OK, over the past year I think my dad has become suspicious about my sexuality. He doesn't know if I've had a girlfriend. I watch wrestling. I don't like football. My characterisitics are really "macho". A few months ago he asked me if I was gay. I denied it even though I have some feelings that way. he said that he would be fine if I was but I still denied it. People may say it's stupid as I had the perfect chance but if I was to come out know it would ruin my life. Imagine at school, how awkward students would feel around me. Therefore I have decided that I am going to wait until I've probably got a boyfriend or something so then they know I'm for real. Just thought I would share this with everyone!
Well that's cool, it sounds as if your dad would be ok with it. Your status is set to 'not sure' so I wouldn't say anything unless things have changed from that and you're absolutely certain. Now I'm going to say something very typical: take things at your own pace and only tell when you're comfortable. You seem to have things under control, so well done.
Mate, keep in mind that your dad will keep it quiet. He sounds like a good dad, and if he is as pro-gay as he sounds, then he'd be happy to give you time and space. I think he probably knows, if he's asking. He might've spotted some porn or whatever on the computer. The biggest thing about coming out is that it's NOT what it sounds like. You don't open a door and step through. It's more like a long tunnel. Each step is another step closer to being out. You don't need to take all the steps now, but your dad will be there for you. And no, I'm not rushing you. I'm just making sure you know that coming out to your dad doesn't force you to come out to your schoolfriends, your teachers, all of them. It's just your dad.
I've come out to only two people yet so I don't know if I'm qualified to give advice, but I didn't feel completely ready either time I came out, and yet I am SO happy that I did. As long as you're sure your dad would be fine with it, I would think about it for a little while longer and consider coming out. You'll feel so good afterwards, if you do. And as said above, it's just your dad.
Dude Extreme26, I know exactly how you're feeling! When you said you thought you should wait until you had a boyfriend first so they know you're for real, I thought of that exact thing a few days ago! But I've decided i'm going to come out to my mom hopefully this week even though I don't have a boyfriend. You don't have to come out to your entire school, but you should try coming out to your dad because he seems like he's really accepting and nice and also how long do you think it'll be until you have a boyfriend? For me, I know for a fact I won't have a boyfriend anytime soon because I go to an all guys private school so no one has revealed that they are gay so there is basically no way I could meet a gay person at my school lol. So I'm not out to anyone but I want to tell my mom. You should go for it
