Okay so I has pretty much given up on my crush. Anyway as I do I had heard from several friends that another mutual friend I'll call him jack, was bi. Truthfully I was not surprised. At one point several people Said they found mild gay porn on his phone. Anyway tonight I finally got the courage to come out, but being the untrusting person I am I had to check. As he left my friends house I said I would walk him to his car. Once there I told him that I had a really awkward/random question. There were people outside and it was raining so we got in his car. After I minute of silence, right before I told him I asked "so this is random but, you're bi right?" And replied "Haha what?!? No! Hah is that all you wanted to ask?" And I was like "uhhhh.... Ya." He then said that he didn't have to leave he just wanted to know what I wanted to talk to him about..... And to make things worse he came back into our fiends house and was like "so guess what Justin just asked me!" And the. He Told everyone and our other friend was like "so what else were you gonna say" and the rest of the night was really awkward and everyone kinda tried to act like they weren't thinking about what just happened. Then we all left. It turns out he isn't bi, at all. I almost just screwed up everything! The one time I try I come out! Haha just my luck.... Has anything like this happened to anyone else? Any advice for how I can clean up this mess?
Wow, that really sucks. But you're completely right, that sounds disastrous. It really can't go anywhere but up.
Haha true! I guess that one way to look at it!! But oh my god, I was so embarrassed... I still am! And he'll probably tell people at school too... Haha at-least I tried! #participationpoints
Ah.. it depends on what sort of a group you and your friends are, of course, but I'd say that was very untactful of him. Sorry, mate. Are you feeling ok? I assume there are two things here now. One is damage control, the other is the issue of the need to come out. Well, first, try to not let this blow influence your resolve or your will to come out. As far as damage control is concerned, I always say that you need always be truthful. So, in your place, I would go to that friend and let him know how hurtful his reaction was. You can tell him that you were really interested and wanted to help, wanted to be open and accepting of him (which is true) and that you wanted to have a private talk. So his making fun of your openness and readiness to talk to him was not very friendly. And regarding the coming out process.. well, considering what a loud mouth this one is, maybe he's not the best for the start Although, who knows. In any case, don't let this make you too much weary. But yeah, thumbs up for having the courage to get yourself in that situation. You know, courage-wise, you did come out. You crossed the line of terror, when you decide to tell. It's just that he shut you down
Haha ya I mean I don't think he knew any better. He's a really nice guy! I dunno I just thought this would be easier! And the problem is that the group I hang with is a church youth group... So while they do all care about me idk about how they would all react. Especially their parents... And I'm feeling fine, kind of that feeling after an adrenaline rush. Like I can't believe what just happened! I thought for sure he was bi, and that he maybe even liked me! I feel like I'm fine I just George wind knocked out of me haha. I mean as for resolve to come out, idk who else I could work up the strength to come out to! Plus it will defiantly take a little while after this incident. Thanks for the advice!
