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Came out to best friend today... (wow!)

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by PeteNJ, Jan 31, 2013.

  1. PeteNJ

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    For the past week I wanted to meet with my best friend to come out.

    He was busy, said the next week (which is this week). We then happened to see each other over the weekend at an event, he pulls me aside to talk. I talked about something, but not being gay -- just didn't want to do it in the back of a room with lots of friends around.

    Now he's suspicious... he calls me last night, says lets talk on the phone. Well no way I wanted to do it on the phone, and made up something lame. We then agree to meet at Starbucks this morning. I get there, he calls me, he can't find his car keys - so I go to his house, which actually was a better place to talk.

    He knows me well enough, he sees and understands that I'm trying to reinvent myself in some key areas of my life (work, home, etc, too). We talk about that a bit, then I drop, well, you know I need to tell you more.

    If I didn't know him so well, I'd have probably launched into "I've been in therapy and I'm learning about myself and accepting my sexuality...and I'm gay" but with him, I just said "I'm gay"

    The conversation continued as if if were no big deal at all. Then he stopped, he congratulated me, how exciting my life will be now. He said he didn't have really any idea (I do a good closet, huh). He scolded me for not coming to him earlier to talk this through -- he would have helped anyway he could.

    He repeated what a great time this is going to be in my life. Meeting new men, dating, and then someday finding the right guy to settle down with. Pretty sweet!

    He asked me what kinds of guys I like -- he's got a lot of gay friends and wants to know what kind of guys to set my up with.

    I couldn't have gotten more acceptance and friendship from someone.

    Yes, I'm happy.

    (damn, it gets better!):icon_bigg
     
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    Aww, that's great! :slight_smile:
     
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    Awww XD that's awesome!!! Congrats!!
    (I just came out to my best friend too, so I know how amazing it feels)
    It makes me even happier for you!!! (*hug*)
     
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    GOOD FOR YOU!!! that is so nice, i'm happy you have a great friend who is there and supports you. I hope you meet some really nice men and eventually settle down. You give me hope... I still need to come out to my friends :slight_smile: xxx
     
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    well done
    hope I can learn to come out to my friends after so many sucsess stories on EC
     
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    That's so cool. Guys who are accepting like that are the best. Congrats on coming out and for having such a great friend!
     
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    What an awesome inspiring story!! :eusa_clap
     
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    Congrats! Maybe I can come out to my best friend this weekend too! But then again, maybe not...all depends.
     
  9. Forever

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    How supportive :slight_smile: I came out about a month ago to my best friend and it feels like a thousand pound weight has been lifted off your shoulders! Congrats
     
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    I'm very happy for you! :slight_smile:
     
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    Fantastic news love. Hugs
     
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    Congratulations, I know when I came out to my councillor I felt so much better and noticed a change in my mood. I can’t imagine how it would feel coming out to a close friend.

    Sale Gay Guy
     
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    That's awesome!!!
     
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    that's so amazing I'm really happy for you :slight_smile: I remember that my best friend was the first I came out to, and although it's not the same since my best friend is a girl, it still felt heartwarming that she accepted me and was happy for me and such. Congratulations man, you really deserve it, and I hope you have an awesome future
     
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    Congrats!!!!! That's a great story, your friend sounds like a fabulous person