do you get "gayer" after coming out?

It happened to me too, like my friend was talking about a girl that walked in and said she looked really nice today and I said yea she does she's REALLY pretty,and then I told her "trust me I know" we laughed about it because shes the only one in my school that knows I'm gay. Bu i think because I came out to her I became more comfortable around her, and more comfortable with myself, so I'm not avoiding the feelings I have towards girls. So in a sense "yes,I became gayer after I came out" hahaha

 

YES! YES ME TOO!

I thought I was asexual until recently when I fell for a girl, but since I started coming out I started realizing... girls are even sexier than I thought!!!! LoL (!)

 

I didn't really get "gayer" per say, just was more comfortable to be myself after coming out

 

It's not so much as getting GAYER, just more confident. When you realize how accepting those around you are, then yes, you probably will be more open.

 

Yeah, that happened to me, and before I came out I actually thought I might be asexual. I think I probably was just repressing myself so much and now that I'm basically almost completely out, I find myself noticing more girls. It's a bit odd actually when I have to hide the fact now from people I'm not out to--feels rather unnatural even though it usually doesn't affect much. So I guess I became "gayer', haha.

 

This. This so much. I don't feel MORE gay. I just feel more comfortable BEING gay around people.

 

I'm pretty much the same person except for a lot more confidence in my self than I had before, but yes I have been noticing guys a lot more now that I'm coming out and possibilities are staring to appear before me unless the guy is straight XP

 

+1.

I think it's at least partly a matter of just feeling able to be yourself around other people, since you're no longer carrying around this big secret. As for suddenly noticing guys, they were always there - you probably just sub-consciously didn't let yourself look!

 

From my view of coming out to myself and a few of close friends (one lesbian and one gay and one straight female) I'd say yes.
I think for me it's accepting who I am, even though I am still learning who I am and knowing that it's ok to be who I am.

I've always avoided looking at men (other then some gay porn) and considered myself straight but accepting of others. It's like I'm following the rules of "I'm meant to be attracted to the opposite sex only".

On Xmas day I met up with guy and was so nervous about the small things like sitting on the same couch as him and holding his hand.
He was persistent, but slow and understanding and really broke the ice. Now I find myself noticing other men. I'm also feeling gayer, if that makes any sense.

It's little things, like I started wearing a paracord bracelet around 6 months ago for practical reasons (I'm into camping, outdoors etc. I'm also a scout leader). I pulled it apart and used the cord etc, got myself a new one. But now, I'm liking wearing it in a different way. I've had dull green or camouflage colours, but now I want some bright colours there (they do make rainbow paracord). I'm in the closet, so I'll hold back on that for now...

 

I definitely got gayer, even my friends have noticed. When I say gayer, I agree with others that I got more confidence.

 

nope

 

This.

 

Many have stated this same thing. It is a matter of being more open and allowing yourself to be free enough to show your true self.

 

Everyone nailed it. All that stuff you keep tied down, you start letting loose. No, guys don't immediately ramp their voices up and start talking about fabrics. But you remember that really cool shirt you didn't buy because you thought it might lead people to think you're gay? You'll go back and buy it now.

Lex

 

I definitely changed. I notice guys more, I speak more freely. Actually, that's what I always found baffling with confident straight guys. It always seemed that they didn't mind looking after a guy in the street and even saying how great he looks. It seems I refrained from it just out of the fear of outing. Which outed me to anyone insightful enough. So yeah, I don't stop myself from looking or commenting anymore, which is doing wonders with defining my preferences.

Oh yes

It's funny, clothes used to be stuff to keep me warm. Now it's something I feel good in (although, not much choice when you are this tall :tantrum

 

I wouldn't say 'gayer'

You just become more comfortable and you stopping hiding those things that might have outed you.

I think it's common

 

I got more comfortable with who i am. i wouldnt say gayer though haha

 

Ummm, I've certainly become more comfortable with being myself around my friends to whom I am out, but I don't think I'm any gayer, no.