Went straight back in.

Well give your mother some time, I did the same with my mom, and she told me I brought shame to the family. A week later she told me she just wants me to be happy whatever and however that is.

Just be confident in who you are, sometimes others may not accept you but you have have the confidence in yourself and be able to continue on with your life.

 

Your mother is being VERY unfair on you

Reminds me of "Prayers for Bobby" (2009) - a great film [see it on YouTube] about a mother coming to terms with her son's sexuality

and you .. you need some good support
- here
- friends
- maybe a group from LGBT community in your area

a confidential counsellor may also be helpful if you are getting too stressed out

but come back here too .. its so easy, and free!

love

 

I'm sorry to hear it went so badly (*hug*)

Maybe you just need to give her some time? Or just wait until you go to university or something before you tell her again. Either way, don't swallow bleach. Besides death, I'm sure it tastes dreadful.

 

I can't believe how some parents can be so cruel to their children just because they're attracted to the same gender. I'm sorry that this happened to you and I'm with bingostring, try to find support groups around you, you've already found this place which is great but if you need a more face to face kind of help then see if you can find one near your area.

 

My grandma reacted the same way when I told her. That was four years ago. Over Christmas, she told me "I've come to respect you a lot more now that you've turned your life around. There's just one thing that I never will accept about you." "What's that", I said. She said "You know what it is." I said "What, the fact that I like guys?" She said, "Yep."

But maybe someday. One can only hope, you know.

 

One of the things to keep in mind during the coming out process is that you have no idea how the other person will react. That part is a risk you have no control over, but to maintain resolve and fight through these feelings you should always keep in mind what motivated you to begin coming out. Maybe it's that feeling of asserting your true self, or wanting to be honest with the people you care about.

I will neither encourage nor discourage you from killing yourself; every now and then I wonder whether coming out several years ago was the right decision for me and if not killing myself really was the right decision, so I can't give any good advice on that. It hurts, I know it does, and I'm so sorry, I really am (I'm not sure how sincere words on a screen sound). I know this will sound like such a trite thing to say, but you need to give it time--not to wait for your mother to come around and accept you (that may never happen), but rather for your to improve and restructure your life to find emotional support and bolster your sense of identity. I've found that the worst moments of my life have fortified me against some pretty nasty scenarios later on. I truly hope your situation improves, but even if it doesn't, please give it time--maybe it seems at first ironic or bitter, but I mean this earnestly: there is value in what you're going through.

 

It may seem distant to you now, but there will come a time when you are independent and can choose who you want in your life. There will be so many people you meet who don't care, or who support you in your orientation. And not just your orientation, but your interests, goals, and dreams. You are just as allowed to be yourself as anyone else and you deserve to be happy as much as anyone else. Things may be hard right now but you will get your freedom and you can make your life whatever you want it to be.
Then, if she still has the same attitude, it will be her loss in not getting to share your life with you.
There is blood family, but there is also the family you choose and it is equally precious.

 

In addition to agreeing with what Chip said, I wanted to elaborate on one thing:

It's incredibly unlikely that everyone in your entire family will have the exact same reaction to you coming out. It is much more probable that individuals will vary in their responses. Some may react like she did; some will be more like, "that's none of my business, but I just don't want to hear about it." Some will be mildly uncomfortable. And most likely, some will support you. Your family does not have a hive mind.

This is just initial reactions; most people will eventually accept you, even if they react really badly at first.

 

Lots of people are telling you to give her some time. Don't do that, she won't change her beliefs, most likely. Wait until you're in college. I know it feels like a long time but it really isn't, and you'll be glad you did once you leave the household.

 

Believe me I know how it feels. My dads side of the family found out and casted me out for being gay. Although I thought about it and said that as long as I can still live happy and be sucessful I didn't need them to accept me. Anyway in my opinion I would wait for a moment where I know I can go somewhere and actually stay for a while. One more thing I learned is that there will always be someone with you that will help guide you to a happy life. Hope everything goes well just remember that you also have people here to help yu along the way as well.

 

I'm really sorry of you Rarar that your family wouldn't accept you for being who you are, still I would like to say I wish I had been so brave as you to come out to my parents at your age. My opinion is that if you're in risk of being kicked out of your house for being gay, in that case I'd not say anything till you're financially independent, or, at least, till you go to university, assuming you'll be far away from home, but in any case, seek your happiness ignoring what your family wants you to be, it's your life, not theirs, but be a little cautious while you depend on them.

In any case, perhaps she'll accept eventually, some people need time to assimilate such things that go against their principles, but still, it surprises me how unfair some parents can be with their children just because they're not straight, It's just over the top... As bingostring said, if you're lucky enough to have a LGTB community you can go, it would be a good idea to seek advise there. Good luck!

 

No definitely not appropriate!! And I'm sorry to hear what you are going through and I really feel you need to be who you are...maybe not today and maybe not even tomorrow but someday yes....you need to take care of you!

(*hug*)

 

Mother's a selfish narcissistic bitch.