Coming out, adjusting, learning the ropes, and LIVING.. Help!

I have come out to some of my best friends (not my besty tho), and it was pretty difficult. Then, I became comfortable with the reduced weight, but definitely was not satisfied. I have recently put together the fact that the root of most of all the shit that I've put myself through in life has stemmed from my sexuality, and I frankly would like to feel in control of outcomes of things. To do so, I need to come out. In what order I do things, I have no idea.

Except, I know I need to tell my best friend/roommate so we can grow closer. As far as family, I want to tell my mom, then father. I don't know how to go about conversation starters, etc. I'm unsure of how dating works in the gay scene. I've dl a well known app simply to talk and meet new people, but people always want more on that thing, so I deleted it. I see cute guys everywhere, but that doesn't mean I can walk up to them and ask for their number if I don't know if we are on the same team. I want to know how successful, monogamous gay couples meet. I have no experience with men, physically, and I don't know if that makes me undesirable or not. I might be somewhat prude, but I don't know, I've only dated women (never slept with one). I don't drink, smoke trees, or any of that, so parties aren't my favorite places to meet people. I'm finally graduating from undergrad in may, and I want to come out before then. My biggest fear is I will remain closeted, live alone, and dream of how my life could be. I don't want to feel this alienation anymore. The seclusion and lack of connection I feel makes me question whether I'm a sociopath. While I don't believe that is the case, the thick barrier my sexuality has created has made me wholeheartedly believe it at times. I want to feel alive and happy.. Alive and happy. :eusa_danc

---------- Post added 22nd Nov 2012 at 02:53 AM ----------

I re-read this after posting.. It's really late, I'm falling asleep (as are most of my higher functioning thought processes), and there doesn't seem to bemuch direction in what I wrote. I basically want to know how you felt before and after coming out; how you came out to family; how your personal life changed; where/how you meet men (the kind you'd want to bring home); is being an idealist bad when looking for relationships; did you find love?; was the love mutual?; how do you learn to trust men physically if you have no experience; is the inexperience a deal breaker for most?; how does one get over sex if one is a germaphobe?; did you ever date a guy, then force him to get an std test before sex?; is that crazy that I asked the last question?; how does your family treat your bf/gf in lo of being something different than heterosexual?; how long did it take you to not feel weird to post photos as a couple?; are you happy? At least, are you happier than before?; has your sense of guilt and shame absolved?; would you kiss your bf/gf lovingly in front of your family?

Phones about to die.. The boiled down version of my confusing post is detailed just above