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Spilled it to my best friend. A better friend then I realized...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by withoutApaddle, Oct 14, 2012.

  1. withoutApaddle

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    So I finally got tired of pretending and came out of my best friend. First person I've ever told. I had a feeling he knew and wouldn't care, but you all know the what-if game your mind plays. I was nervous wreck. Pretty much crying while sending this text. Wondering what he'll say. Wondering if I was about to lose my best friend. Etc etc. The usual.

    Me: Hey. Remember yesterday when we were driving back to your place after dropping off my bike... What you were talking about?

    Bill: Vaguely
    Bill: Did I offend u?

    Me: Haha. No that isn't what I'm trying to say.

    Bill: R u coming out of closet?

    Me: Hypothetically and confidentially speaking, would that surprise you?

    Bill: No. Could care less! Not my business. Nor would it be an issue!

    Me: Thanks. I'm struggling for words so thats about the best i can do right now

    Bill: U don't need to justify anything...all good! I really don't care. Just no hitting on me, or Cait would kick u in the balls. Jk.

    Me: hahahahhaha. Thank you, I needed that laugh.
    Me: I haven't said anything to anyone else, and I don't really want to. So please keep it to yourself.

    Bill: As I said it changes nothing and it really is nobody's business so don't worry about me yapping about it. It's your business and u share it with who u want 2!

    Me: Thanks bud. I'm so tired of pretending that I'm too busy to pick up chicks when we go drinking. And basically lying to you.

    Bill: Matt, I'm a cop. I may not be the smartest cat but this is not news to me. Just no bringing me to drag bars.

    Me: lol. Well I kinda thought this wouldn't be breaking news to u. But it is easier said than done. Billy, *I* don't want to go to a drag bar either so don't worry.

    Bill: Good! Glad that's off your chest!

    Me: I just poured some vodka to take the edge off. It is slightly helping.

    Bill: I know this is a big deal for u but really no need to be worried about taking edge off. U can tell me anything. I'm not some gay hater. Glad u got it off ur chest

    Me: I was freaking the fuck out before and after sending that text, even though I thought it would cool. Much better now.

    Bill: I could tell by the delay. Didn't phase me...won't change a thing.

    Me: Hah it was that obvious huh. Good, I'm glad. Huge load off my chest.

    Bill: No it wasn't obvious I just knew. And FYI buddy ...it's 2012 not 1987. Every other person is gay. Be proud of urself...not scared.

    Me: Thanks. You have no idea how much better I feel.
     
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    Congrats for things turning fine for you! :grin:
     
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    That's fantastic! Congrats!! :slight_smile:
     
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    Awesome that you have such an accepting friend!

    On a sidenote, and I don't mean to be disrespectful, but I laughed when he said, 'Every other person is gay.' :lol: If only that were the truth. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Bill is amazing!
     
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    That's awesome!! I'm glad that it went so well.

    Also, Welcome to EC!!
     
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    Wow, what an enlightened view, from a police officer... and they are traditionally not the most openminded bunch :slight_smile: You're lucky to have such a great friend... and who knows, maybe a year or two down the road, you and he and his wife can all go to a drag show together. They really are a lot of fun :slight_smile:
     
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    Awesome that you have such an accepting friend and someone who you can trust! Great that you are feeling better after having come out to him. :slight_smile:

    .... and welcome to EC!
     
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    That was nice to read..Thanks fro sharing it, and glad that it went so well!
     
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    Congratulations!
     
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    Congratulations on telling him, and I'm so glad he was so accepting and positive. :slight_smile:

    I especially liked the part where he was like "I'm a cop. I may not be the smartest cat but...". That bit cracked me up!
     
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    That's so beautiful. "Every other person is gay."

    Also, people be hatin' too much on law enforcement.
     
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    That's fantastic! It's great that the first person you've ever told is so accepting of it.
    He sounds like a great friend c:
     
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    That was really nice to read, congratulations on both coming out and having such an awesome friend! :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks everyone. I still have to read that text conversation every few days to remind me that it was real. I'm working up to a few more that hope go just as well. I haven't told any family yet. My mom probably suspects it, but she also reminds me all the time how much she wants grand kids. Dad, I don't know.
     
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    Congrats, that's awesome! Good luck with the others! :thumbsup:
     
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    You know, I said just about the exact same thing when my best friend took my coming out the way he did. I'm glad others have been able to have the experience. Congratz.
     
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    Congrats!
     
  19. Valarie

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    having friends like that is awesome

    the two friends i told were completely supportive

    though they both commented on the fact that when i told them i had to tell them something they thought i was going to tell them something bad, like i was dieing ....

    so they were like hey, your not dieing so we're good with it

    >.> my friends...
    are awesome

    they made me feel like the news i was telling them wasn't the end of the world, which its not at least for them
     
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    That was a really awesome conversation. I feel we should all strive to be a little more like Bill :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: