06** · 31st Jul 2012, 06:16 PM

That's awesome!! Congrats!!

Smilodon · 1st Aug 2012, 05:56 PM

I'm planning on coming out to my parents tonight. (I really want to get it over with. I'm tired of being stressed out around them.)
Gosh, I'm nervous....

Lewis · 1st Aug 2012, 06:01 PM

Congratulations and good look with your parents! It seems to be that when you tell people to guess (I've experienced this) that when they do, they keep away from the obvious. Being gay is always the last think my friends say...it's so annoying. I'd know instantly that I was gay!

Keep us updated!

Aeon Magus · 1st Aug 2012, 06:13 PM

Congrats on starting your Coming Out process, Smilodon. And good luck with your parents! Yes, keep us posted.

ToTheCeilingFan · 1st Aug 2012, 07:03 PM

Tell us how it goes, hon! Good luck, I'm glad your sister and the friends you came out to were so supportive. Hugs! <3

Smilodon · 1st Aug 2012, 09:44 PM

Oh it went amazing! When I gave them the letter I ran up to my sister's room and hid, but I made a big deal out of nothing.
We didn't really talk about it (Which I'll do later- I've had enough stress for one day.) but they said they loved me and kept hugging me..

Gosh, I'm so relieved! I knew they probably wouldn't hate me, but my mind kind of did. Well, I'm out on my immediate family!

I'm getting closer and closer to not being ClosetStuck!

**thecat06** · 1st Aug 2012, 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Smilodon

Oh it went amazing! When I gave them the letter I ran up to my sister's room and hid, but I made a big deal out of nothing.
We didn't really talk about it (Which I'll do later- I've had enough stress for one day.) but they said they loved me and kept hugging me..

Gosh, I'm so relieved! I knew they probably wouldn't hate me, but my mind kind of did. Well, I'm out on my immediate family!

I'm getting closer and closer to not being ClosetStuck!

That's awesome!! Congrats!! I'm glad to hear that they reacted well!!

ToTheCeilingFan · 2nd Aug 2012, 07:23 AM

Woohoooo! Dude that's awesome...you go!!! <3

Dolphinkid · 2nd Aug 2012, 07:28 AM

Lol I would've been scared out of my mind too.

IllusiveRannoch · 2nd Aug 2012, 08:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Smilodon

Oh it went amazing! When I gave them the letter I ran up to my sister's room and hid, but I made a big deal out of nothing.
We didn't really talk about it (Which I'll do later- I've had enough stress for one day.) but they said they loved me and kept hugging me..

Gosh, I'm so relieved! I knew they probably wouldn't hate me, but my mind kind of did. Well, I'm out on my immediate family!

I'm getting closer and closer to not being ClosetStuck!

yaay. so glad to hear.

many congrats to you

31st Jul 2012, 09:58 AM	#1
Smilodon Member Regular Member Gender: Transgender - FtM Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: No longer ClosetStuck! (Mostly) Location: California Posts: 17 Join Date: Jul 2012	I'm Coming Out! First I told one of my best friends, who will remain as 'E.' I was staying up late texting her. We were talking about something that sort of related to what I wanted to tell her. I did the obvious thing and told her that I wanted to tell her something. I asked her to try and guess what I wanted to say, since I could not right out tell her. (I have severe social paranoia.) She ended up giving up after about an hour and a half. I finally gave her a hint, and she ended up getting it right away. I responded with a (Don't hate me please!) which made her mad at me. She was offended that I could ever doubt trusting her with anything. xD She then went on, trying to understand a bit better. I can't tell you how relieved and happy I was.. Second, I told one of my friends, who will remain as 'A.' I was taking a walk with her through the neighborhood, as we often do when it gets dark. We started talking about more depressing things, and I started getting nervous, since I wanted to tell her about this. I guess I started hyperventilating, because she asked me if everything was okay. (Our faces were covered by our hoods- for safety reasons, and just good fun.) I told her that I wanted to tell her something, but I couldn't. She proceeded to tell me (for quite a while) how she would always love me no matter what and that she would never disown me as a friend. (I had asked her not to, since I was feeling pretty pessimistic.) We were almost home when she asked the question that revealed it. She asked: "Wait... You're not a guy, right?" (While she meant physically, I saw it as an opportunity to finally get it out.) I told her, no, I was not a guy. At least, not physically. She caught on quick... And... Was completely fine with it! She didn't act awkward around me or anything, which I was glad for. I told my sister this morning, over Facebook chat. (I just couldn't do it in person... And she had lost her phone, so...) She guessed the quickest. As soon as I mentioned it started with a 'T' she guessed. She was completely fine with it as well, and even offered to help me out with my 'coming out' letter for our parents. It was great! She told me that she was forgetful, and that if she ever refers to me as a 'she,' she's really sorry. I told her that it was fine. Well, that's my story so far. All that's left now is: My cousin, 'B' My parents My other friend, 'S' All my other friends All my other family

31st Jul 2012, 10:27 AM	#2
Dolphinkid Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: uh, what? my friends know and my mom doesnt approv Location: San Juan Posts: 171 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: I'm Coming Out! Well gongrats bro! That's awesome. Musta been hard.(okay that sounds wrong XD)

31st Jul 2012, 11:05 AM	#3
IllusiveRannoch ElusivelyIllusive Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: I'm into guys Out Status: work in progress Location: USA Age: 20 Posts: 340 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: I'm Coming Out! sweetage. great to hear your friend & sis is coolz w/ it. __________________ Garrus: "You sure you want to play this game Vega?" James: "What’s the matter, Vakarian , you chicken?" Garrus: "I don’t even know what a chicken is – though I’ve heard everything in the galaxy tastes like it."

31st Jul 2012, 11:51 AM	#4
Smilodon Member Regular Member Gender: Transgender - FtM Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: No longer ClosetStuck! (Mostly) Location: California Posts: 17 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: I'm Coming Out! @Dolphinkid (lol) Yeah, it was difficult for me, but it was worth it! @IllusiveRannoch Thanks!

31st Jul 2012, 05:57 PM	#5
LookingtoAffirm Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay but not self accepting yet Posts: 35 Join Date: Jun 2012	Re: I'm Coming Out! Quite ballsy of you congrats

31st Jul 2012, 06:16 PM	#6
thecat06 Let the journey of life continue! EC Moderator Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! (Homoromantic Demisexual) Out Status: Out as pan to most, out as gay completely Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 20 Posts: 7,032 Join Date: Jun 2011 Tournaments Won: 9	Re: I'm Coming Out! That's awesome!! Congrats!! __________________ The tide of history only advances when people make themselves fully visible. -Anderson Cooper

1st Aug 2012, 05:56 PM	#7
Smilodon Member Regular Member Gender: Transgender - FtM Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: No longer ClosetStuck! (Mostly) Location: California Posts: 17 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: I'm Coming Out! I'm planning on coming out to my parents tonight. (I really want to get it over with. I'm tired of being stressed out around them.) Gosh, I'm nervous....

1st Aug 2012, 06:01 PM	#8
Lewis EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Close friends, acquaintances & whoever asks Location: United Kingdom Age: 19 Posts: 1,404 Join Date: Mar 2012	Re: I'm Coming Out! Congratulations and good look with your parents! It seems to be that when you tell people to guess (I've experienced this) that when they do, they keep away from the obvious. Being gay is always the last think my friends say...it's so annoying. I'd know instantly that I was gay! Keep us updated!

1st Aug 2012, 06:13 PM	#9
Aeon Magus EC's Blue Gaylien Full Member Gender: I go peepee standing up xD Orientation: I'm a Man's Man Out Status: The people that I care about most. Location: Western Cape, SA Age: 27 Posts: 2,919 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: I'm Coming Out! Congrats on starting your Coming Out process, Smilodon. And good luck with your parents! Yes, keep us posted. __________________ Sing me a Painting, I'll paint you a Song Inside my heart is breaking. My make-up may be flaking, but my smile still stays on. The show must go on.

1st Aug 2012, 07:03 PM	#10
ToTheCeilingFan crazed Full Member Gender: Lady with a dash of Tramp Orientation: So dykey I keep the Netherlands from flooding Out Status: My proverbial closet is collecting dustbunnies Location: Somewhere over the rainbow... Age: 19 Posts: 261 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: I'm Coming Out! Tell us how it goes, hon! Good luck, I'm glad your sister and the friends you came out to were so supportive. Hugs! <3 __________________ "Abercrombie isn't about helping people. It's about playing rugby with your best buds in a fresh green field, only you both forgot your clothes."

1st Aug 2012, 09:44 PM	#11
Smilodon Member Regular Member Gender: Transgender - FtM Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: No longer ClosetStuck! (Mostly) Location: California Posts: 17 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: I'm Coming Out! Oh it went amazing! When I gave them the letter I ran up to my sister's room and hid, but I made a big deal out of nothing. We didn't really talk about it (Which I'll do later- I've had enough stress for one day.) but they said they loved me and kept hugging me.. Gosh, I'm so relieved! I knew they probably wouldn't hate me, but my mind kind of did. Well, I'm out on my immediate family! I'm getting closer and closer to not being ClosetStuck!

2nd Aug 2012, 07:23 AM	#13
ToTheCeilingFan crazed Full Member Gender: Lady with a dash of Tramp Orientation: So dykey I keep the Netherlands from flooding Out Status: My proverbial closet is collecting dustbunnies Location: Somewhere over the rainbow... Age: 19 Posts: 261 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: I'm Coming Out! Woohoooo! Dude that's awesome...you go!!! <3 __________________ "Abercrombie isn't about helping people. It's about playing rugby with your best buds in a fresh green field, only you both forgot your clothes."

2nd Aug 2012, 07:28 AM	#14
Dolphinkid Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: uh, what? my friends know and my mom doesnt approv Location: San Juan Posts: 171 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: I'm Coming Out! Lol I would've been scared out of my mind too.

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