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1st person! How it went

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by metoo, Oct 28, 2012.

  1. metoo

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    Hi EC!

    Last night I told the first person I have ever told that I was gay. I was eating dinner last night with just my sister. My other siblings were away and my parents were out of the house. I thought 'what better time would there be to tell her, she is surely the first person I would want to tell anyway.' So I told her. It was actually pretty hard. Here is how it went.

    me: *gets up to retreive the peas from the microwave*
    her:
    me: want some peas
    her: yeah sure
    me:
    her:
    me:
    her:

    (Ok, so there was a long time while we just sat there eating. After finishing my peas, I told my self I would tell her, I basically forced myself. I was breathing so hard, that I'm sure you could hear it 20 feet away. I was about to pass out from nervousness.)

    me: Uh, [her name] can I tell you something?
    her: yeah, sure

    (I couldn't look her in the eye, I was breathing as hard as an elephant just finishing a marathon, we waited in silence for about 30 seconds, and then I started to tear up.)

    me: I'm gay

    (here I started crying, I took off my glasses and wiped my eyes.)

    her: (she was sitting across from me) that's ok
    me: (I just kept crying)
    her: (she stood up and walked over and kneeled by me) that is okay, [my name] you can't help it. oh, [my name] it's ok.
    me:*sniffle*
    her: Sorry for asking but, how do you know?

    (and this is true, I hate that question. I know ok, I like girls, I don't know how I know, I just do)

    me: I have known since 8th grade
    her: wow
    me: yeah, I feel like I have been keeping it a secret for a long time
    her: yeah
    me: did you ever think I was gay before now?
    her: (slight pause) no
    me:
    her: [my name], I don't see you any differently. You're still my sister.
    me: yeah, now you just know a little bit more about me.

    After that I just talked to her about how it has been hard for me to live my life like a lie, and talked to her about the girl I like, and my friends who are always pestering me about who I like. I was great just to tell someone. I told her about EC and how it has really helped me. It really was great. She said that she really didn't care weather I was gay or not.

    The only thing is that because I got so emotional (I'm not that emotional of a person) she may not want to talk about it with me more, in fear of upsetting me. Although I made it clear that we could talk about it, and that I would probaly love to answer any questions that she had.

    This was a big step for me, but I am so glad that it went mostly well, and then afterward we watched 'Edward Scissorhands"
     
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    Congratulations on coming out to your sister. I can imagine it was a huge step for you. Great that you seized the opportunity and went for it, and that it turned out so well. :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks, yeah. I think it will make me a lot more comfortable around her. I can stop pretending.
     
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    Congrats!
    Was the peas good?
     
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    Yeah, I really like peas. My family buys them frozen and then heats them in the microwave.
     
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    Congrats! I'm glad that it went well!
     
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    Yeah, I'm really happy about it too!
     
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    Do you remember what brand it is?
     
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    many congratulations to you. super that it went well
     
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    congrats! that's awesome! I wish I had the courage that you have!
     
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