I have been working with a woman who is my supervisor. She has been flirting with me for 5 months and I have also flirted back. The sexual tension has been unbareable at times (good and bad)Extremely strong that when she walks near me I cannot even think. She walks in my vicinity often. When we are in meetings to wants to listen to everything I say and always has her eyes on me. After 5 months of this I approach her about a possibility of more. (She is married with grown children. One which is a gay son-who has struggled with his gayness) I think deep in some part of her -she does also. She told me that she was flattered but was not gay....Now I have my intense feelings with nowhere to go with them........Was I being played...or possible she can't admit that she does have those feelings but unable to go there (that's my gut feeling). Thanks for any response. Please don't say she is playing head games...I think it is more than that for her...I have to change my profile female...
Even if there was more, the fact that she is your supervisor should put major air breaks on the relationship. If it became more, you could both lose your jobs and your careers could be ruined. She might return your regard, but realize that it would be career suicide to further the relationship and chose what she thought was the best way to turn you down.
Thank you for your reply. You are probably right on target. I just want her so intensely... guess I'll just have to work through it....
Working through it is so hard. It's like everything came to a screeching halt. I cry and my stomach hurts and I need to pull myself together for work tomorrow. I have been so outwardly happy that everyone tells me that they are basically so happy that I am happy this year-now what do I do-put on show of happiness to smooth things over....I called a therapist to try and get an appointment today(if she is open). I need a face to face discussion with another human to help with the extreme feelings.....
