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Came out to my best and oldest friend

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by greatwhale, Feb 20, 2013.

  1. greatwhale

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    I have known my best friend for over 40 years and I came out to him tonight. I managed to surprise him :lol: which I do every decade or so.

    I love him dearly as my best friend and I was worried that this news might change our relationship but nah, he's cool. I'm quite sure he did not expect this but it's not the first time I've managed to surprise him, what I love about him is that he just goes with the flow and listens as I go on and on.

    He gave me his full support and attention, plenty of compassion and understanding, and best of all we had some serious laughs this evening, especially when I told him that I now identify myself as a "Friend of Dorothy" :icon_bigg

    He's a cool dude, and we've never been closer.
     
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    That great I hope everything goes well in the long run.
     
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    congratulations!
     
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    Wow that's awesome!! Congrats!! :grin:
     
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    Yay. I'm glad. :slight_smile:
     
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    Wonderful and amazing!

    I"m finding I put of lot of anxiety into coming out, and so far, its not warranted.

    Congrats.

    And those of us "late but great" folk -- it sure does get better for us, too.
     
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    I have a straight friend that goes back that far.. we're going to Barcelona for a concert together ... I will have to come out to him .. its inevitable .. the conversation we have never had. It is sad...
     
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    It's a conversation that will reveal yourselves to each other, enjoy it!
     
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    I came out to one of my close friends on a Facebook chat about a week ago. Surprised him big time, but then we continued talking about the surprising start to the Leafs season. :lol:

    Congrats! :slight_smile:
     
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    Oh, it just has to get better! Going through the start a divorce right now:bang:, so those fearless words are all that I have to hang on! (plus the kindness of friends, and strangers...):help:
     
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    Don't worry about having all the answers... and don't hesitate to ask for support.

    Divorce and ending relationships sucks big time, no matter if the reasons are right.

    /p
     
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    The very definition of tragedy, as the ancient Greeks saw it, was that it often arose as a consequence of doing the right thing - (e.g. Antigone) this fascinated them to no end!

    So yes, I'm living the drama of a tragic marriage that should not have occurred in the first place...some of us are just too dense to see it early enough...
     
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    That's fantastic news :slight_smile:
     
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    At my invitation, my friend actually came on to this site as a guest to check out my posts. He caught my OP above and sent me a very warm e-mail in response. We're guys, so I could never feel comfortable telling him directly the things I wrote there (sad isn't it?).
    No matter, next time we'll talk, it'll probably be about the same stuff that has always kept our friendship interesting...and life will go on!
     
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    Wonderful! I am so glad to hear things went well. That's when it's really confirmed that your close friendships are really as rich as they seem!