So a handful of people know I'm gay. But out of those people I regularly see its just my mum and dad. Anyway I never ever want to talk about it. I dont even know why I just can't. But I feel a bit "trapped in the closet". And maybe if I came out a bit more I'd be a bit better. I'm close with people from work. Despite only knowing them for just under a year, I feel really close to them and probably mote than any other group of friends/acquainces (I've had more acquainces than friends tbh). . In fact only a couple of months in someone (who's kind of been like a big sister to me) asked me if I was bi. I replied saying "no and im fully aware of my sexuality" ie I wasn't lying but I never said I was gay. For over s year now I've been like not denying I'm gay or trying to be straight but I won't admit it either. In fact that girl has confided a pretty big secret to me over a month ago. One she says she hasn't told many people especially anyone from work so I don't think telling her I'm gay would be an issue at all. Also I'm really close to 2 guys that are my age (which is weird because I've only had female friends the past few years) only sort of problem is a)they're both hot and b)I did/do have a crush on one. Atm I'm not sure if its still a crush or its just good feelings for a hot friend (I'm not used to having close friends). Anyway if I did come out to him I wouldn't say I had a crush on him bit its just weirder coming out. To guys. I'm more or less sure they'd be cool with it and they'd be good to talk to but I'm not sure how I'd handle it or be able to talk about it. (My whole issue with my sexuality is mostly with me
What you're saying sounds so similar to my life! Being trapped in the closet and the issue being with me rather than anyone else is what i feel every single day. At work i have some decent friends, some of which are gay and no one has a problem with them, yet i still find it impossible to just admit it. I find myself neither denying or confirming sexuality, although on a work night out a close friend laughed and described me as "the forever bachelor...or possibly gay. LOL i cant imagine you being gay!" and i lol'd and asked her why and she changed the topic, so maybe they know. If you ever work out a way to get past these issues you need to let me know, i'm feeling so bogged down by the lies recently and need to just be out.
Hi there! From the sounds of it, you seem to be ready to take the next step, coming out to your friend and even some of your co-workers. I'd agree with you that being out to the people around you, or at least having a few others know as well, could make it a bit easier on you. Perhaps, you will feel a another sense of relief and that some weight has been lifted from your shoulders. To make it easier on you, try not to go into it that it is 'wired' coming out to guys, it really isn't. Some guys are pretty good listeners and can be as supportive as a female friend. Of course it would depend on their personalities. One question you could ask yourself is: if there is a friend and/or a co-worker that I could come out to, who would I choose? Maybe take it one person at a time so to build up some confidence and also becoming comfortable with others knowing, and being able to talk about yourself.
Well I've been off work all week and I've no seen any of my friends from work (I've text some an stuff like fb) I do feel a bit like sooner or later I will tell someone. Tomorrow its just me and the girl who's like a big sister to me. I know she'll be cool with it (as I mentioned she did ask me if I was bi before) I know its wrong but I feel like I need to be a bit drunk to do it. Obviously I'm not going to work drunk. It's the past 2 people who found out I was gay talked to me about it at parties where I was having fun and I was fine talking about it. But those two people asked me it wasn't like I went to them I'm gay. I keep thinking maybe I should come out to one of them at a night where we've been drinking and socialisingbut the difference is they wouldn't ask me. I don't want to make the night for one person by getting all deep and coming out. Even if I'm fine talking about it and I'm not like a hysterical mess, it just seems a bit inappropriate.
