I came out to my best friends last week. I told them that I was gay through a private message on a social website. They promised that they wouldn't tell anyone, ANYONE. They were okay about it and they didn't unfriend me or hate me at all. But somehow, one of their parents found out and called our school. It's an international school but after they found out, they said that they were going to expel me if they get another phone call from any parent that regards me of being gay. They said that I was a sexual predator and I was a danger to other students. They also told my parents and they were very shocked. They took away my iphone and also started questioning me about all this kind of stuff. They were very mad because they're homophobic and religious. I was grounded and they also want to send me to another school. I told them a lie that this was just a joke because I didn't want to get a girlfriend during valentines day as an excuse because they were planning on taking me to therapy and turn me back into straight. I am very mad at my friends and I haven't talked to them because my parents also made me delete my facebook account. This has happened so quickly and I'm not even sure which friend told their parents about this. I am going to ignore them for a while though, and I'm just hoping that I can go to school without all this discrimination... What should I do?
I very sorry to hear your in that situation. It incredible that in 2013 people still get placed in situations like this. Don't be too mad at your friends it may have been an accident. Make sure that your education and future aren't going to be ruined by you coming out. Pretend your not gay (if it isn't safe to say you are) and when your out of that situation then you can come out. Don't let it get you down. Remember that there is nothing wrong with being gay, there nothing wrong with you and that they are wrong for discriminating. Don't worry it will get better. Best of luck.
yes, make sure your future is certain. Keep to cover until you're in the clear and don't feel pressured to come out to someone - the most important part of my sexuality was when I came out to myself, if you can accept yourself, which I assume you already have, then knowing when to let others in should be easy. I wish you good luck and hope I instilled some clear thought. ---------- Post added 10th Feb 2013 at 01:05 AM ---------- yes, make sure your future is certain. Keep to cover until you're in the clear and don't feel pressured to come out to someone - the most important part of my sexuality was when I came out to myself, if you can accept yourself, which I assume you already have, then knowing when to let others in should be easy. I wish you good luck and hope I instilled some clear thought.
This is truly disgusting. What kind of school do you attend that the staff and administration can expel you for being gay, and make accusations that you are a sexual predator? You should look into your legal rights. Good luck with your situation.
(*hug*) You need one. I am deeply sorry to know that you are in this situation. It isn't right for your parents to do what they are doing. I am here for you to talk to. Anyhow, the first time I told my parents sucked. I did as you did and told them it was a joke. Continue to say so because it isn't safe for you. Don't let them try to turn you straight because it is impossible and wrong. You aren't broken. Continue with your education and make sure your future isn't going to be ruined. I would only tell them once you are able to live on your own and financially support yourself. Best of luck! (*hug*)
Hi there, yes it is important to ensure you are in a safe environment BUT since you are from Switzerland Im quite sure Swiss anti discrimination laws may make the actions of your school if not entirely illegal than at least suspect! Furthermore I recommend you seek out counselling from a support group that specialises in issues involving LGBT teens, they will be confidential and may make you feel less alone!!! I'm sure most major cities in Switzerland will have these as do most cities in western Europe! If anyone can provide a list of support networks for young people in switzerland???? I know Geneva, Zurich, Lucerne and Basel at least would have them.....
I am terribly horrified that people reacted this badly. At least with me, if my mother starts thinking i need help to become straight, my dad and sister would tip the scales. I hope everything turns out okay for you. Good Luck!
My main question is how a school can label a 14 year old as a sexual predator. ---------- Post added 14th Feb 2013 at 12:39 AM ---------- And how they can expel you for being gay.
I went to a small private school that expelled students if they even suspected them of being gay. BUT that was a private baptist school in rural texas...and we all know you can be as hateful as you want if you hide behind religion as your excuse. To the original poster, I'm so sorry it blew up in your face like this. Unfortunately it may be best for you to tell them it was just a joke. At 14 you need your family and your education...risking losing those right now could have a devastating impact on your life. So unfortunately you may have to stay in the closet for a little while...(*hug*) You can PM me whenever you need to talk to someone, ok? (*hug*)
Thanks everyone for all this support I'm feeling a little better right now and my parents are just pretending that nothing happened... My dad keeps on saying that I'm not gay all the time although I know that it's not true. I guess I can't go and deal with any anti discrimination stuff because my parents would try and put me in some kind of counselling and "change me" to straight after they find out... I still haven't talked to any of my friends yet so I'm not quite sure what to do because i dont know if they actually told their parents or their parents went into their accounts, also I don't know who is actually behind this. I'm really confused at the same time because I don't really want to trust anyone anymore...
That is horrible and has to be really hard. I thought I had it bad... I hope everything works out because that is so wrong
