Great Coming Out Experience to Friend!

I came out to one of my close friends the other day and I thought I'd share the experience with all of you.

I met her for coffee and I was pretty nervous while I waited for her to show up. I tried to pluck up the courage to tell her for over a year now but I always chickened out or plans changed and never got the chance. I finally built up the courage to tell her on Sunday. In hindsight I don't really know why I was so nervous, she's bisexual and has been open about it so really, I had nothing to worry about but yet, I was still hesitant right up to the moment.

I told her that I am bisexual and have been struggling with coming out to people for some time now. I told her that the reason I struggled so much was because of how terrible my first experience was and how self-loathing I've been over the past few years.

She asked me if I had seen anyone since realizing that I am bisexual. I started to break down a little as I retold the horrors of my first relationship. I also brought up the fact that I'm currently seeing someone.

Her reaction was exactly what I thought it would be. She was very cool about it and even said "I could have told you that you were bi like 2 years ago but I felt like you needed to figure it out for yourself." I asked her what it was that made her think that and she said it was because of my dating history and how painfully awkward/uncomfortable I was when trying to interact with guys.

She suggested that I tell my parents sooner rather than later since I'm close with them and I'll feel better and less stressed if I didn't have to hide this part of me. I can't help but agree with her but also have concerns about when, where, and how to tell my family. I guess I can always ask her for advice in that department since she knows now!