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Baby steps

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by Monocle, Mar 28, 2013.

  1. Monocle

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    So! When I first joined this forum a week or so ago, I had recently come out to some members of my family...sorta. I was drunk (not as drunk as I was pretending to be, though) and I made some rather dubious comments about Mardi Gras and strippers :lol: in the hopes that my sis would catch onto my not-so-subtle hints. It worked!

    Of course, I've always dropped hints about this, tried to make it obvious without saying it. I've had a poster of a half-naked woman on my wall since I was thirteen, everyone knows how unenthused I am about boys, my Facebook is constantly flooded with LGBT rights issues... yeah. So, it wasn't unusual at all when I changed my profile pic to the red and pink equals sign for the Prop 8/DOMA business, or kept people updated on the proceedings or whatever.

    BUT! This time my (gay) sister-in-law posted something and in the comments, I finally admitted it!!! I feel so awesome!!! I talked about how I struggled growing up, how I prayed "God, please, don't make me a lesbian" as a child, and I referred to LGBT people as "us" and how we have to change the world so kids don't have to go through what we went through.

    I feel so relieved!!! I mean, it's a small step and I know that, but the comment was public, literally ANYONE can read it.

    And a guy friend of mine texted me yesterday or the day before, he asked me out of the blue why sex was awkward for me (apparently he had a chat with his female cousin, who is also my friend...we had a little talk about how awful my sexual experiences have been LOL, and I said something to the effect of "I'm not really into dudes"). I told him that I'm probably gay.

    And my uncle called last night and asked if I had a boyfriend, I said no, so he asked if I had a girlfriend and I said no. But with a boyfriend I was, like, emphatic about it and with a girlfriend I was just stating the facts.

    It is getting easier and easier to say! (!) More and more people know!
     
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  2. Wolfie Charm

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    Yay, congrats!!! :grin:

    And the poster thing made me realize a lot more know/suspect than I think! Once I was asked about what guys I find hot, and who I have on my walls. I didn’t want to answer in the restaurant/in front of parent/parent sig. other so said nothing (which was true at the time) and then my mom answered the question and said I had posters of the strong independent women type. Never really dawned on me until recently that’s been a major clue lol. I think the open hints is the best way for coming out. Again, congratulations!
     
  3. LD579

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    Congrats! Sounds like quite a bit of progress on your part. =) Perhaps you'd like to celebrate like this gentleman here —> :beer: ?