Hello all... Back story -- I've been going with my high school aged son to see colleges. Its been a really great time with him. Part 2 backstory -- he may be gay, hes become very close with a kid who is gay. Of course it may be just a friendship. But over the past 8 months, I'm now looking back at the times they've had sleepovers... it could be. In any case, thought it time to share this information with his mother, my ex wife. There have been some homophobic comments by her current husband, which I want to stop, to be sensitive. We had a great talk about him. And then, I told her I would be disingenuous to talk about our son, without sharing about my journey. She was very happy for me, how liberating it must be. And she tells me, well the family has been thinking that for 25 years (really???). Got a couple months before my full coming out when I tell my kids, for now, it feels great. So coming out continues.... Thank you all for your support - I'm getting my life back.
That's really something, Pete, I really am encouraged by this as I must eventually face the same thing (once the divorce is through, etc.)
That takes a lot of courage from what I've read on here. I'm glad that it went well and I'm happy that things are good. As for your ex's husband, hopefully one day his view will change. At least if your son actually does turn out to be gay, his father will be there and accepting of it. Either way, good job! Hopefully this journey goes as smoothly as it seems to be right now.
Congrats Pete! This made me so happy to read. You've helped me so much, and I'm glad things are working out for you! Quick question - why haven't you told your son? I think that might go a long way in making him OK with who he is (if he indeed is gay), even though it probably would be initially traumatic for him. I really think it would be good in the long run. Of course, only you know your son and what would be good for him
Congrats Pete! Question, I remember when you first joined EC, you had a girlfriend and thought marriage was around the corner. Have you told her yet? Did I miss that post? How did it go?
Congratulations. It happens quite often that family knows for a long time before we come out. After all, you are noticing about your son. People who care about you noticed about you, too. It just means they care, and were paying attention. It's especially unsurprising that your ex-wife had an idea about this. (Now, change your out status, ex-wife is a big one!)
If your son is gay, he will find so much comfort in knowing that he has somebody to talk to and relate to. Congratulations and good luck!
You do remember correctly. Stay tuned. Some family events coming up in About 6 weeks that I'm holding off for... Though to be honest, if I can figure out in my head a way to do it earlier, I will . /p
Congratulations! I'm always happy to hear things turn out well for other "late-bloomers". I'm so proud for you! **big hugs**
