So i finally came out last night to my brother. he is just about 2 years older than me. He was just sat watching me gaming, and he just blurted out: When are you getting a girlfriend? I didnt know what to say as i hadn't had a girlfriend before, i had had 2 sexual encounters with guys but not a relationship. I just sat silent and didnt know what to say, and he just said: Are you gay or something? because you can tell me you know. So i just told him, i said yes, i am, does it make a difference? He said: well i dont really like gay people, but your my little brother so i love you no matter what. He did try to persuade me otherwise, saying things like, why dont you watch some straight porn, and, how can i know if ive never slept with a woman? I just told him i find women pretty revolting in a sexual way. (For the record i really dislike anal sex aswell) I can find women pretty, or beautiful, but im never attracted to them. So then he just went quiet and we havent mentioned it since, although i asked him not to tell anyone, as i live with my dad at the moment and he is extremely homophobic, he is also racist and misogynistic, so i dont want to come out to everyone until i can support myself financially. I dont know wether to consider this to be a good or bad experience, since it was pretty awkward, but atleast he didnt react badly. Next target: Sister - but i suspect that she already knows, as we are pretty close. Thanks for reading :icon_bigg
This turned out well, I see! . Give it some time for him to think things out and maybe he won't try to persuade you or say stuff like "that's disgusting, but _____". Naw mean?
Yea Elpana, i just dont think he is used to it, he is 21, always had lots of girlfriends, and now he is a dad, and he dosent watch much tv because he is always out, so i just dont think he has been exposed to gay people much. The main reason he dislikes is because a gay person attempted to get him fired at his last workplace. But its a bit ignorant to tar all gay people because of a bad experience with one. I really expect my sister to take it much better, she has a lesbian friend who she has been friends with since junior school. I should have told her first really, but i wasnt planning on telling anyone yet, because of my situation, but when my brother outright asked, i didnt want to lie to him.
