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Told my GUY best friend!

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  1. Lewis

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    This is something I feared the most but last night (admittedly drunk) I told my best friend (that's a guy) that I'm gay. I got a reaction that I didn't expect at all. We both cried, talked for hours and the only thing he was upset about is that I didn't tell him first. He actually made me get in bed with him and just hug and talk...now that must be the perfect outcome! :icon_bigg

    I think I can now change my 'out status' to friends, because all the friends that truly matter to me know that I'm gay. Others, if they ask, I'll tell them. I no longer have to be scared that somebody will tell him and I'm just really happy right now. :eusa_danc

    I'm a little hungover so this post is probably a little unstructured, but I want you all to know that those you're scared to tell, will probably surprise you!
     
    #1 Lewis, Oct 27, 2012
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    That's fantastic Lewissss! And very sweet. What an interesting reaction and outcome!
     
    #2 Alan Lewrie, Oct 27, 2012
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    That's one outstanding friend you have there. While I'm out to nearly all my straight guy friends, and all the ones I've told have taken it no less than wonderfully, I doubt they'd cry with me about it or snuggle with me in bed for any reason. Awfully deep stuff~ Glad to hear things turned out so well for you~
     
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    :slight_smile: Ha, very interesting. And I now know that he still feels the same because he just text me saying that he's glad I told him. I feel like I can be myself now :slight_smile:

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    Thanks. He's a pretty deep guy, he's straight, but really open with his emotions. I kinda knew he would take it well, but was too scared to risk it. Luckily the alcohol helped me tell him sooner rather than later, because I don't think he was happy I didn't tell him before others.
     
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    Well done Lewissss. You must be so relieved that you've told your friend. You give me hope that my friends will take it well when I finally come out to them :slight_smile:
     
    #5 Closet88, Oct 27, 2012
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    I know from your others posts that this wasnt easy for you. I'm so happy for you ^_^.
     
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    He's a keeper !
     
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    Thanks for the responses :slight_smile: it was hard for me, but I'm so glad I did it.
     
    #8 Lewis, Oct 27, 2012
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    Congrats Lewis! :slight_smile: happy for u bro
     
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    Congratulations! It's fantastic that you were able to overcome your fears, and came out to your best friend! :slight_smile:
     
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    Congrats! Proud of you for overcoming you fears and telling him, bro! d(^_^ )z
     
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    I am soooooooooo Happy for you! You should be very proud of yourself and your choice of friends.
     
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    Thanks ^^
     
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    Congrats!!! And thanks for sharing. This gives me hope. I haven't come out to anyone yet, but my closest friend is going to be the first. I'm not sure when I will tell her yet. Right now, I'm still working on making sure I fully accept it myself. It's been a long, hard road for me to come to terms with it. I'm terrified to tell her. She and I have been friends since we were five years old. We met on the very first day of kindergarten. She is amazing, though, and I have a feeling she will take it well. But as you said, I'm just too scared to risk that right now. Again, thank you for sharing and I'm so proud of you for telling him!!!
     
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    Thanks! Trust me, it's those that you're not sure about that surprise you the most. If it's your closest friend, make sure it's face-to-face so you can talk it through and hug it out etc. it makes it really personal and your bond as friends will grow so much stronger. It's also important that you're fully out to yourself too. Good luck, I'm sure she will love you all the same! :slight_smile:
     
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    I'm a little late reading this, but big congrats. Nothing feels better than the ones you love the most being ok with what makes you....you.
     
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    Wow that's great!! Congrats!! Sounds like you have amazing friends!! :grin:
     
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    Jumping on the late bandwagon... congratulations! :slight_smile:
     
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    That's awesome! I'm glad that he took it well! :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks guys :slight_smile: I really need to tell more people! :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
    #20 Lewis, Nov 7, 2012
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