ok i know i sent the request to get deleted yesterday, and i had to wait till' yesterday for my account to be deleted. i thought it would've been gone by now but i guess not --start-- ok, well i have no antivirus thing on my computer so i get A LOT of pop ups most are porn {straight/gay/lesbian} and well i guess my dad saw them in the past week so today {like 1 hour ago} he called me and told me about the gay ones only i didnt really understand what he was telling me so i just told him "i don't know" so i could get away. then i realized he was asking me if i liked girls or guys it was kinda to late to go back since i knew he wouldnt believe me so i just stayed quiet. at this point he got really mad, he just stopped looking at me and looked around. my little brother was there and he looked at him and said "that's my son after he said that i just went to my room and you can probably guess, i cried then my mom came and asked me what was going on and i asked her if my dad didnt tell her and she started crying and asked me why i told him that she told me to go back and tell him i meant something else because things would get worse if he knew it was true so i went back and told my dad the reason i was saying "i dont know" was because i didn't understand him {which was true} and i also told him we had no virus protection and that's how he kept seeing all those pop ups he kinda calmed down and tomorrow im gonna have to talk to him about it all and tell him to not think im gay. i know its a lie but i don't want my family to be destroyed like this. so im really scared for tomorrow and i hope it all goes well. --finish-- but out of all that, at least i came out to my mom and sister~ and im glad my account didn't get deleted. i came back because this is the only site i know where i can post this and i feel more at home here. :] i still don't want tomorrow to come <____>
(*hug*) If you are not ready to come out to your dad then don't. This is your life and your decision to make. At least your mum knows and is supporting you. If you feel you need to tell a white lie to your dad well do it, you are not hurting anyone. Of course it is better not to lie but we don't live in a perfect world and sometimes the moment isn't right for the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Could your mum not talk to your dad about what he saw on the internet? Is your dad really homophobic or is he just trying to get a straight answer out of you? Only you, and your mum can know this but it might be a possibility, no? It is very brave of you to talk to your dad tomorrow. I will be thinking of you and hoping all goes well. Do you know what you are going to say to him? Have you talked it through with your mum?
I'm sorry this happened with your dad, but well done on coming out to your mum and sister! It's a huge achievement. Also, for the lack of antivirus, you could install a free one. For example, AVG Free: http://free.grisoft.com/ Well done again!
I hope you decide not to delete your account. It sounds like you might need to stick around. Good luck talking to your Dad.
well i talked to him about it, and i convinced him that im still straight. :] But when i see all these threads that people come out, they all feel so happy. And im not >.< I feel really weird knowing that my mom and my sister know i like guys. I feel so uncomfortable, ive stopped eating normally. :/
Sorry to hear you're feeling unhappy and well done for coming out to your mother. You shouldn't feel bad because everybody is happy at coming out to their parents. As Louise said, now may not be the right time to tell your dad. You feel bad because you didn't tell him the truth. All through life, you have to decide that sometimes a lie is the only solution. That's what you've done here. You've decided (and rightly) that now is not the time to tell your dad. Do you think you would have really felt as happy as the other posters had you told him at this point in time? Find out what your dad thinks of gays, then take it from there. Only you can decide when the time is right. Don't let the happiness of other posters rush you. Good luck and PLEASE don't delete your account.
Coming out to the people closest to you does feel pretty weird; 'they know The Secret' now. It felt so surreal for me. I'm glad your mother and sister know now and that they are fine with it and support you, I hope someday you father will realize that and accept you for who you are too (*hug*)
i dont think i ever plan on telling my dad :/ im pretty sure he's against it all my mom's been asking me is about this girl at school i told her about. i know she wants me to go out with girls but i even feel uncomfortable talking about that D: my sister's really cool about it but we haven't talked about it. if we near the subject, i change it. >__> at least i told her about this site so now i dont have to sneak on oh and i wont be deleting now n_n thanks for all the support, i feel way better
It sounds like you'll need this site. I'm assuming you're in Mexico... It doesn't really say in your profile here. I know some cultures aren't as accepting as others. While your mom knows - it sounds like she'd in denial. You'll have to just let her get used to the idea. An no - you're dad may never accept that you're gay. But that doesn't mean that you can never be out and that you'll always have to keep it a secret. Eventually, when you can have a little more independance, you can live an authentic life and it will be your dad's problem if he can't accept it - not yours. Good luck.
Actually i live in the U.S. :] Yeah i'm pretty sure my mom still doesn't want to accept it but oh well. I still don't think i'll ever come out to my dad >_>;; He talks bad about Gays in a way but he never actually says he hates them. But all of this actually helped me :] Thanks to everyone~
Sexiican hang in . Coming out is a process. It can take time. The rest of it will happen when you're more comfortable with who you are. You can be proud of yourself.
I think you feel uncomfortable because your unsure of the path thats instore for you. It'll be an uneasy road for a little bit until you accept it more. Heck I'm still dealing with this and i've known since i was 13... heh... we all come out at our own pace. But talking about it is even worse. Every time I tried to talk about it it always came out as giberish and I never got my point across usually ended up changing the topic. Even now I find it odd to talk to my mom(I told her in January). But it is getting easier. So I'm sure it'll become easier for you too. I wish you the best of luck though. PS: Your dad may act tough but as someone around here said they usually change their opions once they have a LGBT child. I'm with you though I want to tell my dad but can't.
